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writes: hi am a jade and i am quite young still i am 13 years and 11 months and i am quite average i like to wear girly clothes and do social thigns but yesterday i went bowling with 5 of my guy mates that i get along with really well. i enjoyed it and we had a laugh we then went back to gareths house and we played dirty dares. they have dared me to do something with them on friday night that i am not very comfortabke with. they want all 6 of us to sleep together as a "gang" so basicly they want a "gang bang" i am not ready for any thing like this so what shall i do they have tripple dared me to i cant do it. CAN I?? HELP PLEASE thanx x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2006): Hi I'm 13 too and I'm just like you(well in your description at least)and are you crazy,no wait are they crazy look your 13 and no matter what you say your not ready BUY THE TIME YOUR 16 you'll be a slut waiting to have sex at any time any were and you'll get a reputation you don't wan't.I'm 13 and I can barely handle a boyfriend(although I'v had lots of boyfriends) JUST PLEASE PLEASE DON'T DO IT YOUD LOOSE ALL YOUR DIGNITY PLEASE,DON'T DO IT.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2006): Hi I'm 13 too, and I'm just like you(well as your description)I think it's really wrong for a guy to think like this,of corse it depends how old he is.Look I'm sure you haven't had aaalot of excpience,but no are you crazy well no are they crazy.Go ahead have a boyfriend but,your 13(like me)no matter what you say your not ready!I'm 13 and I can barely handle having a boyfriend JUST DON'T DO IT PLEASE!!
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reader, sbw1989  +, writes (28 July 2006):
 Well done hon- you made the right choice. Give yourself a massive pat on the back. :)
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (11 June 2006):
 Well done babe, you made the right choice.You walked away from peer pressure, you are much stronger than you ever realised.Best of luck for the futurex
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2006): hi its jade. i am so glad i asked this qwestion! i have realised these guys are jerks and i shouldnt of even thought about doing it thanx everyone of you for your advice it really helped me make the right decision. thanx xxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, Rainee  +, writes (9 June 2006):
 CAN you do it? Of course you can (the law says no, but laws can be broken). SHOULD you do it? OMG ARE YOU INSANE!? NO! NO! NO, YOU SHOULD NOT! This is an incredibly bad situation to put yourself in! It doesn't matter that you have been Dared - in the long run, or heck, even in the short run, dares mean NOTHING. In 5, 10, 20, even 40 years from now, do you want your life defined by a child/STD/slutty reputation you got based on a dare (even a triple dare) by some teenage boys who didn't care about you and just wanted sex? Everything everyone is saying here is true. Don't do something you don't want to do because you WILL regret it later. Don't even bother meeting with these boys to tell them so - why? - because no matter how much you say no (it is your right to do so) if the opportunity presents itself to them, they may take your being there as a "yes" and rape you (5 against 1, that's hard to fight off). Don't allow that to happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2006): If you decided to go through with this, the following list of situations will arise for you:1. You will get pregnant and not know who the father is. NONE of these boys will support you as they will not themselves be sure who the father is. And then you will be left alone, ashamed and pregnant.2. You will manage to catch atleast 2 diferent types of STD's. And post this, for the rest of your life, you will spend all your money and time trying to hide their symptoms when you can actually be spending all that money on good clothes and make-up and be having fun! 3. The perverted jerks these boys are, I'm sure they will put a camera somewhere in the room and video tape this session and flash it around for the whole world to see. And you will loose your WHOLE life after this dare. Is this really worth it??? You will be called the town whore, a slut, no one will ever want to date you again, even when you will be 20 yrs old, boys will think twice before they agree to go on a date with you. Then you will be writing to this site asking how you can get a b.f. I know what a dare means at this age, but, imagine what you will have to be giving up on if ANY of the above mentioned things happened for you?????? Even ONE of the above mentioned situations can ruin your life. Imagine if you end up pregnant, and with an STD and the whole school/town knows. You will NOT get a second chance if life after you have misused your liberty this way. When you turn 18, the whole world will be your play ground. Don't you want to see beautiful places, study what you want, make loads of money and live life at your terms? Don't give it all up for a silly dare. YOU WILL REGRET THIS FOREVER.
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (7 June 2006):
Hey, these are NOT the kind of friends you want.
If they see you as this sexual object, they obviously are not interested in friendship.
Walk away from them!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2006): Hey, everyone here has given pretty good advice, but may I add - why would it matter whether they dared you, double dared, triple dared, supercalifragilisticexpialidociously-dared you to do anything? Jeebus!
Simply, if you're uncomfortable, all you have to say is "No!" followed by leaving them - get away from them, and possibly very likely hopefully, get new friends.
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (7 June 2006):
 Find some new friends please. Don't do this. You will regret it. Don't let these stupid, vile, immature guys use you in this way.
If they were really your friends, they would not put you in this situation.
