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writes: i have been with my (female partner) for 2 years we have moved twice and have had two children.i have a slight alchol dependancey and this is causing friction between us she keeps telling me that im useless and i don't have anything to do with the kids. since the last year i have been doing several days off a week not drinking and i used to drink every day.i have a responsible full time job but i still feel that she wants more than what i can give her.thats not it i have also suffered with depprestion for 13 years(not an easy problem ) i take 20 mg flouxetine every day, we still argue every other day and she has threathened to leave me on more than one occasion.what can can i do ??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2006): I am a recovering alcoholic myself. AA has saved my life. I have made many great, wonderful friends. I have learned a new way of living. All of my relationships are much better now. You can look up AA in your phone book. If you need more information, please feel free to ask me. Good luck. You can do it. Even if you are taking a week off, you still have a problem. Trust me.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (3 December 2006):
 I agree with everything that Irish49 has said.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2006): Dear, you are facing a serious loss due to this 'slight alcohol' dependancy. Why don't you join a local AA chapter and get off alcohol altogether and prove to your family that you are committed to them. You have to understand, you have an addiction and your partner recognizes this. She wants her children to have a strong, clean and sober father. If she's complaining you are not spending enough time with the kids, then it's likely you aren't. Plain and simple. You are a role model in their life and they deserve a Father who can spend time with them and making sincere, loving efforts to helping her raise the kids and keep this family intact. I have to also say that you make it sound like you have your addiction under control. There is no such thing as controlled drinking-because you are still feeding the dependancy, even though it's down to a few days a week as compared to every day, as you stated was what you did in the past. Understand that abstaining from alcohol totally, is the only way out. You will have to get a handle on this and you need help because a whole new way of life is needed and you have to comprehend that. Your addiction no matter how 'slight' it is, has deeply impacted your partner and she's seeing an unhappy, dysfunctional future ahead for her and the kids. Does she and the kids need this? No. They deserve the best of you. So what can you do? Get proactive and show that you can beat this addiction. Get some counselling and go to support groups. Call your local AA office and ask for help. Good luck and please for the sake of your family...be strong.
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