Why do people think it's wrong of me to not date within my own race?
Q. I've had people telling me that I cant "like" other people from different cultural/racial background. I don't understand why because as far as I'm concerned getting to know the individual is far more important. E.g The guy I like is mixed race (ha...
A. 22 January 2012: Response to IamHeretoHelpYou & AuntieSuzie: I understand where you are coming from here, that is a good point to make .However I just wanted to clarify that I didn't mean to generalize all black men of course,that's why I put "sometimes ". I know I ... (read in full...)
Is drunken fumbling meaningful?
Q. Does he like me or was it because we were both drunk? Guy in my class invited me to his birthday drink up with a couple of his mates.I was the only girl. Didn't mind, we're good friends( forgot to mention i kinda fancy him!) So we got drunk at ...
A. 19 December 2011: he didn't make a move on me plus he was the one looking after me all night. the drinking was just thethe fun social part of it . I had a great night, no regrets but I was just curious ...... (read in full...)
I want to live in London or America - any advice?
Q. Does anyone know if there is anywhere in London, or America, where you can live in, and also get help with job applications ?. There is a place where i live that you can live in ( it's called a foyer ) and the staff who work there also help you to ...
A. 2 November 2010: Celtic Tiger I need to speak to you urgently but I cant get through to you .You said if I ever needed your help I should contact you. Can you PM me please?This is serious. Thanks... (read in full...)
Time is not healing me at all! What should I do about my boy situation?
Q. I’m 15, never dated and never kissed and really f**ked over. There’s this boy. Let’s call him x. I’ve been inappropriately close to him 3 times in the past year. We became tight over internet chat over the July holidays. He always made me...
A. 10 September 2010: Omg you are just like me!
No joke, I am actually in the same situation as you .My guy promised to to leave "her" too . He did, but we just never happened.So I am just as confused as you!
I am 15 just like you and I'm not that experienced with... (read in full...)
Am I running away from my feelings for this girl?
Q. Ok, am I running away from my feelings. I met this girl at camp and I fell for her. We hung out at camp and became friends, we didn`t leave camp on very good terms (I told her I liked her but in a cowerdly way) she truth or dared me to tell her who ...
A. 8 September 2010: Yes, you are avoiding. Well running away from the problem doesnt help (trust me, been there and done that )It can make your feelings stronger for her and not solve anything. Therefore, you should confront the issue, like petinal said -talk to her on ... (read in full...)
I've never kissed anyone, But I really want too!
Q. hi! well, i've never kissed anyone but i really want to soon. how do you get someone to kiss you? im 15 and i'm a girl. a lot of guys like me but im not aloud to date until im 17. my parents are very protective and i cannot change that. i cant go to ...
A. 24 August 2010: Heey, Im just like you!Im 15 and I feel the same way too. I am aloud to date but I choose not to, I have had guys lean in to kiss me before but I didnt respond because I didnt know what to do! Oh, the shame. I really really really wanted to do it ... (read in full...)
Why does my body love him when he makes me sick?
Q. I've just recently realised a guy I've liked for ages is using me. So I've only just learnt that he isnt the guy for me, and that I should ignore him for the best.But why do I feel completely different around him, when he is near me? Its like my ...
A. 21 August 2010: is it lust? I cant belive Im lusting it sounds like something horrible! thank you for your diagnosis, its going to be hard but like you said- its in my power to overcome. Honestly , thank you.
God Bless
-CC... (read in full...)
Are my breasts too big?
Q. hi everyone! I'm a 15 year old girl and I have a small problem with my breasts A LOT of guys my age think they are too big, while other guys that are a bit older think they are fine... why's that? I don't want to go out with an old perv just ca...
A. 6 August 2010: Heey, I'm 15 too and I am a 28FF. I know where you're coming from, I always get the wrong attention! Its so annoying so I always make sure I dress appropriately. NEVER do do Cleavage unless you want people talking to your chest and not you. I once ... (read in full...)
Are my breasts too big for my age?
Q. im 14 and everyone says my breast a too big.. i have a small body frame.. and im 5 foot 2in... and my breast are almost 32e i dont like them at all and i've been dating guys older than me.. are they only dating me cuz my breasts?? can i make t...
A. 6 August 2010: Heey dont worry so much! Im 15 and my breasts are 28FF. I get what you mean, sometimes I think boys who take an interest in me are only after one thing too. But be WISE, do you think dating older boys is a good idea? I say your breasts are fine.
L... (read in full...)
Why am I so awkward?
Q. [OP original title] so i've always been kinda shy but i guess its just the paranoia of wat ppl think of me gets to me all the time when i try to talk to someone.i can never think straight. i can't focus on the topic at hand.last night i was at a bbq ...
