A
female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:There is this guy and I think he likes me? We have a been inboxing and talking, but I realised that he would inbox me everyday and if I don't reply in time he would inbox again asking a question. Obviously I answer because it is the nicest thing to do, but I don't want to give this guy the wrong impression. How can I hint to him that I'm not interested in him in that way? Don't get me wrong this guy is a good friend just not someone I would go further with. Please help. I don't want to say directly to him 'Oh I don't like you like that!' because I don't want to be mean and lose a friend. Argh! FRUSTRATION! Help please? :) Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2011): no problem thats why we are here, did you speak to him? does he like you more than friends?
A
reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the advice! It really helps! thank you all :D
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2011): dont just dump him because you think he fancies you especialy if you are good friends, it's happened to me and its not nice. ask him for some relationship advice and see how he replies, or better yet say to him "hi (name) could i ask you somthing? it may sounds stupid but do you like me more as a friend?" see his reply, you will get either yes or no, if yes then say something along the lines of "im sorry but i dont think i like you the same way" be gentle and soft, dont be harsh or you could hurt him (this is bareing in mind you are good friends) if he does say yes distance yourself from him don't just ignore him, or alternativly make yourself very clear its not going to happen between youselves and keep talking as friends. if his reply is no... then all is good but if he does say no say "ooooh phew lol i was going to say it wouldn't have worked between us and i dont like you that way anyway" or something alon those lines and that will put him of in the future and it will catch him out ifs hes lying :) but seriously best thing to do is ask him, afterall your good friends? so he'll understandbest wishes
...............................
A
male
reader, Joelsy +, writes (24 December 2011):
Do not lead him on,you will probably both regret it, but to get rid of him i definitely agree with tisha, ask for advice about a relationshipand make sure you clearly make out that you dont want to be with him :) hope this helps!
...............................
A
female
reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (23 December 2011):
 Be very clear that you like him as a friend. You might start asking him for dating advice. "Oh, you're a good person to ask, you see, I like this boy, his name is Glenn (or whatever it is), and I want to get him a romantic Christmas present. Since you're a guy you can give me the data on what he might like. I know you won't mind because you're a friend!"
Honestly, though, sometimes you just can't keep a "friend" like this, if he wants something more, your being nice will only lead him on. Just be very clear, and say something specific that will make it plain you're not going to date him. Then he can decide if he wants to pretend to be a platonic friend to you or not.
"Greg, you are inboxing me a bit too much. I am trying to answer as fast as I can, but I am a bit worried that you might think there's something more than friendship possible here. Just to be clear, I think you're a great guy and a good friend, and that's a wonderful gift to have received. I think I can be grateful for that. Thanks for being such a friend."
Something like that. It'll save him some heartbreak if that what he's thinking and it will keep him from being overly communicative with you.
Be clear and firm and gentle, this will save you a lot of drama and grief later on if you learn to balance this well.
Good luck!
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2011): give us some feedback if u do decide to speak to him. let us know how you got on.
good luck
mery christmas
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2011): if he likes you he will say something.
best thing to do is talk to him and ask him outright. If he is a good friend like you say you should have no trouble asking him.
also dont lead him on by flirting or talking about relationships, or anything of that nature. and how do you know he does like you (fancy you) maby hes just chatty and likes you as a friend? just speak to him and find out.
...............................
|
