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writes:I met two guys at the same time last year. They don't know each other. I went out with guy A but didn't feel that 'spark.' Then guy B asked me out and the spark was definitely there. So I stopped seeing guy A and started seeing guy B. After about a month or so guy B dumped me. I only found out recently that he was on the rebound and not in a place to start anything new. I didn't sleep with either of them.It's been over a year since then and guy A is now my boyfriend (we ran into each other shortly after guy B and I finished). My boyfriend doesn't know that I stopped seeing him because of this other guy. He does know that at around the time I was seeing him I was also seeing someone else and he also knows that this other guy is in the airforce. My boyfriend is the most amazing man I've ever met and I've never been treated with so much love and respect before. The spark thing Iwas just infatuation and not the real thing and my priorities back then were completely wrong.On the weekend my boyfriend went to a bachelor party and was later telling me about it, who he met, where they went, etc. He then said that he met a guy in the airforce at the party and then told me what this guy looked like. I realised it was guy B. I think my boyfriend wanted to know if the guy he'd met was the guy I dated but he didn't ask.We'll be going to the wedding in about a month and I know that guy B will be there. I don't want anything to do with him but it seems that my boyfriend liked this guy and may wish to talk to him and maybe even get me to 'meet' him. So do I tell my boyfriend that this guy he met is guy B or do I keep quiet? I don't want to stir up the past and make my boyfriend upset but I also don't want to get into a situation where I'll have to 'meet' guy B and pretend I don't know him.So, to tell or not to tell???
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (15 November 2010):
 He could be fishing to see if you'll fess up... or he could be oblivious. Best to tell him either way.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (15 November 2010):
 I would let your bf know that you and guy B dated in the past but I wouldn't give any details on it. Just say it was in the past and your over it. I say this because there is a chance of guy B bringing something up that you two used to date and you don't want your bf to find out that way.
Just make it very clear that you are over him and when you see him don't be very excited, just say hi and stay to small talk. That way your bf will know that your not thinking about this other guy.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (15 November 2010):
 You don't have to pretend you don't know Guy B. Just tell your boyfriend how much you love him, how much you are attracted to him. "I actually met Guy B before." And then just tell him how you met, no need for more details. Even if your boyfriend asks if you two dated. Say long time ago but nothing happened. That long time ago can mean anything. Your relationship with Guy B was really insignificant to what you have now. I doubt your boyfriend, being the gentleman he is, would press for more questions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2010): Dont tell this all to your person just tell him that i dont like that person, dont want to meet him,and also i dont want you to meet him,if you think that if your boyfriend accept your proposal about him na you will tell this, be clear weather your A accept your dating with him or not understand his position then only you will be better
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reader, kml9782  +, writes (15 November 2010):
yes you should tell him about guy b if you don`t you should find out sooner or later you know!!
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