A. 6 August 2010: Heey, I've been through a stage where I've felt I was too awkward and almost anti- social. But as time went by and I learnt about myself ,I learnt that there was nothing wrong with me. The only reason why I acted awkward in social situation was ... (read in full...)
Facebook Poke: Why hasn't he poked me back?
Q. Theres a guy in my school who watches me and I watch him. Havent talked to this guy in ages (partly because Im really shy) So I was on Facebook today and decided that I was going to poke him. I did, hoping he might just do the same but so far no ...
A. 17 May 2010: Hey there, just wanted to say Im 15, turned 15 last month. You're so right about how clueless i am in the social department. Im absaloutly inexperienced. I've had a thing going on with this guy before but then we stopped talking. I wanted to talk to ... (read in full...)
Mother and sisters pressure me to have a boyfriend
Q. I feel pressured to get a boyfriend! Ive only just turned 15 and it seems like the world keeps pressuring me about getting a boyfriend. My mum keeps calling me a lesbian and that makes me feel awful. My older sister( who by the way is married) t...
A. 25 April 2010: Thank you for the answers, just wanted to state my mum and sisters are not bad people. I can understand where they are coming from.
You see at my age ,my mum and sister both had boyfriends and stuff ,soon567 i can understand what you are sayi... (read in full...)
I need a miracle!!!
Q. I have a major problem right now. There's an extremely long story that I would have to tell for you, reader, to understand exactly where I stand and to be able to give me 'perfect' advice. But right now I don't have the time to write it all out. ...
A. 1 April 2010: I see you're madly in love with this girl but if you want an honest answer- you need to get on with your life.
I know that's not the best thing you want to hear but you've attempted many times to make this work but things are not going how you ... (read in full...)
Do I believe what this woman said about my husband?
Q. Last night I got a facebook message from a woman that is my husbands ex-wifes friend. I had requested to be friends because I remember her from my hometown and she was a friend incommon with someone else. But it turns out that was a bad decision ...
A. 26 March 2010: I agree with " eyeswideopen". This woman sounds like she's up to something ...
Good luck!
-CC... (read in full...)
How would a guy feel if an "old friend" decided to talk to him after 6months?
Q. I really need male point of views in this What would a guy think if a girl he used to like just stopped talking to him. No reason, whatsoever and kept ignoring him. Well how would that guy feel if that girl decided to talk to him after 6mo...
A. 21 March 2010: I've decided I'm definitely going to do it, thanks to your advice.
If I'm honest Im REALLY SCARED! I know the best thing to do is to be sincere but I really don't know what to say to him apart from "hi". And thats not the only thing I want fro... (read in full...)
How to deal with resentment?
Q. I'm 14 and I'm suffering from resentment, its KILLING ME! The guy that I'm in love with, doesn't love me any more and he's moved on. I hate him , he lead my best friend on and did other things that made me feel small.I stopped talking to him s...
A. 3 March 2010: I would like to thank everyone for the advice especially annonymous reader, this was very hepful. May God Bless you all!... (read in full...)
How can you be happy and single?
Q. how do you be happy and single. Everyone around me is with someone and I feel really depressed. Any tips? Thank you x...
A. 19 February 2010: I would like to thank you for the advice, they have made me think twice. I know especially at this age I should be thinking about developing my own character, which I'm trying really hard to do, focus on more important things. But everywhere I ... (read in full...)
Scared of this gang girl who is mad at me! What shall I do?
Q. Ive some how been involved in a bit of trouble with this girl. Apparently I've been sending some slutty pictures around.[which I HAVEN'T]. She is the type of girl you dont want to know. She texted my mate to say "when i see her (me) she's gonna wish ...
A. 21 January 2010: Can I ask you, why this girl is trying to start on you? If I was in your situation I would like to avoid her because shes a trouble maker and people like her like to cause problems because it makes them feel better. If you know that you havent done ... (read in full...)
How can I be pretty?
Q. I feel like such a failure. I'm a high school senior and feel so mediocre. I feel no guy will ever love me. I have a huge chest and a small waist which irritates me (32D). I've never been with any guy and almost all the girls in my class are with ...
A. 4 January 2010: Just wanted to let you know that, I get this feeling too sometimes, and im sure there are girls worldwide who feel this way too. Beauty comes from within, thats how I see it.First step has to be is you have to believe in yourself- y'know... (read in full...)
Is this a sign he cares???
Q. I had to break up with my bf and havent heard a word from him since. He has messaged me and is apparently too scared to talk to me, or call me. i feel kind of hurt by this, as we've shared so many years together and he doesnt have the guts to pick ...
