My friend was raped yesterday and I need some advice.
Q. My friend is 16 and she got raped yesterday. we were at a party with friends only and she drank quite a lot, and fell asleep. I then left the party because I had other responsiblity, and so I left her with my other friends, who i trusted. Today ...
A. 22 April 2008: I am sorry that you have been thrusted upon a grave matter on your young shoulders.
You are not expected to offer any solutions or remedies to her problem.
All you can do is to be there for her , to listen , to emphatize and to share her sadnes... (read in full...)
My friend was raped yesterday and I need some advice.
Q. My friend is 16 and she got raped yesterday. we were at a party with friends only and she drank quite a lot, and fell asleep. I then left the party because I had other responsiblity, and so I left her with my other friends, who i trusted. Today ...
A. 21 April 2008: Walker-thee has got a good point.
You would not want to compel your friend to go against her wishes.
Whether she is right or wrong, she will have to bear the consequences and not you .
Therefore , do respect her wishes and don't force h... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lost his "size" due to steroids, can he regain it?
Q. My boyfriend used steroids at one point in his teens to get bigger. He got bigger, but his tool (if you know what I mean) got smaller. About as long as his middle finger and three times the circumfrence. This is not really a problem for me (he ...
A. 21 April 2008: I don't think those steroids did any damage to his tools.
His body got bigger and his penis looks relatively smaller as
though it was damaged.
Sorry , those steroids did not make his penis bigger.
They were just the same.
When the ... (read in full...)
He lies to his family about seeing me again after the break up. What does all this mean? Am I just being too sensitive?
Q. I went out with my boyfriend for 2 years, and then we broke up for 9 months, and have started seeing each other again for the past 4 months. I am very frustrated at the fact that he hides our relationship from his family. For example, he woul...
A. 21 April 2008: The best thing to do is the hear from the lion's mouth.
If you are unhappy and you need to know why,
then you need to communicate with him
Ask him whats the problem?... (read in full...)
When he walked off he turned back to look at me. Did this mean anything?
Q. Hey all, I'm all messed up so decided to ask for your friendly help. Basically today I saw my ex we've split up over a year ago and when we did I was devastated and was left with wanting to ask many questions as I had no reason for us splitting up....
A. 21 April 2008: He may have shown some renewed interest for you.
You can still be a friend to him and try to see what is his present status .
Then you can communicate with him and decide if you want him back or not.... (read in full...)
Our relationship is very friendly and sexual but he is also sleeping with other women. If I tell him I fell for him, will he give up this life of freedom?
Q. I have had a crush on a guy since I was 16. At 25, I told him that I had a thing for him. He did not seem to interested at the time, but I guess I was ignoring the signals, especially when he asked for my number. We spoke a few times, but I was ...
A. 21 April 2008: Plant the seed of love in his heart soil and watch it grow.
When the plant grows and bloom , then you will know the answer to that other question.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated with his ex at the beginning of our relation and continued to maintain contact with her. Could we move on? Can he forget her?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for half a year. He was with his ex for 3-4 years up to the point we met and starting going out. Their breakup was mutual. With me, he made the first move to initiate a serious relationship. A week into it...he cheated on ...
A. 21 April 2008: It depends on your relationship with him.
If you can meet all his needs, his ex may fade away.
If there are problems in your relationship ,
he maybe tempted to go back to his ex.
He should not have any contact whatsoever with his ex o... (read in full...)
We have been together for 6 years, but we are always arguing over minor incidents. Is it time to let go?
Q. me and my fiance have been together for 6 years. the first year and a half was brilliant. but bad things in our life started happening. and after a while we fell apart. always argueing over the most stupid things. i know most of it is my fault. and ...
A. 21 April 2008: Before marriage, open both eyes,
after marriage close one eye.
Give and take some and respect each other's opinions.
Keep away from contentious issues.
Don't argue.Agree that you have different opinions.
Treat him well and walk that ex... (read in full...)
