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writes:Everyone I've dated, and people that have shown interest in me have never shared anything in common with me. Personality, hobbies, likes, interests etc...I was seeing someone for a little over a month and that ended because we had little in common.I now have 2 guys who like me, but again I can't choose between them because we have nothing in common.Is this always important to consider? Reply to this Question
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reader, person12345  +, writes (22 December 2011):
 Sometimes, sometimes opposites attract. Generally it's only absolutely necessary to have the big things in common (life goals, religion at least compatible, etc...). My current bf and I have pretty much nothing in common in terms of hobbies or activities, but we plan to stay together for the long haul. More than activities and interests I think is chemistry and compatible personality.
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (22 December 2011):
 It is important to have things in common, but having different likes is ok, too - it would feel like you were dating yourself if your significant other had the exact same likes and dislikes. But too many differences can lead to problems later on, because you would have nothing in common and not much communication.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (22 December 2011):
 yes it's important. I mean how else do you meet? what else would you talk about?
The issue is what is the commonality.
because while my fiance likes his MMO computer game it bores me to tears but I listen to him talk about it...
OTOH, we have board gaming in common, we have similar taste in television for the most part but not music at all...totally different presets on the radios...
we also are very much on common ground concerning how we think a relationship should be run...
so while you don't have to have EVERYTHING in common.. having a good bit of common ground is important.
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reader, N91 +, writes (22 December 2011):
 Of course it is, what would you talk about if you didn't?
Wouldn't be much of a relationship would it?
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reader, iloveperrieedwards +, writes (22 December 2011):
It could work, but its not likely. I dont think I could be with someone if we didnt have anything in common x
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reader, ScaredForLove +, writes (22 December 2011):
Its good to have some things in common (like biking, exotic food, reading, etc) but i think its good to not have everything in common so you can spend time doing new things with the partner and learn about new things with them.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (22 December 2011):
 I would say it is one of the most important things to keep in mind. If you two have nothing in common then what is the relationship? It would just be sex then I guess.
I don't think I would even last a month with someone I had nothing in common with.
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