A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello! I have been dating a girl since early September who i've known for a year and a bit. I am 18 just finished my first semester of Engineering, she is almost 17, finishing up highschool. We get along really well, I like her a lot. We've done just about everything and both lost our virginity to eachother. She has lived in Canada for a little less then 3 years since she moved from Australia.So the problem starts last year. I guess she felt like she didn't really have any close friends and was quite unhappy about it. And so, her family decided to move back to Australia in January. I learned about this a few weeks ago.I knew she was moving before we started dating. It is very sad, but written in stone by now. She seems a lot happier these days and I like to thing I'm part of the reason.The question is, what do I do now? Do I let her go live her life and forget about her? Do we stay in touch as friends? Or I could hold onto her a little bit longer by doing a study abroad term in Melbourne for $23000 plus living (I pay $10000/term at my current school)? Keeping in mind, at this point, my education is slightly more important to me and chances are, we will not be together 10 years from now. If I did go, I would live with her (which would lower living costs a lot)and it is a very respectable school (Melbourne Uni.)The other question is, what should I engrave on her Christmas present?Thanks,
View related questions:
christmas Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, k_c100  +, writes (22 December 2011):
 I think you should probably just stay in touch as friends and see how things go. That is more than double the cost of your current education, plus you would be living with her which would be rushing the relationship massively. It is too soon for 2 people so young to be thinking about living together. Plus you would isolate yourself in Australia, leaving your friends and family behind so you would be totally dependent on your girlfriend. That puts too much strain on your relationship and too much pressure on your girlfriend.
So just keep in touch online, you can email, facebook, chat, skype...there are loads of ways of staying in touch. Perhaps plan a visit to her in the holidays to see what you think of Australia.
As you said yourself, your education is way more important and I just dont think you can justify the cost of studying abroad when you have only been with her a few months. Keep in touch and see what happens, you never know what life will bring.
I hope this helps and good luck!
A
female
reader, AngleHeart  +, writes (22 December 2011):
 Well for one do you love her? If you do then I think you should give it a chance. See if it would work out. If you guys both love each other it might work cause you never know about the future. But if its not love that you feel for her you should maybe think about it cause it could be possible that it wouldnt work.
...............................
|
