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writes: Why do people have the need to stare? Not just take a quick look or glance, but flat out stare. I see people doing this all the time when I'm out in public, particularly to me. Now you might think this is just all in my mind and that I'm imagining these things but I know that I'm being stared at. It's not hard to notice when some is looking directly at you while their eyes follow as you move. Then you might say that it's the way I look or act that is attracting the attention, but this shouldn't be the reason either. I look like the average person, not too ugly but not too beautiful either. I dress like the average person, jeans, t-shirt, etc, in normal colors. I walk like the average person, nothing to crazy or unusual that would draw attention. And these people don't just stare with a neutral facial expression, they look as if they think I'm the biggest mistake of the human race. I have no idea what could drive someone to look at a complete stranger with that kind of expression. What do you think, what is going on? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2011): and also.check your own xpression when YOU NOTICE THEM LOOKING AT YOU!..now THAT may give you some insight into THEIR EXPRESSION.since you feel negative about the 'stares' you might be giving them (without your own knowledge) an angry/hurt/some sorta negative look which could be bringing that expression on them like "big deal i looked at you!" my mother is very very expressive and unknowingly expresses her displeasure to ppl in her facial expressions when she's not supposed to!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2011): i used to think the same as you.but then later i observed when i caught myself looking at people that sometimes even among average people there are some who have something CATCHY about them ..something which cannot always be described!maybe you have sharp features?or a perfect nose?or flawless skin?i hate my own hair and tend to keep noticing people with silky flowy hair!no matter how "normal" they are i end up unconsciously staring at them for a while !i'm sorry,but " they look as if they think I'm the biggest mistake of the human race."??i don't at all think that's true.chill if they thought so there might be a mob of people surrounding you watching you open mouthed and u'll be part of the next circus.it's purely you're negative feeling.many people feel that way,even some of my friends tell me "why on earth did the lady give me that look?'' while in reality the lady would have had that expression all along..before and after looking at her!be confidant and really, don't bother, there are loads of people who are upset cos they aren't noticed!you must be more attractive than you think.no one needs to be extraordinarily beautiful to be given a second glance ,like i said it could be something catchy about you..also,if you are consciously noticing people staring at you,you'll tend to look back at them while tracing their eyes on you and obviously that would glue their eyes on you cos its human, when someone gives you back the eye-contact or attention.so try to ignore and look away :)
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reader, MikeEa1  +, writes (8 December 2011):
 people are looking for things in their lives. they might be looking at you because they find you attractive or they see something in your eyes. don't feel negative about it unless you know something more than you're telling us. sometimes men will stare because they find you attractice, maybe not all of you but some aspect. learn to live with it and try and find out what it is and then capitalise on it.
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reader, Soul Writer  +, writes (7 December 2011):
 Hmmm...this is quite peculiar. Do you happen to have a low self esteem? (if you don't mind my asking) I think a person tends to notice looks/stares more if they aren't very confident. Perhaps they've seen you somewhere, or maybe you've made eye contact first. I wouldn't automatically assume that there's something wrong with you. Maybe they are just curious, or maybe they aren't looking at you at all!
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