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writes:I'm a virgin, and this really attractive, and fairly experienced girl wants to have sex with me.. I really would rather save myself the embarrassment of telling her I'm a virgin, but then she'll probably think I'm just shit in bed, i don't know what to do really.Any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, alex74  +, writes (3 November 2010):
 I'd say hang on to your "V-card" for now. I lost mine to a girl when I was 18. She suspected I was a virgin and initially said she wouldn't sleep w/ me. I had no idea about her sexual past. I know she listed a bunch of previous boyfriends. I got concerned and asked about her past- she got defensive and said, "Fine! If you must know, I've been w/ 3 guys before you." I was so relieved... only 3 guys. Later on, she confessed to me that she's been w/ more....a lot more (like 30+). I was crushed. It's hard to feel special when you really love a girl and find out you are the thirty first dick she's had inside her. I married the next girl and if I could, I would take back my virginity from the first.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (2 November 2010):
 The question here is less about whether she is experienced and you're a virgin and more about whether you want to do it with her, whether you like her, whether this is going to be a one-time thing - and so on and so forth. You're young enough for it to be normal to be a virgin I'm sure. Forcus less on your 'performance' andw whether you will 'match up' to her previous boyfriends. A major part of my feelings for a man have more to do with the space between his ears than the space between his legs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010): Dont follow your heart. Why? Because basing any decision on an emotion can lead to a disaster simply because there is lack of reasoning. You need to balance this out man...and give it some good thought and weigh in some logic. Remember, our bodies are ready physically before mentally and I was a virgin til 25 and let me tell you, it took its toll on me cause of my stupid emotional heart. Its all about what makes sense and what doesnt and only you can decide what criteria fits such a decision. You have my support either way. If this girl has true genuine feelings for you, she wont care and it sounds like she does =)
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reader, Sorry miss +, writes (2 November 2010):
I say do it, she will teach you good thing:) at least if she is a normal girl she wont care that your a virgin, she probably will be excited.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010): Thanks for all the great replies.
I think i'm just going to go for it.
Thanks again everyone who contributed :)
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reader, pookie001  +, writes (2 November 2010):
I was 18, and i waited till i found someone i really loved, and i am still with her now! So if your doing it because you just want to lose your virginity i would perhaps think again, BUT if you want to sleep with her, there is nothing to be embarrased about being a virgin, if she has a problem with that, then that is her problem!
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (2 November 2010):
 I lost my virginity to an experienced girl when I was 17 and I did for a while regret it. Not for losing it but just for the person she became after we dated for a bit. Personally I think you need to follow your heart on this one. There is a good and a bad side. You need to think about if you will regret it or if this is what you want. For me losing my virginity at the time was a big deal for me but I realized that it wasn't that special so my mind was now not so focused on sex and I met a great girl and was able to wait for her to be ready before we had sex which I would never have done if I was a virgin. I don't regret it at all when I look back now. Again that is just my experience but I'm sure with some thought you'll decide on what makes you happy. Also don't worry about not being good at sex, she will probably love the idea of teaching you a thing or two.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010): First off, if you are only in your teens, it is not a bad thing to be a virgin. Second, if she is that experienced, do you really want to be with her? She has a very big chance of having an STi, or HIV, or HPV, or anything else you can think of. Just because you like her doesn't mean you need to sleep with her. Hang in there. The right person will come along, and you will know what you should do. If you are asking for advice, you probably just want somebody to disagree with what your gut is telling you in the first place. Listen to the little voice inside. It is usually right.
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reader, Odds +, writes (2 November 2010):
 If you're embarrassed, don't say anything. Some girls like the idea of colelcting v-cards, others refuse to do so. If she asks directly, don't lie, but don't volunteer anything either.
As for being good/bad in bed, if you can get her off by fingering her before you actually have sex, it won't matter nearly as much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010): don't let it slip ... go for it.. smash that... u may not get an easy invitation like this again.. lol jk.. go for it man....
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (2 November 2010):
 So you think it's a surprise to hear that a 16-17 year old is a virgin? Am I really that old fashioned? So nowadays first sex at 13 is the norm? You should get to know what kind of person she is first, and what she is looking for, do you like each other's personality. Like is she judgmental, is she bored with life. I agree with the first poster, you should wait for the right girl. Your first experience can affect your whole life (mine didn't though). I know that some guys are ultra sensitive to how a girl thinks about their dicks. It sticks with them for a long time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2010): Do not do it i've been down this road no save yourself for when your married so you can do it with out any issues at least virginity is a one time thing once you do it you can never get it back and who ever she had slept with before you will now be in your system. DO NOT DO IT i promise you will feel a whole lot better when its done the right way
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reader, LaDiabla13 +, writes (2 November 2010):
If she actually likes you, it wont matter. Unzip your pants and take a chance!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (2 November 2010):
 I think you are assuming that she'll think it's funny that you're a virgin? She will probably find our virginity endearing and exciting. Trust me, virginity is sexy! Don't feel bad and definitely don't hold back that information!
But more importantly, are you sure you want to lose your virginity to some girl who will probably have sex with you and ditch you? What about holding out for a girlfriend? The best sex is with someone who you can continually practice with and who you feel really comfortable with. A one night stand might feel empty and leave you disappointed. Food for thought!! Good luck!
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reader, JayChristine +, writes (2 November 2010):
Honestly I would ask yourself this question first.Is this really the girl you want to loose your virginity too? If so then be honest with her about the fact that your a virgin if she truely cares about you she wont care.
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