A. 16 December 2009: I repeat what I said previously ,he cant just forget you.So possibly there might be still some affection there.I can understand why you finished with him. If your ex really loved you he wouldn't of treated you like this in the first place.
I thi... (read in full...)
Is it a coincidence that he keeps showing up?
Q. I have a history with this guy and I seem to have always loved him( even though there are times when I have hated him)We didnt really end in the best way- yet it wasnt the worst. Well I recently decided that Im done with the boys since they ...
A. 15 December 2009: Thanks, I thought I had my head in the clouds that day. Well today what you said was confirmed.And there was I thinking that got over this guy properly, just shows how daft I can be. Thank you for your advice, it was good to heal from a male
Tak... (read in full...)
Is this a sign he cares???
Q. I had to break up with my bf and havent heard a word from him since. He has messaged me and is apparently too scared to talk to me, or call me. i feel kind of hurt by this, as we've shared so many years together and he doesnt have the guts to pick ...
A. 13 December 2009: He cant forget you this quickly, of course of he has feelings for you (especially if you still do).Hes Just really scared to approach you after whatever happened between you to. You need to give more info about why you had to break with him, if you ... (read in full...)
Please help!!! How can I tell her how I feel about her without scaring her off?
Q. hi! I am Ali and lookin for help for my problems so can you help me? Plz! ok!! So i'm 13 and am in love with a girl but i am very shy. I am overweight and have a medium height. I always get nervous whenever she passes me nearby, i think she also ...
A. 13 December 2009: Aaaawww bless you Ali,
I think think this girl likes you.So one time you should come up to her and talk to her.Tell her how you feel and ask her how she feels.Then ask her out.I hope this was helpful
Best of Luck!
Candycurves... (read in full...)
I feel worthless, upset and unloved because he doesn't like me
Q. My guy friend and I talk to each other a lot. He used to wink at me, joke around and flirt with me a lot. I really thought he actually liked me. Sadly enough, I like him a lot. On the contrary, he's always distant with me when he's around his ...
A. 10 December 2009: Funny thing,I'm going through the exact same thing.
I know its really difficult, cause this person means a friend and more. What I am doing at the moment is staying away from him, hoping I'll forget whatever I ever saw in him.I know its hard, wh... (read in full...)
He's a senior, I'm a freshman, and he blows hot and cold
Q. Today, I was walking with my friend to go outside because of a fire alarm, and I saw him and he clearly saw me. I waved at him and he ignored me and said hi to my friend. Then afterwards when we were walking inside, I tried waving again but he ignor...
A. 10 December 2009: I think this guy likes you too for definite, it might be that he doesnt know how to act around you cause he's nervous.
I dont think things are that bad,youre slightly overreacting I think but this is normal.
(this is only in my opinion so y... (read in full...)
The girl I like has gone cold on me
Q. the girl i like keeps ignoring me. not long ago when we met we use to talk all the time i think she knows that i like her but why doesnt she talk to me that much anymore?...
A. 9 December 2009: I dont know why us girls do these things, Im age and the only reason I could think of is:
* She doesnt feel the same way
* She' VERY shy
*She's still trying to figure out how she feels about
Approach her, and show her how nice you are;) Say s... (read in full...)
16, and I want to have sex! Who should I do it with, random guy or close friend?
Q. im 16, and i feel like im ready to have sex. i dont want to do it with some random guy, but would it be better if i did it with a close friend who is also ready??? (: thanks in advance x...
A. 5 December 2009:
I agree with A male reader, CaringGuy. Your bound to regret it. Your only thinking about the intercourse, what about after it. You have to be in a stable relationship. I dont think you would like it if you lose it to some randome guy and he goes... (read in full...)
Why??? What have I done wrong?
Q. Hey, I met this girl on a school trip to china. we spent a week there and everyone got really close. When we got back she text me a lot, i invited her out to the cinema with some friends and we both had a really good time. I'm pretty sure she likes ...
A. 4 December 2009: Hey,
Im happy that things are going great between you.
Seems like this relationship has potential. It was Good to hear from you and best of luck!
CandyCurves... (read in full...)
I am totally in love with a man who will not love me back.
Q. There's this guy I cannot get over. He is amazing and charismatic and I just can't get him out of my mind. Sometimes I hate his guts and other times I swear that he's going to be mine. It's been more than a year now and I'm stuck, I really don't ...
A. 2 December 2009: Sometimes love can be so painful. But true love means when two people love eachother. I repeat two. Been there , done that, honey. I'm your age, the only thing you can do is try to make him see what a beautiful person you really are.If he sti... (read in full...)
Will he ask me out or not...?
Q. few months ago i met this guy, well I have to admit that I liked him since the first moment I saw him but i really didn't think that anything could happen between us since he's sooooo shy and serious. with time he started paying more attention to me ...
