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writes: Ive been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months now, things are great. I recently bumped into my ex boyfriend whom i was with for 11 months before the guy i am with now. We've become friendly again, and im beginging to become attracted to him again. I still love him. Ive talked to him about it, and he feels the same way, but also has a partner. I dont know what to do.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (20 November 2006):
 You do nothing. What you are feeling might be nothing more than nostalgia. Sure, you have feelings for each other. You did date for almost a year afterall. When ever I see my exs, there is always some attraction and good feelings of connection. BUT...
you broke up. You broke up for a reason (maybe many reasons)...that being said focus on the new relationship you have, and stop communicating with the ex.
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reader, mcbirdie  +, writes (19 November 2006):
 It is important to think about why you broke up with your ex in the first place. Sometimes, a bit of time and distance can put the problems in a relationship in perspective and gives each person a clearer head to try again. However, it is also possible that enough time has passed so that you are only remembering the good times and forgetting the bad.
At the six month mark in a relationship, the early glow is starting to wear off and you're having to think more seriously about what you want from your current partner. This can be just the time when rose-colored glasses make your ex seem a better choice.
My advice would be to try to think as rationally as possible about what you really want. If you and your ex were both free (ie, you didn't have the passion of "we shouldn't be doing this" heating everything up) would you still be interested? How is your relationship with your current boyfriend? Do you really think that your previous relationship would work this time and both you and your ex want it enough to break up with your current partners?
Regardless of what you decide, I do hope that you will remember to show your current partner respect. Do not lie, cheat, or sneak around behind his back. Best course of action is to be upfront with him that you are having some thoughts about your ex and ask him where he sees your relationship going.
I wish you the best of luck.
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