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writes:Long story short, i am 14 and i think i may have my first crush. Ive never had a boyfriend and well i think i'm ready for one, i do know this isn't the only oppturnity open to me and yes i will still concentrate on schoolrswork and this little scenerio is very rare for me. I had a friend in middle school, we were like partners in crime and i was real fond of him. During the last years of middle school he developed a majour crush for me, i at the time didn't like him that way and was too young. So i turned him away which did make him real upset but he did take it well and understood. In the beginging of highshcool are friendship just kinda fizzled away, for mistakes on my part and mistakes on his. Anyway i hadn't seen him for a year, but he came and spoke to me at school and now i hang around with his little group, and have been talking to him for little over a week. What can i say? in this week and abit i just feel like i'm going head over heels for him which has never happened to me before. I just get this feeling in my stomach and i feel like i want him so bad. Its way too soon to ask him out of course, but i get a feeling he might have some mutual feelings, he stares right into my eyes when he speaks to me, and for the first week and abit he was so kind to me and made sure i was alrite all the time. But now heres my problem, i feel like i'm getting to well obessesd. I always think about him, and if i go on facebook one way or another i end up on his profile. I get kinda sad when he doesn't speak to me on fb, and it all keeps going around in my head "does he like me?" "maybe he doesn't care about me?". It kinda makes me sad because i end up putting myself down abit. Its complete madness i must say, but now i want to know how can i like hold myself back? Not get dissapointed when like he doesn't speak to me? and stop just winding myself up over it? Advice is apreciated. Thankss xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for you replys. I am atm just acting friendly towards him of course, i'm not being too rash about any of my decisions and i'm not being a majour stalker.
I will admit the idea about maybe just spending abit more time talking or going out down town or something is a great idea, i do think i should build are friendship up a little more before i do that but thanks :)
Oh yeah if this is just a normal crush then anything more must be bladdey hard work! Lol. And thankyou for your kind words LovelessAct1 ;)
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reader, LovelessAct1  +, writes (22 December 2011):
I'd just like to say that you are being very smart and mature about your first crush. You seem to be very self aware of your thoughts and emotions.That being said; you're young! In high school you're going to have crushes and you just happened to find a crush that (A) you're great friends with (B) have known for a while and (C) most likely shares this feeling towards you.Sounds like a wonderful first relationship to me. At the same time, I can understand your concern about being obsessed with thinking about him. You definitely don't want this to get in the way of your school work. So you'll either have to take a risk and go after him, or accept just being friends as enough.But it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and that you'll be just fine! If your feelings get really strong, talk to him about it; holding them isn't usually the best option.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2011): well... like you said its far too soon to tell him how you feel! you dont want to scare him haha. But asking him to do something like the cinema or something really casual just the two of you. make it seem casual too. This way when your alone you can figure out how you really feel about him, and it should become very clear whether he has any feelings towards you.
The more time you spend around eachother the more comfortable you will feel in eachothers company. Then maybe you could tell him how you feel. But by spending more time with him it might put your "obsession" at ease haha. GOOD LUCK and take it easy, please dont scare him hehe!
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