Can he still treat me well if he doesn't believe in God?
Q. Ok my question is what do you do if you have this guy that treats you really great but he don't believe in god and that's really important to you and that he don't have a car or cell phone or job but he lives at home and he's going to be going to ...
A. 21 April 2008: If he is not ready yet, you should save your breath because nothing will enter his head.
When he starts asking questions and want to know more, then he is ready to accept what you will say.
Your exemplary Christian behaviour will influence h... (read in full...)
Crazed and confused!
Q. I recently started dating a guy that I had been friends with for about 8 months. Once we started acknowledging that we had feelings for each other, things moved ridiculously fast. A week ago, we went out on a date and every time he touched me, I ...
A. 21 April 2008: Love is a many splendid thing.
It is like the elixir of life that makes you want more and more.
Everything becomes beautiful....... (read in full...)
He said he didn't want to get serious with another female but should I trust what I hear?
Q. I was in an official relationship with a guy for a little over 3 months. Before that we'd met through some friends and got off to talking constantly right off the bat. The entire first month and a half of our relationship we'd talk every night for ...
A. 21 April 2008: In life, never trust anybody totally.
It is better to be prudent than to be sorry.
When it comes to love, anything can happens because love is blind.... (read in full...)
What do you do when you feel unwanted? I want to be in a relationship with him so badly but I feel like I'm not good enough for him!
Q. hi, im 18 years old and there is this guy that ive been knowing since i as in middle school. after graduation from 8th grade we both went our seperate ways he was never a guy i would think i would have an interest in because he wa a nerd back ...
A. 21 April 2008: If a man loves a woman , it does not matter if she comes from the hovel or gutters.
He loves her for who she is.You should not think , you are not good enough for him.
Man does not think that way.
If you want him to take notice of you , you... (read in full...)
Can he still treat me well if he doesn't believe in God?
Q. Ok my question is what do you do if you have this guy that treats you really great but he don't believe in god and that's really important to you and that he don't have a car or cell phone or job but he lives at home and he's going to be going to ...
A. 21 April 2008: People who believed that there is no God in this world does
not mean that they do not know anything about God or the 10 Commandments.
It is just that they cannot accept the truth for now.
They think it is a lie .
We have to respect thei... (read in full...)
I want to back out without getting hurt. What to do?
Q. I'm in a relationship with a lady who sounds like a pain in the neck. She almost takes every little issue to an unbearable stage.We fight almost every day and that is not my style. I'm looking for a way to back out without any hurting vibes for ...
A. 21 April 2008: If you entered a viper's pit, don't expect to get off without
being bitten here and there.
Since you have been bitten so much , you should be immuned to her poison.
There is no way you can escape the mother of all bites if
you want to... (read in full...)
He wants me to stop making myself feel bad but he's making me more insecure.
Q. I am wondering how to feel better about myself when 1 my fiance is saying he won't watch porn by hisself and does when he knows and has known I don't like it.has known from day one. 2 he says he is different but still says every guy in america ...
A. 21 April 2008: Women worries a lot and have insecurity issues.
Whether he is watching porn, watching other women , flirting
with other women or working with female colleagues, it is
always a issue to the wife or g/f.
The problem lies not in him b... (read in full...)
I think of my teacher as my dad, do I tell him?
Q. I think of my teacher as my dad...is this normal? Should I tell him?...
A. 21 April 2008: Your teacher is like an extension of your dad.
Well! It is no harm if you let him know that.
He would be proud of that.... (read in full...)
Can he still treat me well if he doesn't believe in God?
Q. Ok my question is what do you do if you have this guy that treats you really great but he don't believe in god and that's really important to you and that he don't have a car or cell phone or job but he lives at home and he's going to be going to ...
A. 21 April 2008: You should respect his beliefs.
What good if he believed in God but does not follow the tenets of the religion ?
Who would you choose,a person who does not believe in the
existence of God but is good or a person who believes in God but is b... (read in full...)
