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writes: i really need some help, i dont know what to do about the situation im in.. ive being goin out with my boyfriend for over a year now, (16 months) and i adore him! but last night i found out that he has slept with my 13 year old sister!!!!!!! he is 18 and i am 15, we have only had sex once as i dont feel ready and he is ok with that. but when i found out he had slept with my sister i didnt know what to do. they both said its true and he has done nothing but apolagize!! i reallyy dunno what to do!! ive told him were over but i love him too much and realy want him back. ive told my sister i never ever ever wanna speak to her agen but i cant stop crying :( what can i doo!!!!! :'(
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reader, jlove  +, writes (17 April 2008):
 sweetheart i know what u are going through. i've broken wu with girls that i wanted back even more than you. but you have to let this guy go. older guys take advantage. i know this because im his age and i hear the stories from my friends all the time about the shit they do to younger girls. if u take him back, that'll just be another story for him to tell his friends.
xoxo,
jlove
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (14 April 2008):
 As I said, you let him back in and he messes you around.
It doesn't matter whether it was her virginity lost or not she still slept with your boyfriend.
You KNOW what you should do but I think that you feel that you don't want to be alone or feel that you won't get anyone else if you get rid of him.
I can tell you that when I felt like this, I was a much MUCH happier person when I kicked him out of my life.
The person you should be with for the rest of your life will most likely not be him. You are young and I know it sounds patronising but you WILL find someone who will treat you with respect. I've been in your position. Please listen to someone who knows the outcome of staying with a cheater.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (14 April 2008):
 Listen to your own conscience and do what you think is right.
Others may give their opinions .
You pick what is good and discard the bad ones.
It is your life and what you decide will affect your life.
If you want him back , you should forgive him and your sister too.
Nobody is perfect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everyone. i just cant help but love him :( i reallyy do! but just to add, he didnt actually take my sisters virginity, she lost her virginity months ago and has slept with 2 or 3 other boys. i dont knw what to do butt thanks for your replies x
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone. I just can't help but love him :( i really do! but just to add, he didn't actually take my sister's virginity, she lost her virginity months ago, and has slept with 2 or 3 other boys. I don't know what to do, but thanks for your replies. x
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (14 April 2008):
 O.K. if this is not a joke post call the police.
Simple as that.
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reader, xxbaybeegal  +, writes (13 April 2008):
 DAMN!
ok so your sister slept with you boyfriend and shes only 13! but when you think about it why would you boyfriend do that? if he really loved you then he would never do that to you. I dont think you should take him back because this is only your sister. what if you found your boyfriend with another women that you didnt even know? ok so i think that you should just stay friends until you can gain that trust or bond with him
gd luck xx
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reader, bubbloo24 +, writes (13 April 2008):
Woahhh!!!
Get rid! a Guy of 18 sleeping with a 13 year old?!
YOUR SISTER?!
You need to realise your self worth, I cannot believe you'd even contemplate taking him back.
Yes you love him, but if you let him bsck into your life you cannot possible love yourself enough to realise he's hurt you and wants his cake and WILL eat it if you hand it to him on a plate like this.
You really want to give him what he wants when he has not even thought about you?
Your sister didn't put up much of a fight then did she?
They're both as bad as each other but you NEED to get rid of this guy and find someone who'll treat you right, not sleep with someone, ESPECIALLY not your sister.
You are worth more than that.
Listen, I've let guys who've cheated on me back into my life one too many times so I'm talking from experience.
You won't be able to trust your boyfriend and you won't want to be in the same room as him and your sister. If you continue this relationship and drag it out, it will hurt more. If you end it now you can move on and it will be less painless. Trust me.
I wouldn't let your sister off lightly too tbh! Has she even apologised?
Get rid of him and I wouldn't trust her for a second if she can do that to her sister until she comes to you and realises what a mistake she's made and apologises sincerely.
Take care and good luck xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008): omg hes 18 and slept with a 13yr old and 15 year old thats just wrong dont get bk with him and your sister should have known better x
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reader, tick-tick-boom +, writes (13 April 2008):
 I totaly agree with the poster below me!You cannot throw away your sister for a slimebag of a guy.Just remember he slept with her.Hes alot older so was probably the one in control. He could be locked away for that. You dont need a guy like that.Your sister will be tearing herself apart and probably feels worse than both you and your boyfriend. She loves you no matter what, he only says he does. You have every right not to speak to her and be angry with her however i think you should be more angry with your boyfriend.You say you love him but never forget you love your sister soo much more (despite loathing her now) and you always will love her!Good Luck! X
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008): Your B/F is SICK, and you are even thinking about getting back with him. Your sister is ony 13! he stole your sister's virginity, her childhood. What sort of family are you?? I'm really shocked here
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reader, LoveButLost +, writes (13 April 2008):
I know it seems like it's the end of the world but it's not. Boy's will come and go but sisterhood is forever... I am not saying what she did was right but remember she is your flesh and blood. No man should come between you two. As for you boyfriend, even though he is aplogizing for his action you should not take him back. This is the first time and I am sure it's not going to be his last.
Keep your head up..
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