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writes: why do boys like porn so much!? i've got a long term boyfriend (18) who looks at porn regularly (practically every day) but i don't know why! does it mean hes not happy with me? we have an amazing relationship and i know he thinks so too and i just don't understand why boys need porn! I'm not fat or flat chested or anything and its just so depressing!Anon (17)
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reader, Kim1104  +, writes (18 December 2010):
people say its normal that boys watch porn, when it is to a certain point, but once they have a girlfriend, its not normal to STILL watch porn. it clearly shows they are'nt gettin enought, or they are not happy with what they have and feel that they need more. yeah they say they are'nt replacing you and dont want you to b like them slags they watch, well if thats not the case what is the case? why would boys watch it if that isnt what they want? its all lies when they say all this, "oh i get bored so i watch it"...lies, or hows about "i love you and would never replace you"...again, lies. if they loved you THAT much and knew how it makes u feel they would stop there and then, but when it gets to a point where there sneaking around watching it still, when they sed they wudnt, then it clearly shows they dont care how you feel and simply want to keep you sweet so they can use you for sex
also, ive read the excuses that boys are more visual creatures, where they need to watch sumthin to get them selves going, that does not make them more visual, its called lazyness, they simply can not be botherd to just get on with it or just wait till they next see their girlfriend
i have a bf whos exactly the same, said he wud stop, and yet didnt. so i have come to th conclusion that he doesnt care, and only wants a slag as a gf, so thats what he will get, ive told him il start posting vidoes and pictures of porn website, course he wasnt happy, but thats whats gna happen if he dusnt get the message that it is not right to look at other girls when he has a girlfriend who he apparantly love, or slags should i say, because quite frankly those girls on porn website put us actual girls to shame.
i mean come on, why would you in ur right mind waste your time watching chlamydia riddled girls who clearly have no use to anyone other than making videos where they have sex or spend their days infront on a camera. sorry but it does not take brains to do that. if i had a daughter who became a porn star i would be deaply ashamed and discusted. so boys watching porn just makes them just as sad and stupid as the people on the porn videos
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2006): Suprise Yos but women also have this gene...in fact there has been no scientifically proven differences between the genders. The truth is that men and women are raised to behave differently...Most men are raised to have very little respect for women and value them as a series of body parts...hence the popluarity of porn amoungst men....
They do it because society tells them its ok and women (some women) accept it because of low self esteem)
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reader, Yos  +, writes (30 October 2006):
 Men have a part of them that is programmed to want to have as much sex as possible with as many women as possible. It's in our animal nature. Porn taps into that: looking at porn is like having sex with a constant string of attractive young available women. Which is a huge buzz for a man.
The fact that it is in a way 'natural' doesn't make it right or ok. We have urges to do all sorts of other things too: lie, steal, fight etc. As humans we have the ability to transcend our basic nature and make decisions based on things like the good of others and the long term effects of our actions.
Modern porn is also so extreme: so graphic and so available (via the web) that it has become very potent. It's like crack or nicotene: very strong, very addictive, and easy to get more. This is a dangerous combination and causes a lot of problems. As you can see here on this site, with so many women coming here struggling with issues porn and their partners.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2006): i think it makes them more fun to see something new even in a porn... hey its better than they do it in real.... hehehehehe
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2006): well, i am a married man and still interested in porns and
i guess it has nothing to do with a relationship just out of sheer curiousity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2006): As most can't have a harem, they have porn instead (sad but true).
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reader, xLEAHx +, writes (29 October 2006):
 Hi Anon,
It is natural for guys to look at porn as they find the female body attractive and a big turn on..for him to watch it everyday sounds like he has a obsession with it,men are also at the height of thier sexual peak at the age of 18..but thats no escuse for him to watch it everyday as he has a girlfriend..prehaps you should be asking him why he has to watch porn everyday when he has you there to satisfy his needs..he obviously has a very high sex drive,there's normaly 2 reasons why a man has to watch porn everyday 1.they have no partner 2.thier not getting enough from thier partner..why not sit down and talk it over with him about this situation as it is seems to be worrying you.
xLEAHx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2006): This is just from my experience and knowledge. I'm 19 and I look at porn almost everyday and its just because it allows guys to have a look at something and "do" something afterwards if you know what I mean. I also think it's because men''s first instinct of finding a women atractive is their appearance, then their personality (for women I think they admire a man's personality more which was what I was told anyway). Besides he's 18 most boys his age are looking at porn.
I wouldn't say he's not happy with you. I mean I went into my parents room one day and unfortunately and awkwardly I found some porn my dad had (shiver). However my parents have been married for 20 years now and they still love each other as much as when they first met. A lot of married couples have porn and are still in love.
Why my mum tolerates it? They talked about it and if my mum wasn't happy with my dad looking at porn (shiver) then he wouldn't read it.
If you tell him your opinion and he cares about then he would stop looking at it (I would). If he doesn't then he doesn't respect you.
Hope this helps.
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