What do you think of my note of apology to my crush that I unsulted last week?
Q. I'm now in a very awkard siuation because I think I offended my crush by accident. I should apologize, but how? Here's what I wrote in my apology note: "Hey, I'm really sorry if I offended you last friday. You have every right to be mad at me....
A. 12 June 2008: Glad to hear that it turned out right.
Sometimes it is just faulty communications problem.
He is a man and he thinks differently.
It is always good to get confirmations or miscommunications would occur.
... (read in full...)
He told me he regretted not having a relationship with me, I really want him.
Q. I've known this guy for a year now and we were seeing eachother for a few months. He went back to his ex without telling me! Anyway 9 months later we met up again and we act like we are in a relationship, but he says he's not ready for one yet? But ...
A. 15 April 2008: I think he is still in a dazed and confused state.
Give him more time and space.
... (read in full...)
He told me he regretted not having a relationship with me, I really want him.
Q. I've known this guy for a year now and we were seeing eachother for a few months. He went back to his ex without telling me! Anyway 9 months later we met up again and we act like we are in a relationship, but he says he's not ready for one yet? But ...
A. 14 April 2008: Since you said he went back to his ex, this means that he is
putting you on 'HOLD!'
Just in case his other relationship does not work out.
Will you accept this situation?... (read in full...)
I'm jealous because the boy I like enjoys the company of a girl who shares his interest - playing the guitar...
Q. hello. i just found this site and i'm excited to see the answers... theres this boy at my university i get along with... my friends think we have this connection and says he really likes me. i didn't see it at all. after they told me i sort of not...
A. 14 April 2008: All is fair in love and war.
Maybe you need to come down to his levels to have a level playing field.
If your name is written in his heart, nobody can snatch him away from you.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
The question is does he just want sex from me or is he starting to fall for me?
Q. I have been working with my married co-worker for about two years now (i'm also kinda married) and i have always kind of felt something with him, but i have never acted on it. Until now, we have had sex twice and we 'IM' each other all day at work...
A. 14 April 2008: If you want to be a FWB, then it is no problem.
If you are looking for deeper emotional attachments ,
you will be very disappointed once the affair is exposed.
I would agree with jusspacing.... (read in full...)
Some guys are so hard to read...Is he just leading me on?
Q. I have a crush on someone at work....well, we used to work together. I stopped working at this job over a year ago. I ran into this guy I had the crush on and used to work with. He actually seemed glad to see me, he said he was so glad he ran into...
A. 14 April 2008: He is a talker and not a doer.
Maybe , he could be waiting for you to take the bold step...
Why not , next time ,you initiate the meet up.
You ask him out and see how he will response?... (read in full...)
He told me he regretted not having a relationship with me, I really want him.
Q. I've known this guy for a year now and we were seeing eachother for a few months. He went back to his ex without telling me! Anyway 9 months later we met up again and we act like we are in a relationship, but he says he's not ready for one yet? But ...
A. 14 April 2008: There is nothing you can do when the other person does not want to play the game.
It is like you are riding a horse and along the way you see a very beautiful rose.
You can only view the rose or smell the fragrance and then move on.
If y... (read in full...)
We broke up because he slept with my sister, but I want him back!
Q. i really need some help, i dont know what to do about the situation im in.. ive being goin out with my boyfriend for over a year now, (16 months) and i adore him! but last night i found out that he has slept with my 13 year old sister!!!!!!! he is ...
A. 14 April 2008: Listen to your own conscience and do what you think is right.
Others may give their opinions .
You pick what is good and discard the bad ones.
It is your life and what you decide will affect your life.
If you want him back , you should f... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gives me "advice" and it seems controlling, so how do I set a boundary with this?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been dating a man for nearly a year now and our sex life is great. I feel love for him and he for me, but this is now feeling strained for me. He constantly feels the need to tell me what to do, how to do it when to do it, how I'm ...
A. 14 April 2008: Thank you for your kind thoughts.
It is very nice of you to give me 4 stars.
I am very touched by your generosity.
Your partner may not listen to words and walking away when you
feel that he has broken your boundaries is the best.
... (read in full...)
He don't give me money,but I feel he should do that sometimes or buy me things
Q. dear cupid, i've been in a relationship for four months now with a young charming guy,he is 27 n very matured. i get scared sometimes cos of things i have experienced in my past relationships.he is very nice n caring also matured as well,but i fi...
