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writes:so i am pretty young, 18. i have a child he is 1 1/2 years old. my sons dad has been out of the picture for 1 year.i got a job at a local store and i met this guy we'll call him X. he is 26 has 2 children and works at the same store. we have been dating for 2 months now and i feel that he is attached. i mean i like him a lot and he is the ideal guy. he has already told me that he loves me but the idea of falling in love just scares me. my son's dad and i were together for 4 years and that break up destroyed me. i don't know what i should do. i know i'm falling for this guy, but i don't want to hurt him because he is just great. what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, YouWish +, writes (22 October 2012):
 Remember this always:
Your past does *not* equal your future.
This is your moment to cast aside the baggage that has weighed you down.
This is your moment to take your own life and run with it.
This is your moment that your son's dad has no right to mess with your ability to fall in love.
You won't hurt the guy as long as you remember that your ex has zero power to change your trust, your ability to love, your heart, your feelings.
Your heart and your love are *renewable* resource. The more you give away, the more you have. People make the mistake of thinking that once they've been burned, that that piece of their heart is burned out.
Open your heart to the possibilities of this guy. It beats being afraid of being hurt.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (22 October 2012):
You have nothing to fear but fear itself.
Spend more time to get to know him and continue enjoying the relationship. Problems are part of relationships so there is no reason to fear them. But when the time comes, remember to stick to your morals and communicate with your partner, and work towards solving the problem. Most important of all just be happy, especially after coming so far in life and have so much more happiness ahead of you.
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reader, jazzone +, writes (22 October 2012):
Hi, is this two months after the break up? And how is he attached? Is he seeing another woman? If he is I wouldn't go that route. But to be honest, it seems like that was your high school sweetheart and you've never really dated anyone else. Yeah, I would wait a little bit longer because you're probably moving too fast. Look, you're young and you have a kid and I would just focus on you and your kid's life. But what do I know, if you love this guy maybe you should continue to get to know him and just play it out I guess. Good luck with everything and Godbless!
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