After debating this for a while, I sat down at my desk this morning and wrote this to my probably soon to be ex. Can anyone advise if this is the right way to go?
Q. After debating this for a while, I sat down at my desk this morning and wrote this to my probably soon to be ex. Can anyone advise if this is the right way to go. I know email is not the way to go, but I'm tending to descend into floods of tears ...
A. 5 April 2008: End of one chapter in your life and the new dawn of another era.
When the love is gone, it is very hard to rekindle the sparks again.
You were not meant for each other.
Now that you have come to the end of this road , another journey begins... (read in full...)
Is she using me as a rebound - in case her relationship with her current boyfriend doesn't work out?
Q. Hello, I am an 18 year old male who was asked to a prom by a girl who does not go to my school. There was a period where we were quite interested in each other and talked often. However she stopped speaking with me and ignored my phone calls when...
A. 31 March 2008: It is better to love than not to love.
Nobody knows the outcome but you never know unless you try.
Have fun and just enjoy....
Make your life richer...... (read in full...)
Any ideas to get out of the relationship "rut"? We are getting bored of doing the same old thing!
Q. My boyfriend and I are stuck in a rut. All we do is spend time at his or my place. What can we do? We need some fun......
A. 31 March 2008: What is your idea of fun?
Get out there and paint the town red!... (read in full...)
I am torn between two guys, who should I choose to be with?
Q. Is it true that opposites attract? My bf and I have been going out for a little over 2 years now, we are like any other teenage couple which has been going out for quite a while, and still like eachother very much even though we have both changed ...
A. 31 March 2008: You could be falling for guy No.2 whether you think it will cause trouble or not.
You maybe living in denial.
If your guy No.1 is unsatisfactory and he does not change,
then you should consider moving on without him.
There are just t... (read in full...)
He has a problem with anger when he gets drunk. Should I give him a second chance?
Q. I have the most wonderful boyfriend. He treats me very well, he's respectful, loving, attentive, everything you could possibly want in a man, and I am madly in love with him. But he has a problem with anger when he gets drunk. Normally, he;s f...
A. 31 March 2008: Try to convince him to give up drinking or drink in moderations only.
If you failed, then do not argue or incite him when he is drunk.
Get out of his way till he is sober again.
Just let him say anything without saying anything in respo... (read in full...)
Is she using me as a rebound - in case her relationship with her current boyfriend doesn't work out?
Q. Hello, I am an 18 year old male who was asked to a prom by a girl who does not go to my school. There was a period where we were quite interested in each other and talked often. However she stopped speaking with me and ignored my phone calls when...
A. 31 March 2008: She is giving you the chance.
If her first choice does not perform ,
she may dumped him for you.
It will be up to you if you are interested in such an arrangement or not.
If you like her, you should not mind.
Do you want to try your... (read in full...)
I'm young and in love, and want it all!! Is that wrong?
Q. I'm young and in love! It's wonderful, and I KNOW I love him .... But I've had realtionships in the past where boys have hurt me (not pysically but emotionally). He says "I love you" everyday, and he always makes me feel special and loved. He's real...
A. 31 March 2008: This is what we called youthful idealism .
When you are young , you have the luxury of thinking of how
and what you expect from a marriage.
You can dream and fantasize.
When you grow up , you become more practical or a pragmatist
an... (read in full...)
4 years of performing 'wifely' duties, yet he's still not ready for marriage, what shall I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 10 years now. During the first stages of our relationship it was on again and off again. We had our problems but after a while decided to get serious and move in together. We have been living toge...
A. 31 March 2008: You are everything like a wife in a marriage and why would he
want to get married for?
He is enjoying what you offer on a silver platter
and he has nothing to gain by marriage .
If after all this time , and he does not want to get
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a work-a-holic, and I'm missing his attention!
Q. I have been in a relationship for almost three years. The first year and a half was great. The last year and a half has been some what of a struggle. My boyfriend is a work-a-holic. I miss him tremendously and miss the way that we used to be. I am...
