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writes: I have a baby with my current boyfriend and have been together for 4 years... If feels likes we are going in a circle ( we are happy, then we fight, then we dont talk etc.) I am not happy, it feels too little too late... but there is an ex that wants me to move in with him he is so so nice and will support me until I get back on my feet but wants to be serious?? Any suggestions???
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reader, Dr. Reality Check  +, writes (21 November 2006):
 If your ex is sooo nice, why did you break up in the first place? Try to make it work with your current boyfriend, if only for your childs sake.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (21 November 2006):
 Hi There,
I would suggest that you put more effort in the relationship you are in right now with the father of your child. Let him know that if things continue going as they are, you will not want to stick it out.
4 years is a long time, and you do have a child together. I think you owe it to your kid to put the effort into the relationship you are currently in.
Every relationship has its ups and downs. There will be times of high stress and fustration, but that is part of being with ANYONE long term.
This new guy seems really nice and all, but give it another 4 years with him, I doubt you will be better off.
Good Luck.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, Tine +, writes (21 November 2006):
 take a second to think this through hun before making any mad decisions. just because things are going bad in your current relationship, it doesnt mean that they will stay bad forever. You need to work at relationships otherwise you'll end up opting out of it without realising that you didnt need to. If you and your current partner are having problems, talk to him and tell him that you are unhappy and work things through, you have a child together so you have something that is holding you both together.
Fair enough if you feel that you are constantly fighting with each other then try and find a way that you both come to a compromise, instead of disagreeing all the time.
And as for this ex wanting you to move in with him, are you having a relationship with him? Hun he is an ex of yours for a reason, i think you are fragile at the moment because you are goin gthrough a rough time, and i feel that this ex of yours is taking advantage because he knows ur vulnerable!
if you want to split with your current boyfriend i suggest that you dont move in with this ex, and try it on your own, just you and your child to see how things go...
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