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*dontevenrecognisemyself
writes:dear cupid.my boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months. He means the world to me and I can tell that he loves me too. Obviously, if I had any problems with our relationship, I'd go to him but this is something I don't think he'll be able to help with. i used to be the type of person that never got upset at anything but the thing is, ever since I've been with him; i get upset over the smallest of things. like, if he says he loves me, i'll say it back and then my eyes will just fill with tears. Last night, we were lying there falling asleep and he rolled over to hug me, i got so upset because I was thinking about what would happen if one day he just woke up and decided to leave. i'm welling up typing it out. I can't even discuss something that upsets me when we argue because i just cry and then I have to hide it because i cry to much and don't want him to think he's doing a bad job, because he's not. I don't know why, but i can't face up to thinking about losing him. Every single time i just cry. i cry at tv programmes that remind me of him, i cry at songs that make me think of him. Why am i so emotional when i have such a good relationship? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (31 December 2012):
 the birth control pills mess with your hormones and that could be what's making you so weepy.
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reader, idontevenrecognisemyself +, writes (30 December 2012):
idontevenrecognisemyself is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes, I am on birth control pills. I thought that might've been it. and thankyou for the answers. I was brought up in a loving, happy family. So I don't get it :( xxx
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 December 2012):
how long have you been this tearful? the whole time or is it recent?
have you gone on birth control pills in the last few months?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (26 December 2012):
 You have to love yourself before others can see your value. If you constantly look for signs that he won't like you, then you will only hear what you fear most. Emotional questions are hard to answer, because they are irrational. The best attempt to analyze that would be going back to childhood and reliving the times when you were securely or insecurely attached with your parents. If you were brought up to believe that you don't deserve love and are never good enough, then this mindset follows you into adulthood. If you believe with love follows abandonment, there are cognitive therapies that help you deal with ineffective thinking that results in destructive patterns in your relationship.
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