A. 31 March 2008: What some people cannot find in a relationship ,
they will seek elsewhere.
That is why affairs happened.
Talk to your b/f about your needs to have some time
together and not work 90% of the time and neglect the other parts of your ... (read in full...)
What are the tell tale signs?
Q. How do you tell if your soon to be husband is lying to you?...
A. 31 March 2008: If you have a hunch he is telling a lie....
You can read all the tips here;-
http://marriage.about.com/cs/trustissues/a/spotaliar.htm... (read in full...)
My ex is blowing hot and cold. I'm well confused!!
Q. Hi guys, some male behaviour to decode here! My ex fiance and I cohabited for 2 years until we split, we fell out badly and didn't speak. We are now reconciled after 4 years of N/C. He did get in contact two years ago but it was brief, stra...
A. 31 March 2008: This guy has a split personality .
It is as though there are two persons inside of him.
One is mushy and the other is cold.
Knowing who is in the driver's seat will save you some anguished.
... (read in full...)
Am I getting upset over nothing?
Q. Am i complicating things? I recieve the message of love through pda and gifts. My boyfriend isn't interested. He's laxed about marriage and kids. I want to go to the next step. I know I'm loved but sometimes i don't feel it. ...
A. 31 March 2008: I think it is his addiction to the games and he finds other
things are not so fun.
He has settled into a routine and taken you for granted.
It is not easy to wean him of those video games.
You can try to make him see what are your needs... (read in full...)
Do you exes ever try to contact you when you ask for no contact?
Q. Ok well...i phoned up my ex after he initiated contact with me a week ago. At first things were ok. But then it got worse and i pretty much pleaded with him to give it another try and he gave the same excuses again and i kept asking for it for the ...
A. 31 March 2008: I am sorry to hear that.
You will grief over the loss but don't grief for too long as
the new world is outside there and there is still life after him.
I am sure you will find the right one .... (read in full...)
After debating this for a while, I sat down at my desk this morning and wrote this to my probably soon to be ex. Can anyone advise if this is the right way to go?
Q. After debating this for a while, I sat down at my desk this morning and wrote this to my probably soon to be ex. Can anyone advise if this is the right way to go. I know email is not the way to go, but I'm tending to descend into floods of tears ...
A. 31 March 2008: Life is like a fortune's wheel. It goes up and then down and will go up again. It is like the four seasons. Things cannot get any worse and will get better from now. Be more positive and stop thinking in a negative way. You will find someone who ... (read in full...)
We're in love, but should we take a break?
Q. Well i met this amazing girl online we started a relationship 7 monthes ago. Well anyway everything was going great she would tell me that she would give her life to me and i would always tell her the same. Like for example i told her i was read...
A. 31 March 2008: You are welcome. I am glad and happy for you. The sky is bright and the sun is shining again. Take good care of her .... (read in full...)
Do you exes ever try to contact you when you ask for no contact?
Q. Ok well...i phoned up my ex after he initiated contact with me a week ago. At first things were ok. But then it got worse and i pretty much pleaded with him to give it another try and he gave the same excuses again and i kept asking for it for the ...
A. 30 March 2008: Don't beg or plead with him.
You would appear to be the clingy one and it is a turn off for him.
Nothing is final yet. It is only an intermission or a pause in your relationship.
Do not contact him for now and wait for him to contact you. ... (read in full...)
He said we can't be together or his family will disown him!!!
Q. I just want other people opinions on this really because I want to know if I have every right to be extremely hurt. I've been seeing this guy for a couple of months and we're 3 hours away and I'm willing to get trains every Friday night to spend t...
A. 30 March 2008: Thats the spirit. Don't let it get you down.
Life is a learning curve.... (read in full...)
How do I stand with getting a divorce so early into our marriage? How do I manage financially when my husband is so awkward?
Q. My husband and I have been together 2.5 years, married for 8 months, have an 18 month old child and now expecting our next child, I am 11 weeks pregnant and very much planned/wanted. Our relationship, once the gloss disappeared has been somewha...