A. 30 November 2009: Maybe he just wants to take things slow and eventually he will ask you out. Like you said hes a shy and serious guy: I dont think them type of boys like to jump into relationships. But if a boy REALLY likes you,HE WILL AK YOU OUT! Theres no doubt ... (read in full...)
Why??? What have I done wrong?
Q. Hey, I met this girl on a school trip to china. we spent a week there and everyone got really close. When we got back she text me a lot, i invited her out to the cinema with some friends and we both had a really good time. I'm pretty sure she likes ...
A. 30 November 2009: I know this situation, I have experienced this from her prospective. (Yes, I'v done very ignorant things ).And here are reasons why girls my age (14)might be treating you like this: *She might not be ready for closure( even though shes flirting wi... (read in full...)
Why am I so affraid to have a boyfriend?
Q. Okay so my problem is kinda weird. I have no problem getting guys, a lot of guys really do like me but what we do is just hook up. I've only had one boyfriend and that was a very long time ago. Everytime a guy asks me to be his girl i cant run away ...
A. 19 November 2009: Hahaha, Im exactly the same.
It's because we're not ready for boyfriends/relationships/committment ect .. I dont know. Im just as confused as you! Sorry I know this wasnt exactly helpful.The thing is we're not matured enough, we need to wait a litt... (read in full...)
What should I do about this guy I'm stuck on?
Q. Ok, so every girl has that one guy in her life, there might be a couple of others, but either way its always gunna be him and you will never be able to get over him. Well i think ive found him. He's absolutly gorgeous, and i can't stop thinking ...
A. 16 November 2009: Sorry About what I wrote.I pressed send by accident. Half of it doesnt make sense because I didnt finish typing.Now where was I ... 2# Build a strong friendship- Get to know him properly and he'll get to know you. Talk to him- face to face.H... (read in full...)
What should I do about this guy I'm stuck on?
Q. Ok, so every girl has that one guy in her life, there might be a couple of others, but either way its always gunna be him and you will never be able to get over him. Well i think ive found him. He's absolutly gorgeous, and i can't stop thinking ...
A. 16 November 2009: Well here are my key rules for Wowing them guys: 1# Get a makeover-Just have a pamper session! Experiment with your looks .You might like to get a new hairstyle or wear different makeup.Try a new style.Paint your nails.Just have fun with... (read in full...)
Why do I always drift away in relationships or is it just fate?
Q. I am 14 years of age and I'v only had 2 proper intimiate relationships. Everytime I get intimate with someone, you would think that would bring me closer to that person but somehow we drift apart. I know it's somthing to do with my extreme s...
A. 14 November 2009: Hey, thanks for the advice its opened my eyes to a totally new perspective. I just wanted to state :Im still a virgin- I actually believe in sex after marriage. I have a lot of respect for my body. When I say intimate- Im talking more about ... (read in full...)
What do you think of this girl? We've been attracted to each other on and off.
Q. ok question any gender of thoughts would be appreciated.... ok so lets say you like a girl you and you have been attracted to each other on and off.. then last year you took her to her hs prom and you liked her alot... she didnt like you at the ...
A. 14 November 2009: This girl takes alot of patience!
If you really want her, keep chasing her she should come around and eventually get the message.Your affection and patience towards her, willtrigger a strong feeling and it will be worth it at the end!
And if... (read in full...)
What should I do about this guy I'm stuck on?
Q. Ok, so every girl has that one guy in her life, there might be a couple of others, but either way its always gunna be him and you will never be able to get over him. Well i think ive found him. He's absolutly gorgeous, and i can't stop thinking ...
A. 14 November 2009: It's quite funny because I found myself in the same situation.I know exactly where you're coming from.It's fustrating how you spend time chasing him and his response isnt exactly the best . Although you know you definetly like this guy, accord... (read in full...)
Help! How do I get my first kiss?
Q. ok well I'm 18 and I have never had my first kiss or anything. please tell me how I should get it. I need major help so please give me all your ideas....
A. 14 November 2009: Find someone who is good to you and likes you as much as you like him. I'd advice you to be alone with this person, especially when it's your first kiss
You might feel more relaxed if you've been touching/cuddling/flirting (closure is importan... (read in full...)
Does he like me or is he just weird?
Q. Okay, so we're both juniors in high school, and have known who the other person is since freshman year. However, we've never really spoken to each other. I sometimes find him glancing at me, and he always trys to get near me when we have to p...
A. 14 November 2009:
Judging on what you've written, sounds like this guy secetly likes you
I think he might be too shy to approach you directly (fear of rejection) . If you like him and want someting to happn between you two.I'd advice you to break the "akward" bou... (read in full...)
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