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*iamondshards
writes:I became friends with a guy about five months ago; most of his other friends like me enough and others I'm probably indifferent to, which I have no huge problems with. The girl he hangs out with during classes and after them too has a mixed behaviour toward me: she doesn't really talk to me, even if I ask her things directly she replies curtly, mostly just acknowledging my presence with a nod and just doesn't seem fond of me in any way. Now, she is not his girlfriend and I really, really don't get any romantic vibe among them- so I don't think she can be jealous of me that way. She is usually very reserved, aloof and rarely even talks to anyone, 'cept for friends she's known for several years, so it could be just the way she is with people she just met (I've started seeing her about two months ago). In addition to this, she has shown some signs of liking me every now and then, such as offering me her meal, asking me if we were going to see each other afterwards as we parted when my friend was there and we had fought etc. So...does she really dislike me or am I just blowing this out of proportion? Also, am I doing the right thing by trying to be warm toward her, greeting her and attempting to have conversations or am I just bothering her?
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reader, diamondshards +, writes (12 December 2011):
diamondshards is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDefinitely was, debating on whether I still am now due to other issues that have nothing to do with this girl.
I think that she's possessive of him because he's one of the few people she talks freely to- so that could be it. Maybe a little bit of this and her own nature and attitude toward people.
I will wait and see anyway. She sort of joked with me today too, so who knows.
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reader, synchrohobbit  +, writes (12 December 2011):
 Are you at all interested in this boy romantically? Even if she is not, she still may be protecting him somewhat or, unfortunately, has just decided that no one can have him. I suspect, however, she is just a little shy and that is how she interacts with new people. I have become more aware lately that this is exactly what I do with new people, which is intimidating and makes me come across as more of a bitch than I am. Just give her time.
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