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writes:I hate dancing. I mean REALLY HATE IT lol. Its embarrassing and boring. And everyone else loves it, which makes me feel awful for dissappointing my friends, and i just end up hating dancing even more. Thing is, i keep hearing about how important dancing is for pulling girls. Like its something you just CANT not do, if you dont do it, thats it, your single for life. Is this true? What do peo ple think? Girls inparticular lol :) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2011): OP dancing is the same with anything. If you're really good at something that is obvious then girls will be impressed simple as that.It's just that dancing has been part of our mating rituals since the very beginning of our species.In a dark, loud club being a great dancer does make you stand out from the crowd of short haired, shirt and jeans wearing generic guys. But it's not the only thing that does.I wasn't a great dancer either but I did learn after I discovered that Bruce Lee used dancing to improve certain aspects of his fighting technique. I also discovered a lot of girls view good dancers as being better in bed which can be true. Dancing is an overt display of good cadence, balance, rhythm, timing, muscle coordination, musculature and general fitness. Dancing is just a display of all these positive physical traits, that's not to say you can apply those to sex or that being a non-dancer means you don't have these but the fact remains there is a better chance. But most of all generally speaking, girls love to dance and being able to dance with them and dance well heightens their enjoyment and makes you far more appealing than the guy who is standing there at the bar watching them, or the guy who is awkwardly shuffling on the dance floor.OP dancing with a girl and doing it well is a very sensual experience, if you're good then you can open a lot of doors by being given early access to stimulate them physically in the guise of dancing. Dancing is a way of non-verbally impressing a girl that can be far more rewarding and easier than any chat up is, especially when that chat up involves you competing with the noise level in the club and having to spit out a conversation.To recap it's not necessary but it gives you a huge advantage in clubs if you can. You can go further while dancing with a girl than through simple conversation because you can get her really close and get very physical. You can gauge her interest by how close she will let you get and being good at dancing means you may never need even say a word before you find yourself getting it on with a girl.The only people that don't like dancing are the ones who can't. Simple as that and almost everyone can learn it's not an art it's a craft and it can be perfected through practice.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (8 December 2011):
 Necessary, not in the least, but it could be beneficial to learn. Many women equate your dance moves to how you'll be in the sack. Impress her on the dance floor and she'll be thinking about you in a new light.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 December 2011):
 AT least learn to slow dance.... you will need that.. girls can dance with girlfriends fast.. but slow dancing you wanna snuggle up to your boy.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2011): Bruce Lee could ballroom dance.It will improve your balance and co-ordination.That said, it appears what bothers you is being embarrassed. years ago a much older friend said to me 'never be afraid to make a fool out of yourself'. what he meant by this was don't avoid doing some activity because you don't want to appear foolish.why miss out on experiences cos you worry about something that might not be happening? you may find that no-one is interested in watching you and they have no interest in you what so ever.if nothing else, by joining in and dancing you will be letting your dance partner know that you are confident and at ease with yourself.so by all means stand around on the edges, but you are not saving yourself embarrassment cos people wont remember you, cos you were sat somewhere in the shadows hoping for someone to discover you there rather than 'getting in amongst it'.best of luck
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (8 December 2011):
 Not single for life, but there are certain girls you wouldn't meet/attract.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (8 December 2011):
 I LOVE dancing, so I couldn't date you.. but of course not EVERYBODY likes it. People are all different, I know loads of people who can't dance and avoid it.Yep, girls who dance want to dance close with a guy, but if you can't dance, you can find somewhere to sit down and talk with them. If they like you enough, then it won't bother them at all. Loads of girls hate dancing, they are usually found near the walls, in the kitchen or outside sitting down and just taking fresh air. Nothing wrong with them, they is nice, but they just feel like you do, and can't be bothered to lie and put in a performance.Most girls won't really care as dancing isn't their favourite hobby, it's just something they do when they go out, and they'd much rather talk to a nice guy and make him their boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2011): i HATE dancing, and im a girl! all of my friends love to do it, i can't dance and i hate being put on the spot, even though everyone else is doing it..i just feel weird..so i chose NOT to dance...pretty sad. i don't think its important at all simply because id rather NOT dance LOL....so don't worry about it becuase its not that big of a deal..for most normal headed girls lol
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (8 December 2011):
 I won't dance, don't ask me...
I won't dance, don't ask me...
If you can't or won't dance, that is part of the package. She can accept that or not. I wouldn't recommend that you change just because she would prefer you to dance. I wouldn't recommend it to her either.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (8 December 2011):
I used to have a bf who was a professional dancer and he was nice enough to teach me some things, but I still prefer sitting on a (heated) terrace sipping a nice drink, or standing at the bar of a nice cosy pub with some background music or a live band.
My boyfriend being a dancer was a bonus in the way that he was pretty much good at any sport and would therefore easily tag along when I wanted to do some outdoor stuff. Other than that I couldn't care less.
Basically, when your preferred type of girls start nearing 20, they will probably lose interest in going to places where there's a lot of dancing going on. Also, save yourself the trouble and stop visiting places where you'll likely end up in an awkward situation that involves dancing.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (7 December 2011):
 In my dating experience, most guys CANNOT dance. In the rarity they can actually bust out some moves, (I'm not talking the cheesy sprinkler) then that earns major points in my book. Guys just basically stand there letting the girl gyrate her rear on him..more or less dry humping on the dance floor.
It's not important at all, if you don't want to or can't dance. You can just as easily pull a girl from the bar and chat her up..than having to go out of your comfort zone onto the dance floor.
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reader, Elydiese +, writes (7 December 2011):
It really doesnt matter, i think what matters is that if he cant dance he can at least have fun with it and have a laugh at his own expense which is always charming and funny at the same time
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (7 December 2011):
 At the moment you are still in teenager mode, where clubs and dancing are the "cool" thing to do. The people who think you will be single for life if you don't do these things are pretty childish in my view.
Once you have grown out of that kind of thing, you will realise it REALLY does not matter at all.
I personally cant stand dancing at clubs either and I certainly wouldn't want to date a man who wanted to go to places like that.
Be proud of your own beliefs, just because you don't like something doesnt make you odd or boring. You just have different tastes to your friends. Nothing wrong with that!
Maybe find some new friends who think more like you, and socialise with them instead? There are many other things to do in life, and other places to socialise. Maybe it is time to start doing what YOU want :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2011): my bf wont dance but he does smooch me when the soft music plays. he never minds me dancing and i never see any problem.
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reader, diamondshards  +, writes (7 December 2011):
I don't think it is necessary at all. I hate dancing -well, modern club dancing at least- myself, and if that is a dealbreaker to someone, then it's their loss, not mine.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (7 December 2011):
 I'm a guy who sez if you want to make time with the ladies you're 'way better off if you drop your childish-sounding aversion to dance and LEARN to do so .... WELL .... 'cuz there's no better way to meet and make time with the ladies than by DANCING with them!!!!!
P.S. If YOU won't dance with 'em, then I WILL..... and watch who takes one home at the end of the evening... 'Nuff said!!!!!
Good luck, leadfoot.....
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