Ignore them. They sound like prize fools and personally I think men who involve themselves in this sort of activity are sick, perverted individuals who have some serious issues in their lives.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2006): Girl you're getting yourself in big mess thats just waiting to happen. Do you have any idea on what these so called friends of yours can do to you?! I would most certaintly not be alone with 6 guys! They could rape you!!! You're very lucky that they didnt force anything on you! Stay away from them! They dont care about you. There is nothing more discusting than having all these guys use your body for sex as if you were just a piece of meat that they could just toss around! You're much better than that. Dont even bother talking to them about it, jus stay away from them and dont answer them anymore! You obvisiously have no clue of what these boys could do or could of done to you if you're alone with them! Why would you even consider having sex with all these guys at once and risk your self from getting pregnant, not know who the father is, and then having them show no responsibility for there actions. I dont know why you even played such a game. Or they could set you up and video tape you without you ever knowing and show the whole world what they dared you to do. You dont do things like that if you want boys to like you. You're damaging your reputation here. There are plenty of bad consequences from this. Think more, im sure you're a very smart girl. Be wise, not dumb. I hope that you end this so called friendship with these boys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2006): I totally agree with drpsych. Please heed her words, carefully. These boys are not your friends, they do not even care for you. To have asked you do such a degrading thing-what does that tell you? The real payoff for them is not just the thrill of boinking a female body, but to be seen boinking a female (you). Sadly, they have a need to prove themselves to each other and your body will be used to satisfy that need. Don't allow them to use you as a sperm depository. Gosh, that's so demeaning to be asked if you would participate in a 'gangbang' Added to all that, you risk pregnancy, you will be breaking the law, you risk std's. And the heartbreaking emotional price you will pay..will haunt you for a lifetime. Respect yourself enough to say NO and dump these jerks. Go find friends who respect and adore you..just for who you are. Good luck, hun.
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reader, sbw1989 +, writes (6 June 2006):
It is not a good idea, for a start it's illegal! If you feel you have to do something because you were double/triple/gazillply dared- then you are not mature enough to handle the sex. Be strong, have self respect and say NO NO NO! If you do it you'll regret it for the rest of your life, you should be having sex in a strong, meaningful relationship, not as some fun with your boy mates.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2006): If you do this you obviously have no self respect, and everyone will have good reason to call you the town slut. These aren't friends...these are a few horny guys who behind your back are laughing in disbelief that you are even cosidering it! STDs are just that...diseases. Don't be so damn childish...a triple dare!?! Oh no, you'll be telling us the boogey man is invited too next!
You are completely stupid if you do this.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (6 June 2006):
 DO NOT DO THIS!!
It doesn't matter if they have dared you 100 times
I promise that after you have done it you will feel very bad indeed, and really wish you hadn't.
On top of that, you will find that the boys will probably start treating you badly afterwards, and will tell all their friends what happened. How will you feel when your whole school and all your friends are talking about what you did? You'll be called a slut, a whore, and much worse. You will feel really really bad.
Also, you will have big problems for the rest of your life with your future boyfriends because when they hear about this they will get very jealous and angry with you. Do you want problems with your boyfriends in the future because of a stupid dare? No you don't!
Just don't do it, and tell them if they want to have group sex the 5 of them should sit round a room and all jerk off together.
DO NOT DO IT!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2006): This could end in tragedy. They are just using you for sex, girl. There is a reason the age of consent is 16. Your body is not fuly matured and this could lead to you never being able to have children. Also there is a good chance you will catch a sexually transmitted disease. THINK! Don't do this, for your own sake.
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reader, bonym +, writes (6 June 2006):
 My dear this is not at all a good idea, please dont do this, you are strongly going to regret it after if you do.For starters you are way too young to be participating in lewd acts such as this, its wrong. My dear I have been your age, I have got many t-shirts some I would rather throw away, but let me tell you, even though they have dared you, this is a serious matter. Having sex with someone at your age as I said is not good, let alone with so many other boys, think my dear. Dont damage yourself for the sake of a dare. Take care. xXx
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (6 June 2006):
 Hmmm what nice 'guy mates' you have! I can understand why you wouldn't want to get into an orgy at 13, or any age for that matter. You must know these guys are either joking or if they are serious then they are definitely not your 'mates'. I know peer pressure is strong at 13, but they cannot force you into doing anything you don't want to. Learn from your mistake here and avoid them. You want to have male friends and that is ok in principal, but you shouldn't get into potentially difficult or embarrassing situations by playing dirty dare, strip poker or whatever as they may think if you 'talk the talk, you will walk the walk'.
It is illegal to have sex under 16, and it is illegal to have non-consenting sex at any age! I don't care if they quadruple dared you...you haven't signed a contract saying you have to do anything sexual or otherwise with them (it wouldn't be legal anyway) so be a strong girl and tell them to go and tie their bits in a knot and grow up!
You must have more self respect than to allow these boys to use your body in this way. Stand up for yourself and say 'no' to them by not seeing them on Friday night. But tell an adult that you trust as well - if not a parent, then someone who is old enough to offer you some guidance. You can have male friends of course, but these guys are not your friends as good friends don't force you to do degrading stuff you are not comfortable with, or make you feel bad.
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