A. 30 March 2008: In your divorce, the courts will most probably grant you
custody of the child and he will have to pay you, wife and child maintenance.
If he is truly sorry , you may try to mend back this relationship.
If he continues to be abusive,... (read in full...)
Is cuddling with another guy while watching a movie (minus the kissing or eye-gazing, more like just laying together) cheating if you're in a relationship?
Q. Is cuddling with another guy while watching a movie (minus the kissing or eye-gazing, more like just laying together) cheating if you're in a relationship?...
A. 30 March 2008: Sure is and after cuddling whats next ,some light touching and caressing?
What if you come back to his place and find your b/f doing that?
What would be your reactions?
... (read in full...)
He said we can't be together or his family will disown him!!!
Q. I just want other people opinions on this really because I want to know if I have every right to be extremely hurt. I've been seeing this guy for a couple of months and we're 3 hours away and I'm willing to get trains every Friday night to spend t...
A. 30 March 2008: I am very sorry for you , all my sympathies.
Pick up the pieces and start a new life again.
... (read in full...)
Am I being used or does he really like me??
Q. well am 16 and recently guys have started noticing me. I've had 4 boyfriends in the last 6 months or so but theres always been one thats special to me..hes 17 and has a kid but the problem is am still a virgin..we've messed around alot and since we ...
A. 30 March 2008: He cannot bring himself to tell you without the aid of alcohol.
Alcohol releases his timidity and tells you what he really
feels inside which he cannot expresses out .
When he is high , he is telling the truth to you.
... (read in full...)
What do you think about age gaps in general?
Q. how do u feel about age gaps in general? personally i dont think they matter but i know my family does as am 16 and going seein a 21 year old, what do u think?...
A. 30 March 2008: Love is not about age, colour or creed.
Love is about joy , happiness, contentment and wellbeing.
Parents who insist on their definitions have not changed with the times.
They become history.... (read in full...)
How can I cope when my family have abandoned me?
Q. I've been abandoned by every member of my family, I had a really tough childhood. I've been lucky enough to find a man who will do anything for me, we 're even getting married and trying for a baby. Sometimes it's easy for me to cope with my pas...
A. 30 March 2008: You can live without your family.
You have already proven it.
One day they will come to terms with you.
Stand on your own two feet.
You can go under your own powers
and don't have to depend on your family anymore.
That is total in... (read in full...)
How to know if it is the truth or his anger speaking?
Q. Hi, i've been married 8 years and my husband wasn't inlove with me when we married but i was so infatuated with him that it didn't matter. now he says he loves me but actions speak showing i'm his friend and not his love, we have a son together and ...
A. 30 March 2008: He is very stressed out too and having to cope with your health.
You should give him the benefits of doubt.
He said it in the heat of the argument.
You should not hold this against him.
He is still with you and that is what counts.
... (read in full...)
Although he's generally a friendly person I don't know if he's just being friendly or if he really likes me!
Q. I'm so confused!!! One minute I think this guy likes me and other times I don't. Sometimes I think there's signs and then other times I'm not sure. Right well there just been general stuff like he used to look at me a lot and stuff but then that all ...
A. 30 March 2008: If he is interested in you , he would go out of his way for you.
He would treat you in a very special way.
Observe his mannerisms and how he treats others.
You can Google your question for more tips online.... (read in full...)
Should I let him go or am I being too hasty?
Q. I'm in a tough situation right now and not sure what to do. To start, i'm dating this guy who broke up with his girlfriend early december of last year. They dated for 7 months, and although things weren't bad between them, she didn't excite him (how...
A. 30 March 2008: It is very generous of you to give him up for her
but love does not work this way.
If he loves you , thats that and final.
What belongs to you , will be yours unless you do not want it.... (read in full...)
We're in love, but should we take a break?
Q. Well i met this amazing girl online we started a relationship 7 monthes ago. Well anyway everything was going great she would tell me that she would give her life to me and i would always tell her the same. Like for example i told her i was read...
A. 30 March 2008: You should apologize to her and move on .
Taking a break may chill your relationship if the break becomes too long.
