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writes:Hi all, I was wondering if anyone can help me? Over the past 12 months I've noticed some significant changes and I'm not quite sure what to do. I only turned 21 a few months ago, prior to this I was a very social person. I loved going out clubbing and talking to people but now it seems all I want to do is come home and go to bed if its past 9pm! I find myself wanting to sleep more and I've also lost my sex drive. I have no idea why, I used to love sex! I have also become moody and get frustrated easily while before I was easy going. I feel like I've lost my old self..... Could I be depressed? Has anyone experienced something like this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2011): I felt like that for a while. For me it came down to stress, I was in a stressful job and had stress from my family bringing me down and even worse the stress accelerated the effects of a digestive condition I was developing, without properly realising I was just blaming the stress, which made me feel in a bit of a downward spiral. I made positive changes to my life to try and make it more exciting and interesting. I quit my job to retrain and volunteered some evenings with projects close to my heart and helped people, I also had to change my diet to get back my normal energy levels. I found ways to give me a bit of direction and purpose and stopped me wanting to crawl under the covers every night because I got out and made a difference! After doing these things for a while I began to feel back I my normal happy self, sometimes it was an effort to go out to town but it is worth making the effort, being around your friends will bring back happy memories and you'll have a good time.
You might be able to pinpoint when you felt like you had changed or it could coincide with a something stressful or sad that has happened in your life. Definately go to the doctors though, if I hadn't I wouldn't have found out that I actually had a digestive problem and been treated for it, I would have carried on thinking I was just stressed and tired and tried to sort myself out.
A little side note too, you mention you are 21 and a doctor once told me that roughly every 7-8 years a woman undergoes a hormonal change, you could be going through a time like this which could be affecting your mood and energy levels. But go to the doc just in case they can run some blood tests and just make sure all is well.
Take care and have a lovely Christmas and new year
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (22 December 2011):
 I agree with Tisha-(only your doctor can know for sure) it could just be a hormonal imbalance which is pretty common in youngsters like you-an easy fix im told.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (22 December 2011):
 Yep, you need to see a doctor, you haven't provided enough information for anyone to advise you about depression. It could be bad diet, it could be boredom or changing circumstances (like growing into adulthood), it could be the beginning of clinical depression, it could be sickness or illness, it could be stress.. who knows..
Book an appointment with a doctor today.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (22 December 2011):
 Perhaps you have developed depression. Perhaps there's something physical going on which is resulting in your loss of energy. The simplest way to determine what's going on is to pop into the doctor's and have a checkup, being sure to let the doctor know about all your symptoms.
Good luck, let us know what the doctor finds!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2011): Yes I have experienced what you described and after talking to a doctor I was diagnosed with depression. When I first lost myself as you say, I didn't go and see anyone about it, and thought I could just push myself through it which was the wrong way to handle it. Go and see yoru doctor now and tell him what your feeling. Please don't keep going until it gets worse, your doctor will help. Good Luck.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (22 December 2011):
 Hey doll!
Yes, its very possible you have acquired a mental condition. These sound like symptoms of depression as you seem overall isolated and unmotivated to be social, which in then long term cannot be healthy. For the short term, Ive opted to isolate myself a bit from people in part cause Im at a point in my life where I need to focus on work and my weightlifting routine. However, I see your situation is a little different than mine. Have you talked to a counselor? Have you talked to anyone close about these same issues? The first step to correcting them and helping yourself is by admitting that something may not be right, so by coming on here with your post is a definite step in the right direction towards resolving whatever it is. Hugs sweetie. Message me anytime.
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