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writes:Hello there.I'm not really sure, but I really think the honeymoon phase in my relationship is gone. We have been together for a year now and the amount of sex we now have compared to before has dropped and it leaves me incredibly frustrated. We used to have it three four times a day now we only have it one or twice a day if I'm lucky. I did wonder if it was the fact we're staying at my parents? We still have foreplay, sometimes it varies in length. I'm just not sure what to do?Thank you for reading
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reader, bluecow +, writes (12 December 2011):
 ok ive come back to this after giving it some more thought.
Could it be that whats actually lacking is QUALITY rather than QUANTITY of sex?
Loving sensual sex which leaves both people fully satiated is always going to be more satisfying than a quickie.
Its not that there is something wrong with a quickie, theyre great in their place, but if thats all you have then it gets boring and stale.
Could this be the problem? or am I barking up the wrong tree.
If this is the case then perhaps you need to concentrate more on real lovemaking. Ensuring each has their fill of orgasms (whether thats none, once, twice or a dozen each session - whatever is right for you) and both getting your fill of enjoying seeing each other get pleasured.
I'm concerned that you seem to pay more attention to the number of times your having sex a day, rather than how good that sex is.
As has already been established sex in a relationship at a daily level is pretty bloody good going. I could understand someone being concerned with numbers if they were only having sex once a month or less, but daily seems a little childish to complain about. However if this sex isnt satisfying you then there is something wrong.
Have you spoken to your partner about this? what did he say?
Christmas is a stressful time of year, and living with your parents isnt going to make him feel at his most comfortable for lovemaking. However that doesnt mean that the times you do have sex shouldnt be satisfying.... you need to talk to him and express your concerns in a sensitive way.
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reader, eek +, writes (12 December 2011):
 once or twice a day. You lucky in my last relationship it got so bad it was once a month if lucky!
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (12 December 2011):
 I wasn't quite sure what to say in reply to this question, and have to hand it to bluecow. Well said!
A year and it's still daily sex??? While living at your parents'??? Good grief girl! That's really often. That's better than most peoples' honeymoon.
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reader, bluecow +, writes (12 December 2011):
oooooh only once or twice a day.......PAAA HAAA HAAAAA HAAAA HAAAA Snort!OK sorry about that. I think you will find that your honeymoon period has gone when your having sex once or twice a month (or less). You mentioned that your staying at your parents, thats not exactly the most romantic places to be so yes I do expect that this has something to do with the lack (giggles) of sex.If you want to put the spark back, try going back onto date nights again. Take your time, dress up, book a hotel and go out for the evening. All of this tends to put people back into the mood.
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