Make up to her and say nice things to her .... (read in full...)
Should I contact my ex to tell him I want us to remain friends?...
Q. My bf broke up with me 1 week ago and he said he really wanted to stay friends. He said he still liked me a lot but we just arent 'meant to be'. I guess it's true because we both wanted different things out of a relationship so it wasn't really ...
A. 30 March 2008: Absence makes the heart grows fonder.
You know what will be his reception.
So just call him and don't dilly dally any longer..LOL!... (read in full...)
More period questions...
Q. I had 2 period in February 2008. The first was on 2/2/2008 and ended on 2/7/2008. the 2nd one was on 2/28/2008 and ended on 3/4/2008. I'm trying to conceive but not sure if the 2/28 period is considereed my last period can someone help me because ...
A. 30 March 2008: A menstrual cycle normally range from 25 to 36 days.
Your last cycle was 26 days.
If you have a regular period , you should have your period on 3/26/08.
2/28 was your last period. You have missed your period by 4 days .
It could be du... (read in full...)
How do I tell my parents he's 20 years older than me?
Q. I have been seeing my partner for about eight months. We are so in love and I really cannot picture life without him. He is 20 years older than me (I am 21 and he is 41) and he is separated with five children. This however, is not the problem. ...
A. 30 March 2008: The time is not right to tell your parents about him.
It will create lots of unwarranted tensions which can be detrimental to your studies.
Wait till you are financially independent of your family and
can decide what you want, then you ... (read in full...)
Should I contact my ex to tell him I want us to remain friends?...
Q. My bf broke up with me 1 week ago and he said he really wanted to stay friends. He said he still liked me a lot but we just arent 'meant to be'. I guess it's true because we both wanted different things out of a relationship so it wasn't really ...
A. 30 March 2008: You can pretend like nothing happened and just call him and say ,'Hi! How are things!'
That would break the icy wall that has sprang up between you two.
You should try it if you secretly harbour the thoughts of getting back together again.... (read in full...)
Help!!! Confused and heartbroken...
Q. I am a 21 year old female mother of 2 beautiful kids. Their father whom I was with for many of years (since a young girl) had broke my heart. He always wanted to chill be around me and everything else. This past Easter Sunday March 2008 he wanted me ...
A. 30 March 2008: If someone you love wants to leave and does not love you
anymore,you will have to allow him to leave.
If you love a person , you need to set him free..
You want him to be happy and to seek his own happiness.
You do not want to be in his ... (read in full...)
He's cheated on me after 18yrs, and I'm a wreck!
Q. Husband of 18 yrs is in love with someone else?? Any advice?? Of course he is handling it well...but i'm a wreck! Another problem is he keeps sending me mixed messages...and he says he is confused, part of me wants to kick this woman's butt, wh...
A. 30 March 2008: Look at this situation from a positive angle.
You are now free to do as you want.
No one to tell you what to do or control you.
You have been released from your prison.
Enjoy your freedom and liberty.
You can go out and meet other i... (read in full...)
He's my best friend, but his girlfriend is extremely jealous of our friendship.
Q. My best friend *who is a guy and i'm a girl* of 17 years has had a girlfriend for the past 5 years. Everytime my best friend hangs out with me or calls me, she throws a hissy fit. It's gotten so bad to the point where she is accusing him and puts...
A. 30 March 2008: You are like a thorn in her side.
There is no recourse except to pull the thorn out of her.
Whatever you tell him will not work.
Imagine the situation in the reverse.
How would you feel?... (read in full...)
I want to take our relationship to the next level, but don't want to appear cheap!
Q. My boyfriend and i have been going out for two months now and all we've done is kiss. I really want to take it to the next level, but in every other relationship i've been in, it's the guy who's taken the intiative. How can i suggest to him that i w...
A. 30 March 2008: You initiate what you want to do and he will respond.
It is not correct to say guys always lead because ,
some guys are too nice and are afraid of being rejected.
Some are colour blind and cannot see your green light.
It does not ma... (read in full...)
Am I getting upset over nothing?
