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writes:How do you know if you've found the right partner? Ages ago I went out with this girl (my first girlfriend) and to begin with we kept texting each other but after half term when we didn't see each other for a week as she went back home, I felt it was one way and I was doing all the work. 2 weeks later she broke up with me as she was getting back together with her ex. I haven't dated since then as I want to concentrate on A-Levels.I can't help but worry tht this is what is gonna happen to me for the rest of my life. Please someone help.
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reader, Little Blondie +, writes (18 May 2006):
Your only young like me and there is always someone out there for you. You just need to wait to find the right one, they will come along at some point and when they do you will know, I did!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2006): i've always been told, "that if it feels right, thats because it is!" so if it doesnt feel right you shouldnt stay with that person. follow you gut feeling.
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reader, bonym +, writes (17 May 2006):
 My friend it wont happen for the rest of your life, I dont want to patronise you but you are still young, so there are plenty of relationships stil to come. For now, concentrate on your studies and achieve the best you can. When you meet Miss Right, your heart will do the talking, you wil know if she is the girl for you, you wont be abel to get her out of you head, you will think about her all the time, be anxious to be in hert company etc etc. Trust me my friend, you will know. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2006): Its a hard question to answer i guess we will never know ourselves.Aslong as the relationship is strong going steady and the people in the relationship is very happy together and accept each others faults without any fuss than that is all that matter's.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2006): Yeah I agree with Yos :)I guess the right partner is one who is commited to you as much as you are to them, and someone who, through life, can adapt and compromise as you change as a person (and visa-versa)It's why so many relationships don't last more than a few years; people today change so much, who is right for you now, might not be right for you in 20 years time. Also a lot of people don't seem to have the skills to commit to a life-long relationship and to make it work when things do get difficult; these such skills used to be learnt from parents and affirmed by peers and society. Sadly this is no longer the case.It's a scary thing if you think too much about all this; as Yos said, you have to have faith; and find someone with the same ideals as you.Good luck with your A-Levels - and don't worry; it's normal to worry about this kind of thing; especially when you have big life changing events going on in your life!
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reader, Yos  +, writes (17 May 2006):
 Groundhog day relationships: the fear that we are doomed to repeat our mistakes and failures in relationships over and over.
I think to a greater or lesser degree all of us share these fears. How do we know (even after being married for 20 years) that we are really with the right person? How do we know that we're not going to fail? All our previous relationships failed, so why should this one be any different? How can we escape the negative patterns we create, especially when they get reinforced by the repetition of so many failed relationships?
There's no way to really answer these questions, other than to say you have to have faith. Getting into a relationship necessarily involves taking a risk. Becoming vulnerable, committing emotionally, trusting someone, all mean that we can end up being hurt. If we didn't think it might work out, we'd never do it. But we have to try.
Life is a game, and if you don't step up to play, you stand no chance of winning.
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