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writes:I started seeing this guy in September, although it was never official. We took a break in October, and he gave this like crap excuse. Eventually he came back. I thought we were good, until last night. I wanted to hang out with him since I'll be leaving on vacation in a few days. I contact him, no response. I decided to go out with a friend. I get to this place, and he's there. My stomach drops, my heart races. I try to play it cool. So he approached my friend and hes like "Oh you're a friend of (mine.)" And I'm like "yea and I'm (me.)"He gets this surprised look on his face and I'm mad. So it gets really awkward. Finally he's like Well this is awkward. Uh...I'm going home. And he tries to hug me. I move away. He leaves. Out of the corner of my eye, I see him staggering back. Im standing there talking to friends and smoking. I look over and some girl is hugging up on him. My heart shatters. Every little piece of it races and I go numb. After standing there a few minutes, while he and this girl are having their special moment right in front of me I'm like i can't do this. I walk past him and he moves from this girl and has this stupid sad guilty look on his face while glancing at me only to look down again. Everyone tells me that I can do better that he will realize how bad he f'd up. I don't deserve it and I'm a great, beautiful person. Finally i send him a text after i cried as much as i could in an hour and got over the feeling of wanting to break his nose and kick his balls off. I say something along the lines of I felt something for you, even though I realize nothing was ever promised. Its my fault for thinking you were worth anything. I feel stupid. I hope you're happy. (Like genuinely happy though. I do still care about him even though he doesnt deserve it.) he replies Im not. i say well good for you. Which is what i usually say when idk what else to say. He says good for me...i hope i die soon. i say whatever. Now i'm sitting here, mad and hurt. Everyone tells me i'm the better person and i did what i could and he doesnt know what he had. I keep thinking "If i'm too good for him, then how come i'm not with him"-clueless. Any ways that you yourself has coped with this situation, if ever you have experienced it? Any thoughts/suggestions?
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (12 December 2011):
 Hi,
Sorry you are feeling this way...
What are the changes you both end up in the same place? I know you have feelings for him, but unfortunately in this case, I'll advice you to move on and forget about him.
You called him that night? He didn't reply? What if you didn't go out that night? You've been home, waiting for his call, missing him, thinking about him, while he's out with his girlfriend having fun and enjoying life. He was rude not returning your text. He's a liar and selfish.
I know that you both were never exclusive, but he should have been honest with you. Telling you that he's seeing someone else. Also, his message: "I am not happy" I want to die".... Do not believe his words.... He's a liar, and manipulative. Just be glad that you saw this with your own eyes.... Just be glad that this relationship is fairly new, because if you were more attached to him, it would hurt more and make it more difficult...
The little time you both were together was all lies, he's fake... He probably wants to die because he got caught.... Please, I know you are hurting, I know you don't choose who to love, I know it's difficult, I know you cannot control how you feel, but please do not believe him or go back with him. It's only going to be more lies... More heartache.... Things happens for a reason, and I guess it was faith helping you see the real him before you get more emotionally involved with him.
Good luck/best wishes
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (11 December 2011):
 Seriously, don't bother with this guy any more. Only 3 months "in" and you're already having problems. Count your blessings that this didn't happen a year down the line. Move on and find someone who won't lie to you and send you bullshit texts!
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