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writes:I am 16 and have moved out of my home due to a few problems with my mum a few months ago. I have been currently living with my boyfriend and his mum. I have stared college and made a new friend. However i met her boyfriend at a party and we kissed when we were drunk.After the party he suggested that we were to go out together to the cinema. So i went along and as soon as i got there i knew it was wrong, so i told him that it was a mistake and we should stop. He agreed and said that he regreted coming. But we watched a film anyway considering we where there. But my boyfriend's mum caught me going in the cinema with him and she has made my life hell, even though i insist that nothing is happening. She is making more stuff up about me and says that i have to choose her son (my b/f) or my new friend and her b/f.So now i don't know what to do because i feel like i cannot stay there anymore with what i have done, and i don't know if i can bring myself to go home.Please help me with what i should do.
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reader, madflash  +, writes (13 April 2008):
 You are NOT going to like this... but there is advice at the end, so take your lumps first.
I can tell how confused you are by how confusing your question is... either that or how dishonest you are...
If it's truly confusion and you're that naive and innocent then why were you kissing another guy?--drunk or not? That sounds pretty selfish and calculating to me, not naive at all.
So it sounds to me like the hen you pecked has come home to roost big time. Your B/F's mom has every right to be mad at you and kick your butt to the curb. How would you feel if you saw your boyfriend going into a theater with another girl?--or heard he kissed another girl and then made plans to have a date with her?
With cheaters it's ALWAYS innocent until they're caught in the act, and then, of course, it's sorry this and sorry that and woe is me--apply back of hand to forehead, swoon and faint right here!!!
I'd imagine the problem you had with your mum had something to do with dishonesty.
You deserve the circumstances you've created... You're just like my ex-wife and my daughter, never accountable for your actions, and when you are cornered into being accountable because of your own actions your sorrys are always followed by a big fat 'BUT'. "Sorry, BUT it wasn't really my fault!" or "Sorry, BUT I was misled!" or "Sorry, BUT I was DRUNK and it was INNOCENT!"
I really wonder how truthful you all are with yourselves, and how selfish your innermost thoughts must be. But maybe you all really are that naive, or maybe you all just enjoy the drama! I hate to think women can be so sinister even when confronted with such glaring evidence.
So, here's my advice. Go to your b/f's mom and tell her how selfish and stupid you have been. Offer to break up with her son (because you are simply too confused and not to be trusted in your mental state) and also promise not to be friends with anyone she doesn't want you to be friends with, but ask her if you can stay with her until you get your head screwed on right. DO NOT, even if you take only part of this advice, use the word 'BUT' anywhere in your apology! Admit you were wrong--completely wrong without justification--and ask for your b/f's mom's forgiveness.
And what does your b/f think about all this anyway--not that his opinion seems to matter to you since all you really seem worried about is having a place to stay!!!
Anyway, have you asked for his forgiveness too?
Ah, whatever... I hope, for your sake, you can get past all this and learn something valuable about how to make decisions in the future--with consideration of people you care about, including yourself. Because if you truly cared about yourself you would not have gotten in this situation in the first place.
Best wishes and good luck
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (13 April 2008):
 Apologize to your b/f's mum and tell her that it was a
thoughtless mistake and promised to her that it won't happen again.
Tell her that you choose your b/f and nobody else.
That should be enough to pacify her.
If it is a lost cause, then you need to go back to your mum and apologize to her.
I am sure your mum would accept you back .
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008): Well Honestly i think u were wrong to go to a movie with another male...but thats my opinion and for his mother i would just be straight up with her and tell her to keep her nose out of your buisness, well i dont kow nevermind, you are only sixteen(no offense)
i think you should move back home.....
or do whatever you'd like.
LadyC
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