A. 13 April 2008: In your society it is expected that the men should help you financially even if you are working .
If he provides some financial assistance to you ,
you would enjoy a much better life.
That would prove his love for you .
It is not enoug... (read in full...)
I gave in to his request (oral sex) but he did not return the favour. Am I right to be upset?
Q. I recently gave my 1st blowjob to a guy I was dating. He wanted it so much and so I gave in. Although personally I felt the act demeaning, I didn't mind doing it as I was attracted to this guy so much. However when I asked him if he would return ...
A. 13 April 2008: I think it could be his sexual inhibitions or his cultural
views of oral sex. He could be coming from a prudish society
where oral sex is frowned upon or against the law of the country.
Does he treat you good in the other departments?
... (read in full...)
What is going on? Is he cheating?
Q. About 4 months ago I was checking his phone for someone's phone number and noticed a message. I checked his messages and it was a women that he works with telling him that she missed him and wants him to come visit her again. She ended the message ...
A. 13 April 2008: You only have circumstantial evidence and not full proof.
You cannot be 100% sure.
Does your husband treat you well?
If he treated you badly , it is a strong probability that he may have an affair with her.
Be vigilant and keep your eye... (read in full...)
Why is he so selfish in bed, I do everything - but get nothing in return!
Q. My boyfriend is so selfish in bed, our sex is praciticly a routine. I do everything for him, i want to be a good lover to him and i put his pleasure first. He asks me to wear sexy outfits and underwear when we have sex, which is fine with me. He ...
A. 13 April 2008: The only way to teach him is to mirror back his actions and
let him feel the sting.
You are not his sex slave but an equal partner.
You need to do that and not give in to him .
Demand for your rights .
Either he does what you wan... (read in full...)
I am a emotional mess, I need closure and I want to be happy once more.
Q. I am so torn. I have been with this guy for 5 years. He has been verbally abusive to me for the past 3. I am only here because I think I might be afraid of starting over. Worse, he has done a number on my self-esteem. He's put me down so much and ...
A. 13 April 2008: Take back control of your life and know that you are the only
one who can create your own happiness.
You do not have to depend on anyone to give you happiness.
Go out with your friends and do those things that you like.
That will make ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with him, but I have future plans that he can't be involved with.
Q. I'm dating a 25 year old man and i'm 17. I am in love with him, but secretly i don't want to be with him forever, because i have future plans that he can't be in. He has a beautiful daughter who I love and see as my own, and i truly don't want to h...
A. 13 April 2008: You can plan as much as you want but whether your plans will
be carried out in the near future, nobody knows.
You could change course half way through your life.
If you like him and his daughter now , there is no reason to break off this... (read in full...)
My father will forbid me from seeing my boyfriend, should I break up with him?
Q. I have a boyfriend...we've been together for 1 month, last week i asked my father whether i could have boyfriend or not, he told me that it was my decision. I'm 15 and my b/f is 17. The problem is that now my dad told me that he had been said tha...
A. 13 April 2008: As long as your b/f is not bad, there is nothing to worry about.
If he is bad, you would also not want him.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gives me "advice" and it seems controlling, so how do I set a boundary with this?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been dating a man for nearly a year now and our sex life is great. I feel love for him and he for me, but this is now feeling strained for me. He constantly feels the need to tell me what to do, how to do it when to do it, how I'm ...
A. 13 April 2008: If you are in a relationship , you try to please each other as best as you can.
However , there is a limit to every thing.
There is a point of tolerance and you should not go beyond that .
When you reached that point, the other partner... (read in full...)
I have to be whipped and shed blood for my country to consider me a "woman". I'm scared!
Q. In my country a girl must be whipped and shed blood for there to be a good harvest. If we flinch we dissapoint our clan. We then also aren't considered women... just girls. If I succeed I get a husbund. But I'm scared. Do you have advice?...
A. 13 April 2008: It is your culture and your custom.
Go ask your mother or other women relatives for their advise.
They could help you overcome the fear.
Do not think of the whipping , but think of what you will get after you go through this ritual.
... (read in full...)
My mother let my BF live and sleep with me since I was 14, two years later I am pregnant. How to tell her?
Q. how do i tell my mom i am prego at 16, should she already see this coming since my boyfriend lives with us and my boyfriend sleeps with me, does she want me to have a baby since she let him live with me since i was 14...
A. 13 April 2008: It could be your mother's plan.
She would know what she is doing to you.
