He's something special, except for his ex

A female age 30-35, *b89 writes:

Here is my situation. In the summer my best friend, had her good guy friend and me meet. We all went out together one night, and me and him hit it off right from the start. We started talking about a week after and are now "seeing" each other, so its been about 3 months. I had just gotten out of a 1 1/2 relationship upon meeting him, so I wasn't looking for a serious relationship then, and am still not looking for that at the moment. We aren't boyfriend and girlfriend,but I love what we have, which is a relaxed relationship and we are taking it slow, but there is one huge obstacle that I just can't ignore. His ex. He had dated his ex for about 3 years, she cheated on him, broke his heart..the whole 9 yards. They still fooled a little bit after that because I think he was in denial of knowing she cheated. Its been about a year and a few months since they "officially" broke up after she cheated, but now shes calling him/texting him begging for him back telling him she made a huge mistake and has figured it all out now and loves him. He is honest with me and tells me that sometimes it crosses his mind that maybe she has changed but knows that it could never work if he got back with her because he'd always be thinking she was cheating and the trust is not there anymore. He assures me I have nothing to worry about. When I ask if he answers her texts he told me he has sometimes because she pulls the "im depressed and lonely I need someone to talk to" and because hes kind person he'll answer her, and then she'll all of a sudden start talking about how she wants him and basically manipulates him into getting into a conversation with her. I am so into him, he treats me so well when we are together and I can tell we have something special, but its like theres this barricade between us that won't let us just fall into each other and I feel that thats his ex. I haven't felt this way for someone in such a long time and I am terrified. It is causing a huge obstacle and we are not exactly at the level where I can say "its either me or her" we are long distance at the moment (he goes to school about 2 hours away) which makes it even harder because who knows if hes calling and chatting her up when I leave from seeing him. I trust him, and I know he tells me the truth, and I am 100% sure he has strong feelings for me, but I just can't let go of how I think he misses his ex and how I'll just look like an idiot if he winds up leaving me for her. I dont want to be impulsive and end it because, I have found something special. Or should I? Thanks

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