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writes:Facts and dates these thing occurred: June 9th- ectopic pregnancy August 17th- He went back to his hometown September 1st- October 12th guy number 2 who went back to his baby mamma October 13th- I slept with guy number 3 twiceHeyy cupids I have made a HUGE mistake within 2 weeks. Longstory short, I had a friends with benifits guy, we were friends for a bit and things led to another to the point where I have got pregnant from him.Unfortunately at the time we found out about the pregnancy i/we were in the middle of a miscarriage. We found out disturbingly, we were having sex, and i bled, the bleeding was not stopping, so we knew there was something wrong, so he called an ambulance and i got rushed to the hospitalThe doctors than took some tests and rushed me to another hospital for an internal ultrasound, which than led to them finding out that i was in the first trimester of my pregnancy. I than got rushed back to the first hospital to find out why i was miscarriaging and they told me it was an ectopic miscarriage, and that there were some risks, along with the fact that i was haemmoraging. I almost died while going through the misscarriage, i bled for so long.The doctors couldnt stop the bleeding till they stuffed cotton material up inside me to try and stop the bleeding. It was very scary, very life threatening, and i never would wish it upon anyone. So when my friends with benefits guy found out i was pregnant, he was worried, confused, didnt know what to say or do. He left a month and a half after my miscarriage to go back to his hometown to figure stuff out. We decided to date, as it felt like we were in the first place, we keep contact with each other every day to this day, and he's thinking about comming back home, but I've made a huge mistake and i dont know what im going to do. I feel like i'm a mess. After He left, on Sept 1st, ive gotten a text from a friend, a guy friend, we started flirting, and it grew to us liking each other, and we made out, held hands, went out to lunch/supper, hungout, It continued until October 12th, The day he told me he loved me, but that night, he went back to his ex who previously he left for me. He has a baby boy with the girl and i was friends with her.I felt bad, but with emotions i couldnt help how i felt, and either could he. BUT he did go back to her nd i dont blame him, yeah sure i can be mad because he told me he loved me and than went back to her, but he has a child with her, im not going to stand in the way of that.While my emotions were and are all over the place, i made another mistake ;/ one i wish i could forget, dont get me wrong it was good but didnt feel right. But i slept with another guy twice in 1 night... Without a condom..., Im not on birth control, im not on anything.., I'm not sure what i should do because i told the guy i really think i do Love ( first guy- miscarriages father)about the second guy ( he told me he loved me but went back to his baby mamma), i told him everything, because i didnt want to hide it from him and lose him,but i told him that today (October 14th 2012) and he told me not to stress out, everything was going to be ok, But he also told me to just not to do it again, but how am i suppose to tell him about the last guy... like what if i get pregnant from him?Im a lost girl losing herself.If this makes any sence i know its confusing, but i could really use the help and advice.Thankyou for reading ! :)
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reader, Aunty Audrey  +, writes (17 October 2012):
 I suggest that you seek out some counselling as you are on a path of destruction that will ruin your self esteem and affect your long term future. not to mention get you a 'name' around town as an easy woman and you do not need that.
And see your doctor about long term birth control immediately as if you are prone to ectopic pregnancies these are life threatening.
Your Doctor can also discuss possible signs that you are depressed. Tell the Doctor everything.
You are putting yourself at risk if you continue this lifestyle. And putting your health at risk too.
AIDS and HIV life threatening if you meet up with a new partner and are unaware that he has these serious conditions.
Counselling may uncover why your self esteem is so low that you clutch at straws and think each new man will be important in your life.
Get help now before you become overwhelmed by the sheer number of men who have used you.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (15 October 2012):
 First of, I'm sorry about the miscarriage. That can be a rather emotional and traumatic experience even if you didn't plan of being pregnant or having a child now.
The thing is, you can SCREW away your pain.
And GET YOURSELF to the doctor and get on birth-control. You can not play Russian Roulette with your body this way, that is ridiculous. That doesn't mean that you should have sex without a condom though.
I suggest you talk to your doctor and get a referral to a counselor. You need to deal with the loss.
And STOP dating for a while. That even goes for the guy who "fled" home instead of taking responsibility. You need to focus on you.
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