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*herry707
writes:What should i do? If my boyfriend of three years hasn't gotten a divorce, should i stay or should i go? He says he will do it soon, even his wife says she doesn't love him any more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008): Hang on to all those that judge. There are many reasons for not starting a divorce. I have held off simply because it has taken my family a long long time to adjust to my separation. I have a lovely boyfriend who is patient. A divorce is my next step but it has taken 2 years already for me to get my strength up - the strength needed to manage a divorce successfully without trauma. Everyone seems to think a divorce has to be a drama - all guns blazing. If you give things time to cool down, time for people to get used to it all like its inevitable it will be ok. It sounds like your man has the right environment now. Perhaps you could apply more encouragement by talking things through and be direct. Good luck with it.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (12 April 2008):
 Married men are usually fence sitters.
They will sit on the fence as long as they can.
If you want them to come down on your side,
you will have to take away the fence.
They will then have to decide who they want.
If they still cannot decide, then it will be your decision to make.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008): I don't know what to say but he may still love her or just don't have the money to do it. Who knows but himself.
Just move on with your life. It's been three years. If he really wanted it, he would have divorced her a LONG time.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (12 April 2008):
 Ok, I'm assuming they arent legally seperated either. So he is cheating on his wife. What makes you think he wouldn't cheat on you? Women should never date a married man. You set yourself up for heartbreak and most likely no future. I say you should go. Good luck with everything.
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