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writes:Hello everyone, I am a 26 yr old female who is considering dating a very nice mature 37 yr old male. He is divorced with two older children and I am a mature 26 yr old looking to settle down with a mature man. I have never dated anyone more than 2 yrs older than me but have always found the guys to be very immature for the most part. Is this too much of an age gap??? Please send me your thoughts! thanks :)
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (8 December 2011):
 The age gap is eleven years. I have seen gaps much wider than that one. I don't think it would be a problem, in itself.
On the other hand, I would encourage you to take very seriously the advice by Perhapsnot. The real question should not be the age gap, but whether you can function with someone who is not as free to fly as you.
The situation would be very different if he did not have children.
This is not to say that people with children should not date. This is to say that, somehow, he is not in the same place where you are.
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reader, PerhapsNot  +, writes (8 December 2011):
 A lot of women, who date or want to date older men, express that they are mature. From what I have observed, they rarely are as mature as they think. I think the better question is: are you ready to settle down with a man, who has two children that he will always have to put before you? You will soon realize why divorced men with children and ex-wives are considered too much baggage by singles without children and previous marriages.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 December 2011):
 I think it's fine. When I was 37 my boyfriend was 24.
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reader, 1sunshine +, writes (8 December 2011):
 No :) It sounds like you are both mature adults. I do not believe age really matters especially when you are older. I am a 40 y.o. woman dating a 33 y.o. man. It's the best relationship I have ever been in & we are really happy. So, go for it & see where it takes you! ** Good luck to you :D
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reader, Shadow Rose +, writes (8 December 2011):
 It's only too much if it's a legality issue :)
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reader, Soul Writer +, writes (7 December 2011):
 One of the best pieces of advice that I've ever received is that "age is just a number". I, too, prefer the more mature people. That is merely a personal preference. Also, age doesn't matter quite as much as you continue to age. If you and he are comfortable with being in a relationship, then I don't see why you couldn't.
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