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30-35,
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writes:Hi,There's this guy that I talk to pretty often. I just met him in university and he's in his mid twenties and I'm 18. I've had a bit of a crush on him even though the only times we see each other are during labs because he's always my partner or sometimes we sit together during lectures in this one class we have in common. Sometimes we skype call, email, message each other but we haven't hung out outside class though we have talked quite a bit. :( I haven't had the courage to ask him to go hang out anywhere, and he's always really busy with his conferences, master's work, thesis, sports, school, job etc. He's out of the country right now for a presentation but he'll be coming back in two days. The thing is it's his birthday on Saturday and I really want to hang out with him or do something for his birthday. He always helps me out with even the smallest things and he's such a busy guy I just wish I could spend sometime with him not on campus. However, don't want to seem awkward or weird because a) he never told me his birthday, it's just on Facebook and b) we've never hung out outside school before. I'm not sure how to get invited if he's doing something or ask him to go somewhere.. I'm not quite sure how to word my question but .. um.. how can I suggest or hint to him that I want to spend time with him outside class? His birthday is coming up and I suppose that's an opportunity in itself to spend time with him but I'm not quite sure how to hint to him that I want to spend time with him on that day without seeming really strange as if I'm inviting myself.. Thank you in advance :) I really hope someone can help ^^
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reader, makram  +, writes (15 October 2012):
u are right about something that u dont want him to feel awkward on his b day but what u r wrong about is not letting him feel that u have a crush on him eventually he will find out.
now let's focus about ur problem. first to let him know that u know his b day, call him on Skype and tell him : did u see the new birthday app on fb- if u didn't see it look it up it shows birthdays on a year calendar- after that tell him: "it showed me something u never told me" he is obviously gonna think that it showed u his birthday :P anw tell him after that: "why didn't u ever mention an important day like that before? u made me really mad that i had to find out from fb" his answer is gonna be something like: "i don't like these types of occasions" or "i didn't want to make a big deal out of it" etc.... if that was similar to his answer that means he is showing no interest or a small possibility is that he is actually telling the truth:P then u have to make a move if u really want to go out with him and change his mind. so tell him i think that it is a very important day and we have to celebrate i think then he will not disagree with u i mean u practically asked him out. so there u go that's a date or close to a date. but if he answers on the question u asked: why didn't u tell me.....about bday " by something like this: "why, did u get me a present :)" or "it is a very important day" like something positive that will actually make u smile- a happy smile real happy smile not a fake one - then u know that he is showing some interest so u have to not let him down and tell him ok i'll make plans for ur bday or something like that ok?
I hope u liked it i know it is big but i just wrote the whole plan here sis :P so gd luck and have fun on ur date or hang out or whatever it turns out to be :) remember that it is all about courage and a few feelings
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