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writes:Hi everyone.Well this is something I dont really have anyone to talk to about, normally id speak to my mum but she isnt very open to sex talks, and makes it very uncomfortable.Well Im almost 21 and Im still a virgin not because Im religious but because I want to be with someone that isnt going to be a two week relationship type deal. The problem is Im fighting a battle with my hormones. Im always horny and masturbate three times a day, I dont know what to do a part of me feels like this would stop if I just had sex, sometimes I feel like just asking someone to just sleep with me.I dont want to do that and I wont but its harder to fight that part of myself what do I do?
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (9 December 2011):
 No, please don't. I waited until I was 20 as well, and lost it to my boyfriend. We're still together going strong.
Don't waste it when you've come so far. Maybe you could try buying a toy? Sex can be all its cracked up to be, but only if it's with the right person. If it's with some random, there's a high chance you won't enjoy it and will question waiting so long for something so mediocre.
Just don't do it. It's worth waiting, trust me.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (8 December 2011):
 Surrender to the enemy.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (8 December 2011):
 I know your not religious, but you can take the example of religious teens. They find lots of outside activities, groups, clubs and hobbies. Anything that keeps them in public and keeps them out of the house. Exercise will also help, it will regulate your emotions and hormones, and also reduce some of the sexual energy you have inside you. Basically go out lots and move your body so your too tired to concentrate on sex so much.Virginity in itself isn't important (in my humble opinion) but what is important is finding the right person to share your body with. Picking up anyone (at your age and with your morality) won't be that great and will leave you feeling dirty, angry and upset with yourself.Masturbation is fine, but you don't want to spend all your day doing that. Try hard to find other activities, especially ones that mix boys and girls together, and hopefully you'll find someone nice who shares your interests and your sex free period will come to an end.PS: It might not stop if you just pick a stranger. For many women sex without some kind of love or kindness leaves them feeling empty and still horny. It's more than sex you need.
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reader, Jjim  +, writes (8 December 2011):
You ought to wait, if you've been saving yourself for this long why would you throw away your virginity so easily. Most girls these days are easy, you should be proud that you've had the will power to wait this long, so dont throw it away by just giving up. I wish my girlfriend was a virgin when i met her.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (8 December 2011):
 It's normal to go through phases of this, masturbation is your friend here. You don't want to lose your virginity just in the hopes of finding satisfaction, especially when I've never heard of a woman having an orgasm her first or even second time.
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