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writes:I always see a lot of married couples or people dating complaining about their husband/boyfriend watching porn. Why dont they like it when they do it? Because really I would be up for watching it with them, but other people dont seem to feel that way. Answers?
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (15 November 2010):
 I watch porn with my boyfriend. Most of the time we watch it and comment on the fakeness and things like that. Other times we watch it just to watch it. Men are visual creatures, hence, porn.
I don't see what the big deal is. Unless they are watching it all of the time, I would start to wonder who they are seeing in bed; or if he/she were doing it behind the other persons back like an addict, that would be a problem. Other than that, I don't see what the big deal is. Perhaps insecurity?
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (15 November 2010):
 I think that people tend to see it as the person who is watching porn as not being satisfied from the relationship. Personally I see the one who has the issue with porn is the insecure one unless the person has some dependence on porn. If the sexual relationship is fine and one or both people are watching porn then I don't see what the big deal is. Porn is just a visual to help with masturbation, so few people have any kind of actual connections with the videos. If there is a problam in the relationship then porn needs to go but for the most part the people who complain about actually have not experienced problems with it.
Both my gf and I watch porn together and seperate and we have a great relationship. I also know a friend who was addicted to it. It all depends on the person but I don't think the person who just uses it for masturbation every once and awhile shouldn't be the one to blame here. A relationship doesn't mean you don't need to masturbate, its time for yourself. If you don't like porn don't watch it but I don't think those people have any right to ask someone else not to watch it, unless there are other problems involved.
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reader, kirra07 +, writes (15 November 2010):
A lot of the time the partner isn't looking for them to watch porn with them. They do it behind their partner's back, when they aren't around, and try to hide it from them. Sometimes it's really excessive, and sometimes it accompanies a lack of sex in the bedroom. When that happens, it's not something that can be fixed by watching porn together. It becomes a matter of lying and sneaking around. And lowered self esteem from feeling like your partner likes watching other women on the computer than having their real flesh and blood partner in bed.
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