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writes: My girlfriend and i have been going out a while. She told me that she would never have anal sex. Is there anything i can do to convice her to try it? I just want to experience it and see how it feels. I just don't know how to make her want to try it..Any suggestions?
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reader, Terrie-Anne +, writes (31 October 2006):
You can not force a lady to try anything she does not whan to, stop pushing her all she will dump you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2006): Guys like you watch too much porn....Grow up....If I were her Id tell you 'sure honey but only if you go first', then I use the biggest dildo I could find to show you how it feels' Who knows perhaps you would like it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2006): u can tell her she can put a condom on 2 or maybe 3 of her fingers and shove them up ur anus. if u dont like it, then it would be fair to say that she wont.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (30 October 2006):
 No means no dude. Don't pressure her to do something sexual she doesn't want, it's disrespectful and really unpleasant for her.
As for how it feels... pretty much the same as vaginal sex to be honest, the real difference is in your mind (that it can be a turn on because it is in some way taboo).
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2006): So what part of her answer did you not understand, dear? It sounds like she gave you a flat out NO and in my books "no means no." Try to remember, it's her body and a decent bf with some integrity in himself and love/respect for her would never pressure his girlfriend to try anything that made her uncomfortable. She doesn't want to try it-You want to find out what it feels like..so then this is just about you, isn't it? Just drop this subject-she gave you her answer and appreciate her and the intimacy you already share with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2006): As for advice on how to sell her on the concept, have her do you anally with a variety of strap ons and lubricants, and make sure that you indicate such pleasure at being done that she'll want to switch positions ASAP. P.S. Why hadn't you thought of this yourself?
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reader, hannieseds  +, writes (30 October 2006):
 Hi there,
I was in the same position as you, except my boyfriend was the one who didn't want to try it and swore he never ever would! I didn't pressure him, but casually dropped into a sexual conversation we were having oneday that I would like to see how it feels. He said he wasn't sure, but yes, he would give it a go. I said to him that if at anytime he felt uncomfortable we would stop right away. He didn't make the decision lightly, and mulled over it for about a week before he agreed to try it.
So I suggest doing that. Tell your girlfriend you really do want to try it and you will stop straight away if she feels uncomfortable at all (tho you might want to tell her that you have heard it does feel pretty horrible the first few times! BUT it does get better!) . Tell her to think it over and if she decides to try it then she can come to you and let you know that - that way she won't feel pressured if you keep pestering her.
I hope it works out. Remember tho, if she really really really doesn't want to try it, then there is nothing you can do about that - your relationship and its harmony is much more important that anal sex :o) xxx
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