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writes: Dear cupidI have started seeing a new man. He seems really nice but there is one problem. I went round his flat and he still has her shampoo and other bits in his bathroom and Her exercise and weight chart on the fridge. Is it something to worry about? or am I worrying over nothing? I didnt want to bring it up because it would make me look clingy! Any Opinions would be greatly recieved :-)P.s they split up only a month ago.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2006): I have the same thing with this guy I am friends with but am interested in him as a boyfriend. He recently told me that he had split up with his ex early this year and he seems to be dwelling on her still, which is understandable, and he told me that he would not be getting rid of any of the stuff that she had given him, which is fair enough. However, I went to his house and started noticing all these trinkets displayed in his bedroom which can only have come from her. I have to say I have backed off somewhat because it appears to me that he is not over her yet. It could be that your man hasn't got around to clearing all his ex's stuff away, but it may be as well to clarify if he is truly over his ex yet. I know I haven't pursued anything with this guy friend of mine because of the trinkets amongst other things - I know it may sound silly but it would feel like there were three of us in the bedroom.
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (30 May 2006):
 I guess it depends on how they broke up ? Did she collect all her other stuff or did he just forward it on ? Its not that bigger deal I wouldnt say hes just not thrown it out yet. Things like that dont mean much to men, it doesnt occur to them to get rid, maybe mention it kinda off the cuff, maybe in a funny kind of way, hey your hairs soft, are you using that.. and name the brand thats in the bathroom, and causally laugh or something silly like that, make a joke of it and he may realise that he needs to get rid of it, more than likely he didnt even think about it. See how it goes, but i dont think its anything too major.
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reader, Smiler +, writes (30 May 2006):
 Hey there
well speaking here from my point of veiw for a second well i can see where your coming from cause usually when a females relationship has just ended usually if any of her ex's stuff is lying around we get rid straight away don't to get closer.... or just tidy up lol but i would of thought that men were the same to be honest... cause you don't want constant reminders of your ex all over the place do you...... but maybe this guy just has not gotten around to moving them yet either that or its just to painful for him to get rid and sweetie if its the latter of the 2 you two should really sit down and have a chat about why he's not got rid yet... my advise to you is sit him down and have a heart to heart with him about it tell him how having her things around makes you feel and if he's really into you then he'll respect what your saying and do something about it...
I hope my advice helped you out alittle... please feel free to let me know how you get on i'd love to hear
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reader, Yos  +, writes (30 May 2006):
 Only a month? Don't worry too much about it. If he's a typical guy then he's probably just not gotten round to doing anything about it yet, and besides, he'll probably end up using the shampoo for himself.
If it drags on months and months then you can tell him that you'd like it if he got rid of these things. Don't make a big deal out of it, or give him any ultimatums, but a gentle nudge should be enough.
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