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anonymous
writes:hi im not really sure if this is the right place to be asking this im 26 years old i have never been one for sleeping around but in my last sexual relationship a couple of years ago i couldnt get an erection i really liked this girl through my own fault of not really trying again this relationship ended i have been out with girls since but when it comes down to it i always make excuses im not sure if this is down to the fact that my penis isnt very big until errect and im embarrased i tried an oral jelly which didnt help i have only slept with five women but all have been quite long term i have no problem meeting girls and i consider myself to be good looking but this has now completly detroyed my confidence please help!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): Stop worrying! Speaking as a girl (woman), the size of a man's penis when not erect is irrelevant.
You describe yourself as a good-looking man and you have long-term relationships - both good things from a woman's perspective. Decent women look for the whole package, i.e. a loving, caring man who will be supportive and yes, make her feel wonderful between the sheets.
For women good sex is as much about what's going on in our heads and hearts, as the physical stuff. Men get very hung up about their size but great sex is about how you use your whole body, and how you make a woman feel mentally as well as physically.
Please take all this pressure off yourself and don't give your size another thought. Find a nice girl and treat her well, and everything else will just fall into place.
And remember, women have hang-ups about their bodies too!
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): I believe if someone really loves you, they're not going to look at that as a fault, because as a woman, to me that's nothing. It's the person inside that counts.
As long as you're capable of having a erection then i dont see the problem. If you think you've a medical problem then you must go see your GP immediately.
Keep dating till you find the right one...good luck
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male
reader, DoubleM  +, writes (11 August 2008):
 You should not be worrying about any of this, especially about "not being very big until erect." It is only the state of erection that counts, if at all. Just keep meeting the gals, ask them out and all will be well. Some will not and some will, and I have never thought much about those who did not, but I still cherish the memories of all those who did.
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