My younger boyfriend has cheated and insults me, what should I do?
Q. i and my honey have been together for almost 2 years. i really love him so much even if he is younger than me. last november he cheated on me and said sorry for that and i did coz i was in love with him but know i am tired of him specially after i ...
A. 21 April 2008: You could walk away from all this if you wanted.
If you do not want to leave, then you need to be more
affirmative and tell him your limits and boundaries.
Don't let him trample and walk all over you like a doormat.
If you do no... (read in full...)
Do lads like a girl who can make them laugh?
Q. a lad told me he thinks im funny n i make him laugh - do lads generally like a girl who can make them laugh? x...
A. 20 April 2008: Laughter is the best medicine.
Everyone love a humourous person.
If you can make them laugh, you can win them over easily.
... (read in full...)
The girl that I love is one that I work with but I don't think she likes me back
Q. the girl that i love is one that i work with. i never stop thinking about her, but i dont think she likes me back. when i fist atarted liking her she was friendly to me, but know she seems distant and talks to the other lads more. i sent her an ...
A. 20 April 2008:
Before she knew your intentions , it was O.K with her .
But after you showed your true intentions for her, it became awkward .
She felt that she could not accept your overtures.
I don't think she is into you .
This relationship is da... (read in full...)
My friend was raped yesterday and I need some advice.
Q. My friend is 16 and she got raped yesterday. we were at a party with friends only and she drank quite a lot, and fell asleep. I then left the party because I had other responsiblity, and so I left her with my other friends, who i trusted. Today ...
A. 20 April 2008: Why won't she go to the police?
Is there something that we do not know?
Tell her not to wash her panties because they can get the DNA of the perpetrators.(That is if she wants to go to the police)
... (read in full...)
Is saying no to sex when you don't feel like it a bad or good thing?
Q. Is saying no to sex when you don't feel like it a good or a bad thing? Sure you don't feel like it so why shouldn't you say no? But is that the sort of way you'd like your partner to treat you when you're the one wanting it? Personally if ...
A. 20 April 2008: I am very sorry for your dilemma.
She may need to see a sexual therapist to probe for her reasons.
It could be some sexual inhibitions or psychological sexual
trauma or whatever is affecting her from close intimacy with you.
... (read in full...)
What can I do to get sex more than once a month?!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and in the 4 years I only get sex once a month sometimes once every 3 to 4 months. What can I do to get some love....
A. 20 April 2008: Initiate more sex with him or wear your most sexy outfit and some makeups when he is with you.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for him to tell me how long he's been married? What does this mean?
Q. Please give me your opinion! I have a friend who's married and to my knowledge he's happily married. He was telling me the other day he's being married for 3 years now, and he was kinda complaining that he travels a lot and this time he'll lose the...
A. 20 April 2008: I don't think there is any issue here and neither is there any
motive but just plain and normal talk.... (read in full...)
Does taking a break ever work or does it mean it's really over?
Q. My name is Aimee, and I am 20 years old. My boyfriend decided about 2 weeks ago that he wanted to break up. He took all of his stuff and went back to his parents. We had lived together for about a year. And we have been on and off during that time. ...
A. 20 April 2008: If you have been living together and he wants out ,
then it is not a good omen.
He may feel that he wants more space or he is not matured
enough or responsible enough for a deeper relationship.
Relationship should grow from... (read in full...)
My friend was raped yesterday and I need some advice.
Q. My friend is 16 and she got raped yesterday. we were at a party with friends only and she drank quite a lot, and fell asleep. I then left the party because I had other responsiblity, and so I left her with my other friends, who i trusted. Today ...
A. 20 April 2008: You need to weight the pros and the cons of this rape case.
It is not easy to proof rape in such a case and it may get thrown out without any convictions.
If she reports it , she may have to relive those scenes and receive plenty of public... (read in full...)
I'm not shallow but she wants to wait to have sex....that could be years!