Just tell her that you are pregnant.
You are sure you are pregnant?
... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't pay me compliments because, he says, I don't accept them. I feel ignored and unattractive.
Q. My husband and I have been married 10yerars and have beautiful children. I get upset because my husband never compliments me...ever....yet he often has eyes for other women when we are out and enjoys looking at the women in porn....I have told him I ...
A. 13 April 2008: You could be having a mid life crisis..
Marriage life falling into the rut and everything like routine .
He takes you for granted and the romance flew out through the windows.
You need to know if you are still attractive and sexy to m... (read in full...)
I'm jealous because the boy I like enjoys the company of a girl who shares his interest - playing the guitar...
Q. hello. i just found this site and i'm excited to see the answers... theres this boy at my university i get along with... my friends think we have this connection and says he really likes me. i didn't see it at all. after they told me i sort of not...
A. 13 April 2008: The most important thing in a relationship is chemistry and whether they can click together.
Once they can click , they will be on.
Some people are marathon runners and are slow to start.
She is a sprinter and have now got ahead of you.
... (read in full...)
This curiosity I have about my husband and his co-worker is driving me crazy!
Q. My husband has a co worker at work. I am not saying anything is going on between them it's just curiousity for the moment. I noticed that there are a considerable amount of text to and from her. Even one text was in reference to a job and she was ...
A. 13 April 2008: Curiosity kills the cat.
If you go on like this, you will end up being a paranoid and a wreck and will need psychiatric help soon.
You need to trust your husband and gives your worries to Jesus.
Otherwise , there will be no peace in your... (read in full...)
I have been sleeping with other men, but I don't want to ruin my current relationship of 4 years
Q. Hi everybody me and my man have been together for four years now we are very happy together and are getting married in three months time. i can honestly say i love him to bits and have never been with anyone who makes me so happy. but ther...
A. 13 April 2008: Would you accept him if your soon to be husband sleeps around with any girl ?
How do you look at this issue ?
If you don't want to ruin this relationship ,
then you should remain faithful to him.
If you continue to do what you are doin... (read in full...)
I'm 25, so why am I still single?
Q. Why am I still single? I'm a 25 year-old intelligent woman with a college education and a good job. I would say I'm above average in appearance, though slightly overweight, but I have lost weight recently and I'm getting many positive comments about ...
A. 13 April 2008: You are trying too hard to find a man to get married.
If you are desperate to get married , men will perceived you
like the T-Rex and out to devour them.
They will scoot off as fast as their feet can carry them.
Enjoy life for you are ... (read in full...)
I have a huge crush on a guy, but he's likes another girl, what can I do?
Q. I have a HUGE crush on this guy. But he likes another girl. What should I do?...
A. 13 April 2008: Stand beside the road and wave to him until he can see and feel your presence.
If he is still blinded by her, there is nothing you can do
about it till those scales dropped off from his eyes.
Good Luck.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mum saw me going in to the cinema with a male friend, (it was innocent) and has since made my life hell.
Q. I am 16 and have moved out of my home due to a few problems with my mum a few months ago. I have been currently living with my boyfriend and his mum. I have stared college and made a new friend. However i met her boyfriend at a party and we kissed ...
A. 13 April 2008: Apologize to your b/f's mum and tell her that it was a
thoughtless mistake and promised to her that it won't happen again.
Tell her that you choose your b/f and nobody else.
That should be enough to pacify her.
If it is a lost cause, ... (read in full...)
What do you think of my note of apology to my crush that I unsulted last week?
Q. I'm now in a very awkard siuation because I think I offended my crush by accident. I should apologize, but how? Here's what I wrote in my apology note: "Hey, I'm really sorry if I offended you last friday. You have every right to be mad at me....
A. 13 April 2008: The ball is at his feet.
It may not be as bad as you perceived it to be.
He may see it differently.
Anyway , you wait for his response.
You may still like the guy even if he does not have the time
to talk to you or give you access unl... (read in full...)
If I waited longer would I have gotten her?
Q. Thank you for even opening this thread .. I'm only a 16yr old male and this is the first time i've been this heart broken, I don't know if this applies to you but have you ever waited for someone you love soo much and in the end ...they slowl...
A. 13 April 2008: Who is she and why do you value her opinions so much?
She can think whatever she wants but you are not what you described here.
Prove to her that you are not what she thinks you are.
