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writes:Okay I know this is a rather silly question, but the other night my gf cooked this dish that I hated. She is a tender woman and so I haven't told her yet. The next day she said she was quite pleased with the flavor.Any tips on gently telling her I didn't like the dish? :)I'm worried if I don't tell her it may become a staple!Thank you!(BTW it was a bulgur dish.) Reply to this Question
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (9 December 2011):
 Thanks for the tip.. gonna stick this one in me recipe book.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 December 2011):
 that sounds yummy but the raw eggs do scare me....
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want to thank everybody for their answers! I am impressed with all of them and that you all took this gustatory question seriously.She is not of Middle Eastern descent, and is otherwise an excellent cook.My mother was having dinner with us that night, and the next day I asked what she thought of the bulgur dish and she didn't like it either.I feel like I should post a recipe to thank you guys!Squire's Quick Chocolate Mousse1 (6 oz.) pkg. chocolate bits2 eggs3 tbsp. hot, strong coffee2 tbsp. rum or orange liqueur3/4 c. scalded milkPut everything in the blender and blend at high speed for 2 minutes. Pour into 4 individual ramekins. Chill for 8 hours or overnight. [Note: this is easy and delicious, but you should modify this recipe unless you have access to extremely safe eggs, since they aren't cooked.]
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 December 2011):
you need to tell her..... my bf is a picky eater and we are still navigating what I cook that he likes and does not like. I love Quinoa and he hates it. I made it once and he ATE it but had he NOT told me that he did not like it, I'd make it again... I am glad he told me he does not like it.
People are allowed to have different tastes.... I love chopped liver... most folks don't like it so I get it when I go out and don't cook it at home so it goes to waste...
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reader, Miamine +, writes (7 December 2011):
You report as over 40 and presently living in the USA.... good your not a kid, so you I can be truthful.
ALL MEN MUST LIKE WOMEN'S COOKING, NO MATTER IF IT'S CRAP.. it's the thing you must do to be called a gentleman. (smile)
You could pretend to be sick and throw up in the toilet, then you can tell her your allergic to that dish she cooked, even though IT TASTED WONDERFUL.
Or, every time she serves it, stick a finger in the corner of your eye, so tears will come. Then you say something like "baby, your so good to me, I'm getting emotional, but I really loved (insert name of nice food here) if you cook that I'll start laughing and I'll think I'm in heaven.
The second one should work real well.. and when you get the (insert name of nice food here) you make a big noise, keep kissing her, smiling and singing, and hopefully she'll get the message.
PS: Remember not to clear the plate when you get something you hate, only when the food is good. She'll be watching, and she will know that you is a liar who wants to protect her feelings, and she'll change without you telling her. She'll amend her menu's to suit you, unless she's practising her dishes, and needs the experience with the nasty food. That makes you the poor guinea pig, but don't worry, she'll learn how to make it right soon and give you a better dish.
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reader, bluecow +, writes (7 December 2011):
 its time for the "sh!T" sandwich.
Praise her cooking, and mention your favourite dish. Then mention you didnt enjoy the bulgar as much as... another favourite dish.
Then go on to ask whether she would perhaps make you something special.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (7 December 2011):
 Be honest, gently!!
"Honey, while that was a great dish, I like the other stuff that you make, much better than this one! In fact, I've been meaning to ask you to bake me the gorgeous batch of brownies that you used to, but haven't in a while. Or that chocolate cake maybe..."
I think if you divert her attention from that particular dish, yet praise her cooking and ask her to make you something, that would be ok.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2011): is your gf of middle eastern extraction? b/c bulgur is a Turkish dish. if she is from the middle east then tell her you don't like the dish. she wouldn't mind.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (7 December 2011):
 Actually it's high in fiber, so it cleaned out your digestive system!
Just say it wasn't your cup of tea and not a dish you particularly like. Assure her that you love her cooking, but dislike this particular dish. She can make it again, but in a smaller 1 serving portion.
Also, if you don't eat the leftovers then she'll be able to tell you didn't really care for it. I welcome criticism in my kitchen, that's how I learn and become a better cook.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2011): If you don't want to come out and say that you hated it, tell her it didn't sit well in your digestive system :)
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (6 December 2011):
 I see why you are worried here. Start off by telling her that you really appreciated her cooking dinner for but the dish isn't something that you really enjoyed. She may be a little hurt by it but in the end it was just a meal. I think she will be happy that you were honest with her in the end because it would be way worse to hear after the 10th time she made it.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 December 2011):
 Just be honest with her, I completely understand that you don't want to hurt her feelings or make her feel like she is a terrible cook, but just say that it was not to your taste. Tell her she is a good cook but it is just a dish that you do not like. Try and reassure her and tell her some things that you do like. There is no point lying to her and eating something that you do not like, there needs to be honesty in a relationship.
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