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writes:I am 21 years old and my husband is 38 years old he does not love my parents and he does not like me to help my family.so i want to divorce him . How can I get through this?please help me
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (8 December 2011):
 I’m sorry to hear this. Is your husband NOT happy about you helping your family (and by helping them what do you mean, emotionally, physically or financially?) Does he forbid you to help or just complain about it?
How long are you married?
Has this changed since you married?
A person does not have to love their in-laws but if they deserve it they should be respected and the relationship a spouse has with their parents should be honored and respected as well.
IF you are helping them to the point that your home life with your husband suffers then maybe he has a right to be upset? How does your helping them impact on your marriage?
I need more info before I can give better advice I’m sorry.
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reader, wanderlust92 +, writes (7 December 2011):
I think you may be jumping the gun a little. While I guess ideally you're supposed to love your in-laws as if they were your own parents, it basically never works out that way. It would be especially hard for your husband-- he's closer in age to your parents than he is to you! So I think its naive of you to expect him to love them.
That said, he definitely should have no say in whether YOU love your parents and when and how often you help them out. Have an honest, mature conversation with him about how important this is to you, without pointing fingers or laying blame. If he refuses to hear your point of view or to work out an acceptable compromise, then you might consider separation. Definitely talk it over with him first though, it shouldn't be hard to find a compromise that works for both of you.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (7 December 2011):
 You get a good and aggressive lawyer... file the divorce and tell the creep that you expect to leave the marriage with 1/2 the assets that the two of you have accumulated since your wedding day.....
What could be easier?????
Good luck....
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