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*aya666
writes:i am a girl, and i had a friend(a guy) who was almost my soul mate, we were really close friends and we became close in a very short time bcz we had a lot in common, and we were both single. we work in the same company, so we see eahc other everyday. we told each other everything, stood by each other in difficult moments and happy moments. we talked every night before sleep and we msged each other many times.he used to tell me i love u, in a friendly way and i used to say so do i.. and all that we were just two best friends and everythin was great between us. he always used to describe be the girl of his dreams and i never ever though he would ever think of me that way cz he really never did. until one day a guy asked me out and he was really jealous and couldnt stand it.. called me and told me he loves me.. i was shocked and my reaction and wat i said upset him and i made him feel that i dont want him back. but i love him and i dont wanna lose his friendship.. he stopped talking to me, at work, he doesnt even look at me.. he sends me msgs and tells me im so broken right now i cant even work and look at u.. its hurting me so much.. i lost the best thing in my life
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (11 April 2008):
 Thats great! You two have been given another chance.
I hope you will learn to be more appreciative of each other
and treat each other like jewels to be cherished , admired and
treasured.
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reader, Maya666 +, writes (10 April 2008):
Maya666 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you all for ur answers, laura1318, u were right.. he did come back to me yesterday and i admit it, u all are right. i have hurt him and myself too
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): It sound like this guy has got close to you, and you exchanged intimacies (you said he was your soulmate). What i can't understand is why you would then go date another guy. Why not go with the guy youre close too.
My guess is you don't find the guy physically attactive. If this is the case you shouldn't have lead him on. Why should the guy stand by as a loyal friend (hopefully lover) whilst you date other men. Has he not feelings too? My guess is the guy is rightfully hurt, when will women learn men and women are never just goodfriends. Have you seen the movie when Harry met Sally.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): My guess is you gave him the 'i like you as a friend speech'. Nothing can be more insulting to a man than this speech. What he hears is your not 'mating material' 'youre inadequate as a man'
Good luck
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (5 April 2008):
If you want this relationship to heal ,
either one of you will have to apologize.
If you want him more , then you need to apologize to mend back this relationship.
If he loves you , he will come back to you.
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reader, Maya666 +, writes (5 April 2008):
Maya666 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for ur reply =) its helpful and i agree with u in some points ..
like many other companies , co workers shouldnt date and i dont think its ever gonna happen cz like u said he sound dramatic & doesnt talk to me any more.. he is looking 4 a different job now..he says seeing me everyday breaks him into pieces and he cant stand that
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reader, Maya666 +, writes (5 April 2008):
Maya666 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for ur reply =) its helpful and i agree with u in some points ..
like many other companies , co workers shouldnt date and i dont think its ever gonna happen cz like u said he sound dramatic & doesnt talk to me any more.. he is looking 4 a different job now..he says seeing me everyday breaks him into pieces and he cant stand that
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): First off honey, I don't believe in soul mates. Because there are many many possible sould mates out there for us.
This guy sounds pretty dramatic and immature to have such a strong reaction to you having a date with another guy when the two of you were always just friends and coworkers, this would worry me some if I were you about his emotional stability. However, I have never met the guy, so I can't really make a definitive judgement.
That said, use YOUR best judgement about how healthy he is, and it seems pretty easy to fix. If he really wants to be with you and never told you, then tell him you had no idea how he felt and say to him that you would like to pick up where you left off, make a clean slate and move foward with your relationship and that you feel the same way...that you think there is something very special about him.
I wonder though, if you might be risking your jobs over this....how does your company view interoffice dating? Just move carefully with your eyes open.
Take care.
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