You will never get her and you are just wasting your ti... (read in full...)
I need money to help fund my tuition, but no one will employ me, what can I do?
Q. I am 17 and i'm a senior in highschool. I'm supposed to be going to college in September but I don't know how i'm gonna pay for things. Financial aid won't give me every penny I need. I've been trying to get a job since October of '07. I only had ...
A. 13 April 2008: Keep up your hope and spirit.
You will find a job soon to complement your financial aid.
Can you get other financial loans from your college to tide you over ?
Wish you all the luck and I pray that you will land a job soon.
... (read in full...)
Guy's opinions please...how could he do this to me? How could he just find someone else?
Q. I am in my fifties. I dated a guy for over two years, broke up last July of 07. He broke up, but he had become emotionally available. Question, how can they just move on to someone else after two months. He said he couldn't even afford a girlfriend ...
A. 13 April 2008: I am afraid that what you did for him was not enough for him
to acknowledge your dad's passing away.
Some men are just callous and do not care after they broke
up with you.It is a complete and total cut off.
If they have any kind o... (read in full...)
My husband is wonderful but I can't help seeing this guy outside of work! Anyone else have this problem?
Q. I have been married for almost 2 years (no kids) and am completely in love with a co-worker. He has been married for 8 (2 kids). We both knew we were married and could tell that we had a thing for each other- while traveling for work we ended up ...
A. 13 April 2008: Forbidden fruits are always sweet but the after effects is very bitter to the taste.
Now you may enjoy the sweet part of the fruit but when the
bitter part comes, I hope you can stomach it.
Think of two families happiness being destroye... (read in full...)
Co-worker confusion!! How do I interpret his actions?
Q. how to tell if your male coworker likes you? okay, so i got promoted and transferred to a new store recently. I've been there for about a week, and I happen to work with a few people who trained at my old store. Theres this guy who's a little a...
A. 13 April 2008: It depends on whether you are interested to meet him and know
more of him or meet more men at that function.
If you are free, why not go and maybe you may see something you like .
You could be going there as a friend and nothing more.... (read in full...)
What does it take to get the guy you like to ask you out?!
Q. What does it take to get the guy you like to ask you out? Say if you think he's been keen, but your not so sure, he's kinda pushing you to say something or say it first? what does it take for me to get him to ask me out? im tired of chasi...
A. 13 April 2008: Guys are visual creatures.
Wear some sexy low cut dress and some cosmetics.
That would perked them up and take notice of you.
Suggest to them where you would like to go.
If they are interested, they will jumped at your suggestions.... (read in full...)
I want to give up university for a modelling career
Q. hey everyone here is the thing..i am in university right now pursiuing a highly qualified profession which takes nearly 6 years to finish studying but i am not happy in this field..i was interested initially and now i have lost interest..i think i ...
A. 12 April 2008: Only you know what is best for yourself.
You can get a U education later on.
Doing something against your interest will kill all joys.
Contact those modeling agencies or you get spotted by those talent head hunters.
Good luck to... (read in full...)
My best friend just wont hang out with me, why?
Q. I have a friend that I've known since high school 10th grade. We used to always hang at her house and we've been to the mall ONCE out of our entire friendship. Whenever I call her up and say, "let's hang out or go to a restaurant" she always come...
A. 12 April 2008: Her perceptions of you have changed.
It could be something you did or said or did not do or said.
The chemistry is no more there and it is time to discard the old for the new.
Time and tide waits for no man.
Let her go..... (read in full...)
Having a relationship with my dad's friend, should I tell my parents?
Q. Hi, i am 17 and my dads friend (who is 42) has told me he has had feelings for me for a long time, we have kissed on a few occasions and have been away on a weekend together where we had sex which i really enjoyed. I really like him, but i think ...
A. 12 April 2008: If you are very serious with him , you should inform your
parents as they are wiser and can see through him whether he
is the right one or he is taking advantage of you.
Sooner or later , it will be exposed.
You are too young and i... (read in full...)
3yrs and he still hasn't got divorced, should I stay or should I go?
Q. What should i do? If my boyfriend of three years hasn't gotten a divorce, should i stay or should i go? He says he will do it soon, even his wife says she doesn't love him any more....
A. 12 April 2008: Married men are usually fence sitters.
They will sit on the fence as long as they can.
If you want them to come down on your side,
you will have to take away the fence.
They will then have to decide who they want.
If they still cann... (read in full...)
