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writes: I am 7 months pregnant and me and my husband no longer are as sexually active as we were before I got bigger. This is not my first pregnancy but more unexpected. He says he is just not attracted to pregnant women like that and never has been. It was a similar experience with my first pregnancy but not this bad. My concern is his friends are cheaters and whore mongers. They even make comments about them cheating and roaming the streets looking to get into someone new while I am sitting there. Are men more likely to cheat when their wives are pregnant? Does/Will his friends have an influence now that we dont have sex reguarly? We have been together 8 years and never had an issue with infidelity after the first 3 years anyway. Why are men more likely to stray on their spouse once pregnant? I am hoping it is not just hormones, so I am asking for opinions especially from men. Thanks in advance
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2012): Yes I do think this is more likely to make him cheat. He is already a high risk for cheating even without you being pregnant so being pregnant can be the last thing that tips the scales over.
If a man has never cheated and is low risk for cheating (his friends aren't cheaters and he is happy in his relationship to his wife) then pregnancy probably wont make a difference. But since your husband is high risk for cheating anything can be the final straw
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (24 December 2012):
 I am not a man, but actually men get affected by pregnancy too. They have their own set of symptoms that make them tired and bloated. When I was pregnant with my ex husband we had sex up until the last day. I am sure he thought an 18 year old would be more attractive than a pregnant lady. Even if he said that I was attractive at 9 months pregnant I would think he said that just to make me happy. Nothing wrong with that white lie. You are making a baby. There is nothing attractive or unattractive about that. The way he was saying it was just mean and insensitive. So were his friends. When they are having men talk they should go to a public place by themselves. It's disrespectful for them to talk like you don't exist. It's your house too, so you have a right to tell your husband you don't want them there. You can't control who your husband befriends with, but if they talk about inappropriate things make sure they don't do it in your presence.
The only thing that make men cheat more often is the lack of integrity and self control. I would really hate to explain why men are more likely to cheat when wives are pregnant because there should never be an excuse, or even a reason for cheating. Pregnant women are more immobile. Fathers know that once the babies come out they can't compete for their attention. They feel left out. So they are acting out from their selfishness.
Worrying would not help him remain loyal. Expressing your fears to him will help only if your husband has morals and empathy. If you suspect that your husband has been doing things that's behind your back then tell him if there's cheating, a divorce is automatic and you will be taking him to the cleaners. As long as your husband is still innocent say nothing.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (24 December 2012):
 He's not more likely to cheat due to the sex dwindling but he is more likely with friends who condone cheating. Pregnancy is the only time you're allowed to pull the "crazy card" and for the duration you can always ask him to not hang out with them so much.
What does that mean after the first 3 years? Has he cheated before?
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