Q. I'm in a bit of a pickle right now and I could use some advice. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for about six months now. And we started talking about how we feel about sex. She told me she wants to wait until marriage and I'm fine with ...
A. 20 April 2008: Things are not always black and white.
You are still young and there are many things you have not experienced or encountered in your life.
At your age, you do have high ideals about life , sex and
marriage but as the months progressed, y... (read in full...)
How do I get over my hang-ups about being an active participant in sex?
Q. Hi, I'm just looking for some advice and insight about some sticky bits in my relationship (our sticky bits? haha). We've been dating for half a year and only started sleeping together in the last two months. He's in his late 20s and older than m...
A. 20 April 2008: If you love this relationship , you should be able to overcome this shortcomings.
Maybe you could invest in a vibrator or dildo for more pleasure.
Non penetrative sex is just as enjoyable if you know how to pleasure each other .
This comes ... (read in full...)
We only dry hump so his penis has never even been near my vagina. Could I be pregnant?
Q. Now, I SWEAR to you, I’ve never had a penis in my vagina. My boyfriend and I have done just about everything else though. We commonly dry-hump in nothing but our underwear… and I give him hand jobs, but he’s never cum anywhere near my vagina. ...
A. 20 April 2008: How long human sperm can live outside the human body depends
on several things: temperature and humidity among them.
At room temperature (75 ?F or 25 ?C) without dehydration the
sperm can live between 4 and 6 hours.
Dehydration m... (read in full...)
Do you think he like me even though he has a girlfriend?
Q. I have recently become involved in a play and I met this guy who I have a huge crush on. But there's one problem. He has a girlfriend. I found this out after I had one of my friends talk to him for me. She told him that I liked him and he said ...
A. 20 April 2008: He likes you but he has got a cheating heart.
You better be careful.... (read in full...)
I thought he was out my league, how can I get himto ask me out again?
Q. I was at the gym and met this very handsome gentleman. We were very flirtatious everytime we saw each other but I knew nothing would come out of it because he is definately out of my league and I didn't think a guy like him would ask out a girl ...
A. 20 April 2008: The next time you meet again, just ask him directly for a date.
Maybe , you should hold till he asked again or if it is not coming then you asked him out.
This is equality of the sexes.
... (read in full...)
I want to get him out of my life - but how?
Q. I need help I'm trying to get over my ex! I have relapsed 2 times now I'm trying to not go 2 weeks without talking to him then end up seeing him again.I know he's no good for me I just feel alone and need some company and see him. I would think I ...
A. 20 April 2008: Think of all his bad habits and demonized him..
You will puked when you think of his name.
Your brain will reject him when continuously fed this message.... (read in full...)
I feel like his looking at porn is hurting our relationship, should I tell him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now, and everything is great except for one thing. He looks at porn a lot, almost every day. I knew for months before I confronted him, because he never cleared his history so I saw the large amount...
A. 20 April 2008: If you feel that your relationship is hurting ,
then you need to communicate with him and solve this problem together.
Tell him your feelings and what your needs and wants are as he
may not know as he cannot read your mind.
Get him of... (read in full...)
He had pre-cum on his penis but I'm still a virgin. Could I be pregnant?
Q. I almost lost my virginity....he went inside of me and we didnt have a condom on.he had pre cum on his penis.can i be preganant...
A. 20 April 2008: Thought the chances of getting pregnant is very slim ,
yet you run the risk of getting pregnant.
Whether you will be pregnant or not, only God knows.
If you missed your next period by 3 to 5 days, you can get a self test.
If you just had... (read in full...)
Does a second attempt at a relationship can really work in the end?
Q. Hi. I met a man a year ago on a dating site over the net. Four inconsistent months later, he informed me of his being in a three-year relationship where "she never once introduced him to her children" thereby him feeling "shunned" deluding ...
A. 20 April 2008: There are so many probabilities.
Sometimes a second shot may work and it depends on a case by case basis.