Q. Am i complicating things? I recieve the message of love through pda and gifts. My boyfriend isn't interested. He's laxed about marriage and kids. I want to go to the next step. I know I'm loved but sometimes i don't feel it. ...
A. 30 March 2008: He may love you in his own way which you may not see it or understand .
The language of love is different in a man and woman.
Maybe , he need to learn to talk in your love language .
Or you try to understand his love language.... (read in full...)
'How.......?'
Q. How can I please my boyfriend in bed?...
A. 30 March 2008: Not every man is the same .
You can find out what he likes by trial and error.
What is meat to a man ,maybe poison to another.
Happy experimenting and you can Google your questions for more tips online.... (read in full...)
We're in love but live too far apart!!
Q. I'm in love with a guy who's far away!! I know he loves me and i love him, that's not the problem, but he's not going to move back here, and i dont think im going to move there anytime soon really. No one has, or ever will come close to him in my m...
A. 30 March 2008: There are things you can change and things which you cannot change.
You cannot stop anyone from loving him or you.
You can connect on the emotional level but not the physical level.
What he does so far away is beyond your control and knowled... (read in full...)
He swears he didn't rape her, do I believe him...?
Q. a friend of mine has recently been summoned to court because a girl is pressing rape charges against him. supposedly he raped her at a party a few weeks ago, I was at the party and I don't remember seeing anything but he swears to god that he didn't ...
A. 30 March 2008: At this moment , it all boils down to whether you believed
your friend did it or not?
If you believed your friend did it ,
then you should do what is appropriate.
You could be right or you could be wrong.
Since you have judged ... (read in full...)
Differences led us to break up. Now I'm lost.
Q. My ex and I broke up yesterday for about the third time. he said I am weird, random, he can't have a conversation with me, and he doesnt see himself with me. However, he did this twice before, and regretted it. The first time, he broke it off and ...
A. 30 March 2008: The best thing for you now is to do nothing but to do those
things that you like to do.Go connect back with your friends.
It is like flying a kite, you need to release more string for him to fly higher.
When the time comes , you will re... (read in full...)
I do like him but I'm quite shy too, I need advice!
Q. I see a bloke every week where he works. A couple of months ago, I noticed him looking at me.(staring). He does this every week and when he's talking to his work mate, he continues to stare at me. I think he likes me. I asked him a question ...
A. 30 March 2008: Get a friend to come along and she can break the ice.
Go to him on some pretext and chat up with him.
... (read in full...)
I keep having this strong urge to just cuddle with him... is this considered cheating?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for close to 3 years now. We are in love, our relationship is practically flawless and we are still very much attracted to each other. However I find one of our guy friends attractive. One thing for sure is that ...
A. 30 March 2008: Sometimes we cannot help it , those feelings can come
because of the sexual attractions between the opposite sex.
Some people just ooze sex appeal and being near them can bring out those feelings.
It could be the lack of intimacy between... (read in full...)
After debating this for a while, I sat down at my desk this morning and wrote this to my probably soon to be ex. Can anyone advise if this is the right way to go?
Q. After debating this for a while, I sat down at my desk this morning and wrote this to my probably soon to be ex. Can anyone advise if this is the right way to go. I know email is not the way to go, but I'm tending to descend into floods of tears ...
A. 21 March 2008: If you want a quick response to your problem, better to send
that mail because it will provoked him into actions.
That way you will know the results quickly and not let your
relationship be hanging in the air or in a timeless space.
If ... (read in full...)
After debating this for a while, I sat down at my desk this morning and wrote this to my probably soon to be ex. Can anyone advise if this is the right way to go?
Q. After debating this for a while, I sat down at my desk this morning and wrote this to my probably soon to be ex. Can anyone advise if this is the right way to go. I know email is not the way to go, but I'm tending to descend into floods of tears ...
A. 20 March 2008: In your letter you can say all your careful thoughts in an uninterrupted and calm way.
If you were to talk face to face, you may not be able to get
though all those points because you could be emotional and irrational.
Furthermore, he... (read in full...)
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