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writes:My best friend's fiancée just told him she wants a break for no reason or she isn't giving one. this is completely killing my friend and I cant console him. they where together for 5 years and now this.does anyone have suggestions how I can help him
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reader, eek +, writes (7 December 2011):
 Im sorry to say i agree with the others. It sounds like she might be wanting to try someone else.
He needs to talk to her and find the reason. Then once he knows he can decide if he wants to wait or let her go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2011): Is this a break that includes being able to see other people or not? Your friend has the right to know the answer to that question.
If she won't agree to "no seeing other people" then I'll bet she already has someone else in mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2011): "I want to take a break"
translation - I am seeing or want to see someone else.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (7 December 2011):
 Well, in my book, she owes him an explanation.
There isn't much YOU can do, but help him work through it and help him figure out what HE wants.
Personally, I don't believe in breaks. They have been together 5 years so by now they should BOTH know if THIS is what they want or not. A break doesn't help.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (7 December 2011):
 This has come to him as a huge shock because he never saw this coming, so it is no surprise that he is taking it bad. He is probably very upset and angry at the moment, but most off all confused because he never saw a problem when obviously she did.
There really is not a lot that you can do expect to show him that you are there for him. Organise nights where you get to hang out with him and show him that you are there for him to take his mind of things. Tell him you are there to listen if he needs to talk. But most of all try and have some fun as well as any thing else.
So just be a good friend, visit him loads and try and get him out of the house, if he is not ready to talk try and not force him just be there, believe me it will make a huge difference.
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