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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I've been seeing a man who is 16 years older than me. We've known each other for about 5 months and started dating last month. He has 2 kids and twice divorced. I just told him through text that I don't think it will work out for us and want to know if I did the right thing.First, I don't think he is too keen on getting married again and for sure he doesn't want any more kids. I am in my late Thirties and still hope to at least have 1 child.Second, twice we made plans he canceled due to family issues. One was that he decided to visit a family member at the hospital (which he could have told me days before. Another time, he had to take care of his sick mother, which I know is true but it was implied that he had the night free. Instead he hung out with his brother, just shooting the breeze. I think and feel that I made the right decision in just cutting if off early on. I'm not getting any younger and don't want to waste my time. I also feel that if I'm going to be mistreated, I rather be mistreated with my ex who is younger and better looking, LOL! Advice or comments please.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (12 December 2011):
 He did not mistreat you.
If you want to have kids and he doesn't, then your decision to leave him was correct.
You should have told him this face to face.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2011): I think you made the right decision. I probably would have done this over the phone or in person not by text. You should always do what is best for you because no one else will for the most part.
It's good that you figured out this won't work for you early on in your relationship. I would continue your search to find someone good who will treat you well unlike this man or your ex.
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