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anonymous
writes:Hi everyone this is the story.I met this man in march he asked me out. I agreed. We saw each other maybe every two or three weeks. He lives six doors away from me. It has been like this since I have been patient with him, but it is starting to run out. Now he accused me of seeing someone a few weeks ago because each time I text him.He seems like he doesn't want me texting him he just texts one word answers.So I stopped for a while that's when he accused me of seeing someone, which I'm not. I asked him why he said its because my lights are always off on a night, but I'm a single mum, I work evenings and have to pick up from a babysitter after work.Then he had a go at me about not texting him often enough. So I started to text him once a day. He took a while to get back to me each time, but he did.I texted him on sunday, just asking how his weekend had been got no reply from him. Texted him yesterday asking how he was. Got no reply again.I'm not going to text him anymore until he texts me. What is going on with him? What do you think? thank you
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reader, soon567  +, writes (6 December 2011):
Listen to your guts. Just because someone isn't interested in the type of relationship you want doesn't mean they're a jerk or ass wipe. This guy is consistence as you pointed out, so why are you upset. If this guy isn't feeling you then why would you want more from him. I would accept a friendship or move on.
I doubt he was accusing you of dating someone else, but away to ease away from you.
You don't have to be in someone face 24/7 to want to be with them. We all need our own space.
When someone chase you, its more of a feeling they get as well as timing. Guys don't see a girl and auto chase.
Just text call and be together if you like or let it go. I would want to be with someone who is into me than not.
Don't toss a friendship because 'all or nothing' attitude. It could be a real friendship.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (6 December 2011):
 This guy doesn't sound like he's "worth" your time or efforts.... Give him up and find a nice guy friend.....
Good luck....
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 December 2011):
 he's stringing you along.
he's a jerk to be honest.
you live close enough that if he really was interested he'd be in your face nearly 24/7
I'd not text him.
I'd not worry about upsetting him
I'd not be so quick to jump when he calls
to be honest, he's not contributing meaningfully to your life... I'd ignore him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2011): HE is seeing someone else and you are either one of the many girls or an addition to his primary relationship. It sounds like you two are just dating, not exclusive, so he is being manipulative. I really wouldn't go out with him again.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 December 2011):
 He is being an ass wipe! Seems to me that he really isn't that into you. You have known him since March and only go out every 2-3 weeks? Seems more like a friendship then a budding relationship.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (6 December 2011):
 He is not interested in you and is playing games. That is what I think.
I say this so often on this website - men are very simple creatures. If they like a girl then they will chase her - they will be texting or calling, arranging dates and in general chasing the girl to ensure he gets to see her again. If he is not interested he will be slow to call or text, you wont see much of him and he will only arrange dates once in a blue moon.
Your guy is playing games with you and isnt really interested in you - otherwise he would be making much more of an effort with you. He is only asking if you are seeing other guys to mess with your head - it sounds like a case of he doesnt want you but he doesnt want anyone else to have you either.
Stop wasting your time on him and move on, end it once and for all. You have been seeing him for 9 months now and you are only seeing him once a fortnight/3 weeks, that is nowhere near enough to say this is going to ever develop into something more than casual sex. You live on the same road, it really cant be that hard for him to come and visit you therefore this simply is not good enough.
You can do a lot better, dont waste any more time on a guy that doesnt really care about you and is messing you around.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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