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writes:I've been seeing my b/f for 7months. We have been having a very serious relationship and I thought we were both madly in love. My bf works a hell of a lot and recently we have hardly seen each other or spent any time together and I've missed him loads. One night he was suppose to come over but said it would depend on what time he got finished..... He has said this on a few occasions and hasn't turned up!! I got pissed off and said right now I feel like forgetting the whole thing as we never see each other. He explained to me that during this time of year he does work a hell of alot and how he told me this at the begining of the relationship. My point was that he can still fit 2 nights a week to socialise with friends but can't make time for me. He called over and I was deeply upset and couldn't stop crying, he hugged me an said he knows it's hard and didn't realise it would be this hard. I told him I didn't wanna break up, but I needed him to make time for us. Once he left I sent him a text saying if you really loved me and wanted the relationship to work then he would compromise and try and make it work, told him I was willing to do anything as I loved him so much. Asked him if we were still together and he said he couldn't answer that and needed time to think! I text him yesterday asking him to call but he hasn't replied or contacted me. I love him so much and all I was asking for was that he made time for me. He has always come across and tells me he's madly in love with me, but now he's ignoring me..... What do I do?? I'm so heartbroken I can't eat, I can't sleep, my kids miss him too. Do you think I just need to give him time to realise what he's missing or have I blown it? Will he come back or should I just let him go??
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reader, Lima Mike +, writes (12 December 2011):
Lima Mike is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFinally after days of agony he finally ended it with me. I'm gutted beyond belief, but I've got to move forwards and carry on for the sake of my kids.
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reader, Lima Mike +, writes (12 December 2011):
Lima Mike is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice some more than others. I've spoke to him today, said he doesn't know what he wants to do. Said he still loves me, but thinks his hectic work schedule isn't fair on me and the kids. I asked him was he not willing to try, but couldn't get any answers from him!
I asked him if it was over, but he just couldn't say it, asked me to give him some time to think.......!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2011): If he can't make time for you but he can for friends he's not worth it. The point of being in a relationship for most people is that your partner comes first and that you spend time with them. If someone doesn't reciprocate that then you need to let it go because that will be the future of your relationship and you're not happy with coming second to a career and to friends. Good luck.
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reader, thinkb4  +, writes (12 December 2011):
It seems you love him a lot more than he loves you. The truth is that he would somehow make time for you if that`s what he wanted. I think you also need time to think, and that is to think about whether you need to distance your feelings for this man.
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reader, goldengirl88  +, writes (12 December 2011):
I dont think what you where asking was unreasonable, you wanted to spend more time with him. However, that being said he did say he was busy around this time of the year because of work. He may just being taking time out, or he could be angry that you dont understand that he s busy.However, that is not an excuse for his actions i think you have to decide if you want someone like this in your life.Let us know if you hear back from him, i dont think you have blown it though, but he may have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2011): Don't go into a restaurant and order Onion soup and than complain there are onions in your soup.If you loved me? You've got to be kidding.Manipulation is like putting a giant EXIT sign over your front door. You need to look into a RS that has more give and take.But remember that is a delicate balance, so don't think you can get what you want with Manipulation and Threats.That's all wrong. If it loves you it tends to come home.If the cat doesn't come back, chances are the cat knows best.And take 100% responsibility for mending your broken heart.Then you'll be able to set more reasonable boundaries for it.
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