Maybe with time and increased maturity , they could overcome their original problems that besotted them.
Nobody can give a def... (read in full...)
Any ideas on how to spark up a relationship again?
Q. So I have been going out with this guy for 11months now. We had 4 months together everyday, then a month in december everyday together, other than that it was jst seeing him every weekend. We sometimes would argue but then be playful toward each ...
A. 20 April 2008: Pour more fuel and add more firewoods and light a spark....
You need to get more involved and more interested in what he
is doing at present to spark his interest.... (read in full...)
The way he replied to my joke makes me wonder if I'm just a "pal". What do you think?
Q. I send him a joke, and he just replied. "Funny Stuff. How are things down there?" I live in a state south from where he is. We haven't communicate that much lately, so he sending that note to me makes me wonder if it's a light way of him wanting to ...
A. 20 April 2008: There isn't much information here.
I think that is a normal reaction from him.
How do you expect his reactions to be?
... (read in full...)
Is saying no to sex when you don't feel like it a bad or good thing?
Q. Is saying no to sex when you don't feel like it a good or a bad thing? Sure you don't feel like it so why shouldn't you say no? But is that the sort of way you'd like your partner to treat you when you're the one wanting it? Personally if ...
A. 20 April 2008: I sympathize with your problem.
I agree with you that your thoughts are noble and the Bible
states that our body belongs to the other half and we should
not stop the other half from enjoying them.
This is the correct way according to ... (read in full...)
She won't respond to me so should I try again or just move on?
Q. I recently got to know this girl who works near my place of work and we have spent a lot of time talking to each other up till midnight most days and during work time we constantly sent text messages to each other she new I wanted to be more than ...
A. 20 April 2008: I think you should pretend you have amnesia and just forget that you have invited her.
The next time you meet or talk, you pretend that incident never happened at all.
If you are still interested in her, go slowly.... (read in full...)
At first he "felt sorry for me" but now he wants me! What should I do?
Q. I have known this guy since working with him during the week, and at first, when I was kinda having problems settling in etc, he took an interest in me cos he 'felt sorry' for me. I found him v supportive and felt great. Downside, I am 22, he's 33. ...
A. 20 April 2008: Tell him the truth that you just want to be friends only and
you are not ready for any relationships.... (read in full...)
He shakes uncontrollably....how should I respond?
Q. Hoping someone can help me with info here. I work with a guy I like very much. At break time at work when we are sitting around the table he will shake uncontrollably sometimes and I do not know how to respond. I would consider it rude to ask what ...
A. 20 April 2008: Involuntary muscle spasms. Sometimes the muscles can go into a spasm.
There are many causes..
You just accept it as he cannot control them.
You can read it here...
http://www.wrongdiagnosis.com... (read in full...)
Why are guys so obsessed with breasts?
Q. Why are guys so obsessed with breasts? It's unfair! I see so much naked boobs online, and the obsession with whose cleavage is hotter, this and that, and I feel inadequate! In a normal day I feel that my breasts look pretty, but then all this ...
A. 20 April 2008: Count your blessings that you still have a whole and complete body.
There are people who have no hands or legs or just the upper torso alone.
Treasure and appreciate what you have.... (read in full...)
I touch myself in public which is embarrassing. Why am I horny?
Q. why are we horny all the time! i dont get it. i look at porn enjoy it and still in public i have to mess with myself. its embarrasing. HELP!...
A. 20 April 2008: Could be your raging hormones and too much porn.
It will pass.
Take your mind out of the gutter and refocus on the good things in life.... (read in full...)
My friend was raped yesterday and I need some advice.
Q. My friend is 16 and she got raped yesterday. we were at a party with friends only and she drank quite a lot, and fell asleep. I then left the party because I had other responsiblity, and so I left her with my other friends, who i trusted. Today ...
A. 20 April 2008: As a friend, you need to respect her decisions.
Do not force her to make decisions which she does not like.
Give her more time to think over.... (read in full...)
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