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writes:Hello,This is not a love relationship question but it would be great if I could get some advice. To cut a long story short- I am currently trying to make a decision about what to do with my life.I left my home town of Sydney 1 1/2 years ago and am now living 10 hours drive from there. I needed a break and was intending on staying here for only 3-6 months. However, over summer I met a man and ended up staying on. When we atarted seeing each other he told me that he was going to be leaving for South America at the end of summer and that nothing serious could come of our relationship so it would be best to be friends only. This didn't happen and we entered a romantic relationship (not that he would ever admit to that!) and made a promise to be faithful to each other when he was gone. 5 months passed and we ended it. So, basically he has been gone for 9 months and I am still here deciding whether or not I should move back to Sydney and complete my 2nd and 3rd year of university on campus (I have completed the first year online) or wether I should stay here for another 8-10 months and work on my painting (I am an artist) and complete my 2nd year by correspondance. I am feeling really torn as moving to Sydney is not ideal and I don't have a lot of money so it would be great to have another 8 months to save some cash.Since he has been gone I have not met any friends. The town that I live in is full of loads of travellers and I am not a big party person.I am very lonely sometimes so I am worried about spending another 8-10 months without any support network.Any suggestions or advice as I try to make a decision about this would be greatly appreciated
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (11 December 2011):
 I beg to disagree: this is a relationship question. You seem to be staying in that town because he might return. I think that you should move back to Sidney.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2011): I definately dont think you should stay because of the man, who knows what will happen there or if he will come back. However financially it seems to make sense if you can save there.
Why not do your 2nd year by correspondance and aim to do year 3 back in Sydney after saving 12 months- if you want to by then.
Can't you get a Bar job, day or 2 in a shop,or even teaching, make more cash and be less isolated, but still time to paint and study.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2011): I really encourage you to not put your life on hold or make decisions on the back of this relationship any more... go back to Sydney. It sounds like you have outgrown the place you are in - follow your passions and get on with your life. Set yourself free and get back into your education and enjoy life.
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (11 December 2011):
 Hi Cupid lover,
I would move back to my hometown (Sydney). I would finish university, continue painting. There's nothing holding you back to stay where you are now, but at home you can go to uni and pursue your painting as well. You mentioned money? Why can't you save money at Sydney? Also, you don't know anybody where you are at, so it must be difficult to be alone. At home, you have family and friends.
If you are staying there because of your male friend, I wouldn't because nobody knows for certain if he's going to come back. I know you both promise each other to be faithful, but LDR are difficult.... People change, feelings change...
Anyways, hope this helps, and hope you can make the right decision for you.
Best wishes/good luck
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