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writes: I had a relationship that ended badly as he said he didn't want anything serious then the day after started going out with another girl. Ive just picked myself up about this and seeing another guy when he told me he wasn't that into me and prefered another girl. I've got really depressed about this. I don't know why this keeps happening. I've got it in my head it's cus I'm not as good looking or as easy. I'm verging on underweight anyway but this just makes me feel worse and I feel like I should be slimming down. Also I'm wondering if I act more easy I things would be better. Ive had serious self esteem issues and don't know what I need to do so this won't happen again.
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reader, knaixer  +, writes (7 December 2011):
 OMG girl, STOP! Stop what you are thinking. You know how many girls I have met that are like you? And seriously, I would bang the shit out of all of them. Sorry for the strong word here, but you need to realize you are pretty. You might not be celebrity gorgeous, but any man would regret not taking you out. Just be confidence. A friend of mine said she can get a guy to like her easily, and that's the girl who said (and I quote) "Why bother trying when a guy I like going to go for another prettier girl" As long as she thinks of herself as being as pretty, she will have the self-confidence to get any guy she wants. And Between you and me, a guy love a challenge. If you present to him as "easy", he will just used you and throw you away like a toilet paper. Just hang around guys and you will learn what they like, and hang around girls to be more sophisticate and increase your female charm. Good luck.
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reader, synchrohobbit  +, writes (7 December 2011):
 First of all, please be careful about your weight. Eating disorders are something that are much, much easier to help early on. I highly doubt either of these guys meant to hurt you personally; they are teenagers and won't really hesitate when something catches their interest. It's possible the relationships with these new girls will be just as brief, or it's possible you just had bad luck dating two guys in a row who were more interested in someone else. You might be entirely correct that they are interested in sex and if you aren't providing it they are going to go looking elsewhere. All this means is that it's probably a good thing you aren't together any more. I could tell you to forget about boys for the rest of high school and love yourself for who you are and blah blah blah, but obviously that's not going to help you actually feel any different. I would suggest a break, and thinking about what you are looking for in a guy at this point. You might surprise yourself.
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