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writes:Hello. Im a gal of 18. it has been an year since i have been in a relationship with my bf. i love him wholeheartedly .everythings going well but a mistake of mine ruined evrything.I met a guy online .Soon we become good friends.But what happened exctly yesterday night that we have a sex chat.I enjoyed it yesterday.But tody im feelingg soo much of guilt ,what the hell i did with myself that in spite of having a bf i become horny with a strnger.I m in a dilemma and guilt.Should i tell my bf about these things but how?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2012): -You may be young, and he may be just a boyfriend, but what you do now will shape your morals and your character.You consented to an exclusive relationship, and you did some shady behavior.Either 1. break up with him and don't tell him what you did.Or,2. tell him what you did and beg for forgiveness.By breaking up with him and not telling him, you set him free from someone that would do stuff like that behind his back without crushing him. By telling him and asking for forgiveness, you are being accountable for your actions and giving him a choice as to whether or not he wants to forgive you and continue seeing you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2012): You wouldn't be a very honest girlfriend if you didn't tell him, and what's to stop you from doing It again if you manage to live with the guilt of keeping this from him this time?
I think you should tell him. He has a right to know what his girlfriend has been up to behind his back, and to make a decision based on what you've done.
I would imagine you don't like the thought of your boyfriend doing something like this and keeping it from you? Surely it would bring into question just how much he values you and the relationship wouldn't it?
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reader, Yos  +, writes (15 October 2012):
 I suggest not, it will really freak him out.
Instead: delete all contacts with this guy. Delete the chat records, remove him from address books, de-friend him, etc.
Next focus on how guilty you feel now: that is your lesson. Never do it again: if you are ever tempted remember how you feel now.
Then last of all, forgive yourself and focus on having a healthy relationship with your boyfriend.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (15 October 2012):
 Imaginary sex isn't lethal it's almost "normal" so I don't think sharing the experience would help. If you want to be rid of the guilt then be rid of it but spreading the word will only hurt the ones you say tou love. Now if you'd actually gone to the park and performed sex then maybe but it seems to be vapor to me.
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reader, doreenj7  +, writes (15 October 2012):
I would not tell him. He is just a boyfriend. If you need to go outside of the relationship than maybe it would be best to stay single and enjoy your teen years. Have fun now then settle down later.....
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