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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes: I've being email keeping contact with this guy for a year and a half. we are friends, but our emails are friendly ones. He talks about his family and likes to update me of things going on with his life. We have share pics, jokes and thoughts. Something happened the other day, where I called him (phone) to congrat him on a promotion he won. Yeah, I realize it was wrong but I didn't felt like it was back then. He sounded nervous and very short so it was quick. The next day I thanked him for being so nice to me all this time and say good bye,he said no need to thanked him and he enjoys our friendship and communications, that he was very surprised I called and that we'll keep in touch.He's 35 in his 2nd marriage and I'm 31 (single of course). I do know his wife is much older than him so maybe that's why he found a kindred with me, although doesn't necessarily romantic. His wife doesn't know me and I met only him in a meeting, and our friendship started there. They're far away and if this guy wanted to have something shady some signs may have come out right?I don't think the phone call may be trouble cuz the communications haven't changed more than friendly.Is this what people consider an emotional affair and is it wrong to have a friendship with this guy only cuz he's married?
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reader, girlscout  +, writes (30 August 2008):
I had an affair with a married man. I met him at work .I was also married. He was very cute, sweet, gentle. Basically everything my husband was not. He made me forget I was married. I was lonely in my marriage. At first we flirted innocently, got to know each other, we were very similar likes and dislikes, he was also lonely in his marriage. Our affair lasted almost 3 months. During that time, he said he loved me and wanted to marry me. Then my husband found out about my affair. The first thing I did was called my lover up informing him. He was supportive. He was my rock. He told me he was also leaving his wife for me. I had hopes & dreams with my lover. We planned to have children, a dog & white picket fences ... the whole nine yeards. Then his wife started to cry and begged him to return to her. At first he refused, he put down a downpayment for an apartment wanting to leave her. My family and friends warned me that he'll never leave his wife, I refused to believe them.
But one day, (2 weeks ago ) after a counselling session, he called me up and told me that he was going to salvage his marriage. I was heartbroken. I loved him ( I still love him ) I couldn't understand how he suddenly changed his mind after all that we've been through. I kept on texting him, and e-mailing him. At first he was polite and responded, now he doesn't even respond to my emails and text messages. I know I should stop contacting him, but it's addictive. I need to know if he still loves me. Last night he called me up and we had cyber sex. HE told me he still loves me. But made no further attempts to be with me. I have since moved out of the country. I am in the middle of my divorce. I am trying to recover from what had happend. It will take time to forget him. Some part of me still hopes he'll come for me one day. I feel like a fool. Maybe my marriage wasn't the best, but I shouldn't have hurt my husband this way. He deserved better.
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reader, Angle79  +, writes (12 August 2008):
 You are developing a xxx relationship with a married man without realizing it my dear! -- You should stay away from him and start talking less to him if you really want to keep him as a friend. I dont think anyone (opposite sex) would want to spent alot of their times chatting, sharing if they have no feeling for each other.
Leave him alone!- He is not for you and start looking for a single man my dear. Best wishes!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (12 August 2008):
 Hmmm. Sounds like the beginning of a problem relationship in which you become the single mistress to a married man who wants extra sex on the side - in other words - Why don't you spend your time and effort cultivating relationships with available men?
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