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reader, stina  +, writes (7 December 2006):
 Ivanna,
Looking at what pica mentioned below and the fact that you said he calls you names and hits you in one of your other posts*, does it really matter if he is faithful? Sounds like you need to (and are ready to) move on... But I would stay away from dating that black guy, you'd probably offend him with all of your black stereotypes (how does one "act black," etc? geez!!).
*"well he doesn't just call me names but hits me also"
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/hes-lied-to-mehe-calls-me-names-and.html
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reader, pica +, writes (7 December 2006):
Didn't you tell us a few days ago that you regularly go on dates with other guys, though they tend not to call back? You were thinking of dating "a back guy" for "a change" despite having a long-term boyfriend. No wonder you can't believe him, given how you are behaving yourself. Sounds like you deserve each other.
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reader, Ivanna22 +, writes (6 December 2006):
Ivanna22 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Sometimes i'm worried that he might have cheated because I can't see him as much as I would like to, which it means that we don't have enough sex. I see him about twice a week and when we're together he's VERY horny. Sometimes I don't know if he would be able to resist to someone else when i'm not around. I don't know what goes through his mind when he's around other girls in school and i'm home (1hour and 15mins away)
I heard that the #1 reason why a guy would cheat on his gf is because his needs are not adressed on their relationship (SEX). So since we don't see each other enough, I thought he might be. I'm also concerned because I have NO idea what he's doing when he's college. The school he goes to is not known as a big party college. I heard that it's really hard to party on campus. Also, there are only about 1,500 students, so everybody knows each other. A few people that go to that school have told me they aren't happy to be there and say it's boring. So when my boyfriend tells me that he's in college just playing videogames with his guyfriends I kind of believe him, but then i'm not sure if he's telling me the truth because he NEVER answers his phone while he's there. He calls me back whenever he's back home. Isn't that strange?
He's living at home this year, so i'm happy with that because of the lack of trust. He never wanted to take me to his college to meet his friends before and I also find that very suspicious. He said it's gonna be very awkward and boring. Any sugestions? Thank you.
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reader, stina +, writes (6 December 2006):
Hi Ivanna,
It depends on the relationship and the person.
If you're worried that your partner has cheated, will cheat, etc you need to have a talk with him. Find out what's bothering you and how the both of you can work to eliminate these feelings.
If you dated a guy who did cheat on you, then you still need to have a talk and find out why it happened and what you can both do so it doesn't happen again.
Like Martini said, this is a really general question. I would have more of an answer to give you with more details, but there's too much to write about all sorts of possible scenarios. If you write more, maybe we can be of more help.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2006): The short question gets a short answer:
Yes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2006): Yes, not all people are the same. A person can be with someone forever and never cheat. He may look but certainly won't touch. I depends on the person. Some are serial cheater, both men and women who just can't resist. It just depends upon the person. One thing is for certain, if they are going to cheat they will and there is nothing you can do to stop them!
Take care
xx
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (6 December 2006):
 Hi there,
Yes it is possible provided that his needs are addressed, and that he also has some code that he lives by. It is not the length of time that passes to indicate a man's fidelity...it is based more on his personal character and his beleifs about infidelity that matter more.
Under the ight circumstances, everyone has a shot of being faithful, and everyone has a shot of cheating. Men or women.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, eddie +, writes (6 December 2006):
 Anything after 3 years and 119 days is questionable. Before that though, he probably won't cheat, unless it's at poker or scrabble.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2006): That is WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYY too general of a question to ask. The same can be asked if it's possible for a girl to be with a guy for 3 years and 4 months and not cheat on him...
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