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reader, Lytoo +, writes (6 December 2006):
I feel this way now towards my husband. I can't stand his incessant lying and I love him for other reasons, but the lying makes the marriage hard to endure. So I kinda feel like saying: I love you but it's over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2006): he loves you in a family wayand is or wants tohave sex with other women because he is a cranky guy who doesn't deserve u losing your marvelous time writing about him
go clubbing and have a stand with a genuinely sexy man and get spirits high
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (6 December 2006):
 Hi There,
Here are my three interpretations:
1-I really do love you, but for reasons that love can not address, it is not enough to ever make it work long term for us. AKA love is not enough to make this work
2-I love you, but not enough to want to be with you in a relationship anymore.
3-I do not love you anymore, but I am scared to tell you the truth and hurt your feelings, so I say this instead.
Does not matter which one you go with. They all indicate that you need to find someone else that can love you better than he.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2006): I view this a bit more realistically. Simply because, I have personal experience with this, from my own past dating history. When a guy says "I love you but it's over" it actually means ..."I don't love you and it's over" This guy simply lacked the tenacity, the courage and the balls to tell the truth . He was a coward and a wimp. If this was you who got told this or someone you know... realize that a girl will want carry on and find someone they love and someone who loves her back, someday. She will learn from this. But she only get to that point, once she totally understands that that the reality is-this man didn't love her in the way she deserved. Now is the time she should end all contact and muster up the strength to get busy and mourn, grieve, heal and recover from all this
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reader, tallstuff111 +, writes (6 December 2006):
well theres about a million different possibilities but I'd say hes gone from loving you as a couple to loving you as a friend.
Maybe he thinks its going nowhere and he doesnt want to waste his time, no matter how much he loves you.
The more pessimistic approach is that he doesnt love you but wanted to let you down gently.
depends on the situation I guess...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2006): I mean "Where as Company B may not nearly be as big, nor make as much money, thus giving you a lot less to grow on, but the people there are awesome to work with." - Company B... 8/
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2006): It could possibly mean that his emotions are with you but you two are incompatible for each other, and that he isn't willing to compromise his values and his desires for other things for this relationship.
Another way of seeing this is in the example of working for a company. Company A may just be the place for you to grow in and receive promotions and have the ability to strive for the best, however, there is a lot of inter-political strife, and you might hate this. Where as Company A may not nearly be as big, nor make as much money, thus giving you a lot less to grow on, but the people there are awesome to work with.
You know? Just trying to use a metaphor. 8]
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