My boyfriends a real mamma's boy
Q. Hey all... i can really do with some advice on this topic. my boyfriend is a real mamma's boy. i know you can't change a person but what can i do about this. he phones his mom every day and then i'm not allowed to know what they discuss. he says ...
A. 12 April 2008: He is psychologically and physically married to his mother.
There is nothing you can do about that.
You can wait and be patient till eternity or you get out and get him to change.
Either he comes to your terms or shipped out.
He is a ... (read in full...)
How do you find the strength to leave a relationship that you know is not good for you and will probably never change?
Q. How do you find the strength to leave a relationship that you know is not good for you and will probably never change? I know everyone says being alone will be fine, but I have panic attacks just thinking about it. I know I am possibly a bit ...
A. 12 April 2008: If you want to leave an abusive relationship,
you need to plan in secrecy.
You will require financial resources , legal help and emotional support.
If you are in Australia , you can contact the Women's Refugees Referral and Resource ce... (read in full...)
I've dated a guy for a week now and he is already saying he loves m.!!!!
Q. I've dated a guy for a week now and he is already saying he loves me. i don't know how anyone can love some one so quickly. im kinda freaking out, he wants me to say it back, but i don't know if i love him, or even want to keep on dating him. what ...
A. 12 April 2008: A man can fall in love at first sight.
The moment he sets eyes on you , he can fall instantly in love with you.
His kind of love is not the same as the woman's kind of love
, but his love is like lusts or possessions.
You need... (read in full...)
I hit my pregnant girlfriend and now she is ignoring me! I feel awful...
Q. I hit my girlfriend and she is 5 months pregnant i feel bad and everthing but she is ignoring me and i dont get. I said sorry she was winding me up and i hit her i really need to see what can i do please help i feel awful. PLZ HELP?! she is alot ...
A. 12 April 2008: If you have apologized to her,there is nothing more you can do
but wait till she forgive you and accept you back.
Give her some time to come around.
Everyone make mistakes and no one is perfect.
No one should judge you.
... (read in full...)
My soulmate has left me "broken" and I have lost the best person in my life!
Q. i am a girl, and i had a friend(a guy) who was almost my soul mate, we were really close friends and we became close in a very short time bcz we had a lot in common, and we were both single. we work in the same company, so we see eahc other ...
A. 11 April 2008: Thats great! You two have been given another chance.
I hope you will learn to be more appreciative of each other
and treat each other like jewels to be cherished , admired and
treasured. ... (read in full...)
He's 41 I'm nearly 18, but we're two worlds apart. How can I fix this?
Q. I have a 41 year old boyfriend and i'm 17(almost 18). Is this too big of a difference?? What should I do?? It's only 23 years, but he's so much smarter than i am about the world and much more experienced. How can I fix this '2 different worlds' ...
A. 11 April 2008: Love is a very beautiful thing.
It has no creed, no colour , no smell and no age or boundaries.
Everyone of us is unique and if you are happy being with
him and all your needs are met , that is all that matters.
Life is not without pro... (read in full...)
Will my penis size prevent me from getting my wife pregnant?
Q. I m woried about my penise size it is about 4.2 inches next year i plan to get married and i m worid can i satisfied my life partner and with this size i can make her preganent plz. advised me...
A. 10 April 2008: The average male can do the job adequately ,
but pleasing her is another field in which you need to learn
how to please her satisfactory as each person is different.
... (read in full...)
He's 41 I'm nearly 18, but we're two worlds apart. How can I fix this?
Q. I have a 41 year old boyfriend and i'm 17(almost 18). Is this too big of a difference?? What should I do?? It's only 23 years, but he's so much smarter than i am about the world and much more experienced. How can I fix this '2 different worlds' ...
A. 10 April 2008: If you like his world , then you should not fix it as there is nothing wrong with his world.
If you love him , you should build more bridges and meet him somewhere on that bridge.
Whether you are made for each other , only God knows.... (read in full...)
My soulmate has left me "broken" and I have lost the best person in my life!
Q. i am a girl, and i had a friend(a guy) who was almost my soul mate, we were really close friends and we became close in a very short time bcz we had a lot in common, and we were both single. we work in the same company, so we see eahc other ...
A. 5 April 2008: If you want this relationship to heal ,
either one of you will have to apologize.
If you want him more , then you need to apologize to mend back this relationship.
If he loves you , he will come back to you.... (read in full...)
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